Need cleaning tips for five year old girls bedroom in desperate need or organiza

United States
December 26, 2006 7:34pm CST
Everything is coming out of the bedroom as we will be laying new floors and replacing woodwork...however she is a complete pack rat and knows if I throw something away. She becomes extremely upset....I am sitting in a small corner of her room and looking out over and it completely awful. I mean so much stuff you cannot even walk through the room. So i guess i was wondering if anyone had any cleaning tips and sorting tips to make the process a little less painful for me and her. Thanks!
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39 responses
• United States
27 Dec 06
Try to break this down into small pieces.Doing an entire bedroom at one time can be a little over-whelming. Talk with your daughter 1. Are there clothes that no longer fit or she no longer wears 2. What about toys or games that she has lost interest in. Explain to her that these are items that could be donated to others to make some room in her bedroom. Also help her arrange her stuff--plastic storage boxes are great for coloring books, crayons, markers, small toys, hair accessories, etc. Explain to her that she will be helping others by donating stuff and also she will be better organized and able to find her things a lot easier. Hope this helps to make this experience a good one for both of you.
• United States
27 Dec 06
Thank you for your response... I do agree that it will be a slow process. She did fill one box last night and said she didn't need the items in the box and that I could take them to work when I return.....I told her she did a great job. We plan on putting a double bed in her room and I will buy six huge totes so that I can put them neatly under her bed with things organized into them.
@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
27 Dec 06
That's a good one. I saw that on one of those super nanny shows. The kids have fun giving stuff away if they here stories about how it will help other little girls and boys :) If you just throw things away, they get mad. But if you do the donation thing and act like they will really be helping, they seem to gladly participate!
@pookie92 (1714)
• United States
27 Dec 06
sure, I will tell you what worked for me and my kids. I bought two toy buckets, with big rope handles, and I let the kids fill them with their favorite stuff. Anything more had to be thrown away. This will give your girl enough toys to play with, and she gets to pick what to keep and the clutter will be thrown away because of the limit on the amount of stuff she gets to keep. You have to put your foot down and make sure she sticks to the rules. This worked for me.
@lulylove (1561)
• Brazil
27 Dec 06
Our excellent idea. I go to try to make here in my house, but I do not believe that it goes to function, therefore always that these things happen here, never I obtain to keep the order.
• United States
27 Dec 06
One bucket full... you are awesome.... that isn't going to work here though....I am working on putting my foot down and make sure she sticks to the rules. DH and I have decided that she is to old to continue to make messes and not help pick them up so we have told her... if it is left out, it will go in the trash. I have not yet had to implement this rule.
@JBD189 (346)
• India
27 Dec 06
Five year olds ? and so dominating? I think, you need to take a decision for them instead of letting them have their way
• United States
27 Dec 06
Just wondering if you have kids or not. I remember before kids saying..."my kids will never act like that" and years later after I had kids thinking what did I do wrong.... he he cause they act just like the ones I said they wouldn't act like. Children are not for controlling...it is our jobs as parents to teach them what is appropriate...and pray that when they get older they remember what they were taught... there are things called consequences that I use with my 17 year old son....and with my 11 year old son and my 5 year old daughter......however i cannot control what they do nor would I want to.
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@mkirby624 (1599)
• United States
27 Dec 06
This is such a hard time for kids because almost all five year olds are greedy and very stingy with their things. I would try explaining to her that she is a very lucky little girl to have all those things, and even though the toys/clothes made her happy when she first got them..they no longer entertain her...BUT, wouldn't it be great to make another little girl as happy as she had been and try to introduce her to giving to charity and the less fortunate. In the end, you just have to take control and tell her she can't keep it all, end of story. If she wants to throw a hissy, she'll simply have to.
• United States
27 Dec 06
I love this response and you are simply right... I explain to my daughter that when she wants to cry and scream to simply leave the room and go to her bedroom. It is her body and she knows what she is feeling and if crying and screaming is going to help her feel better than she can go right ahead and do it. I do however explain to her that crying and screaming isn't going to make mommy or daddy change their mind but if it makes her feel better.. you go girl....
• United States
27 Dec 06
I usually go through the stuff in my 4 yr old's room when she is gone to her dad's. She usually realizes when something is missing too, but we discuss it and I explain to her why we have to get rid of some of the stuff. She typically gets over it shortly & moves on to the newer stuff. I feel if you don't teach them at this young age you are just setting the children up to be future pack rats.
• United States
27 Dec 06
I work while she is in school so I really have no time that she is not with me at home. She just stated that she will give me another box today also... I am cleaning out under her desk and have realized that that the pack rat syndrome didn't fall to far from the apple tree(I have so much junk under there)
@sanell (2114)
• United States
28 Dec 06
yes I would take all her stuff and sort through it, have her put some of it into storage bins and put into the garage or perhaps in a play room or somewhere where it is not cluttering her room. This will help her to slowly let go of the stuff as later on you can talk with her about just donating or selling off the stuff that she has kept in storage. I would tell her that she needs to not have so much stuff in her room and that she can rotate per season, so for example if she has a lot of decorative stuff perhaps she should think about when she wants to have it out, if she has christmas stuff then when christmas is over, put into a storage box or bin and put away, until next christmas and the like...have her learn how to SEASON out her room, so each quarter if she wants to change her room around, she can go into her storage stuff and know that she has to replace something for something.... If she puts something in storage maybe she should also have something she can trash too, like say "How many times do you actually use this?" how important is this one vs. this one... Have you watched a show called CLEAN SWEEP? that is a great show....they take everything out of a room, have the couple sort through it all by putting three areas, keep, garbage and garage sale...then when they have done sorting, they are told to do it again and to take at least HALF of what they had in the keep into the garage sale and trash area.... it is painful but it makes them realize that they have too much stuff and need to just get rid of it... Sometimes selling stuff can be fun for kids as it makes them feel like they are making their OWN MONEY and she can use it for LOL getting more stuff or at least new stuff.... anyway, I do that with my whole house all the time, it is not fun and it is hard work but I try to do what I can and teach my kids the same thing, if I can just get my husband to let go of some of his thing that would be a lot helpful
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
28 Dec 06
First of all YOU'RE the parent not her. Next she has to face reality sometime, have her choose her favorites, if she doesn't have any make her choose between 1 of two and so on. Discard outgrown or worn out things and have her make a box to give to a child who has need or less fortunate than she is. Or you might try and see if she want's to have a yard sale and get some money for her things that she can spend on something else special.
• Philippines
27 Dec 06
this wont work without her... sorting would be the best way to go, but she has to identify the things that she wants to be put together and work from there, by sorting out her things you will be able to clean up the room. work with her and ask her opinion, drawers or box, everything should have a place and try to keep it organize will always be up to her...
@Crostini (321)
27 Dec 06
chuck all her stuff out of a window and hey presto.
• United States
27 Dec 06
I have a 4 year old daughter, and her room sounds about the same as yours. I have found that if you put shelves on the walls, that works great for knick knacks. Toys R Us also sells the stuffed animal nets that hang in the corners of the room. They get a majority of stuffed toys off of the floor.
@mansha (6301)
• India
27 Dec 06
I saw that you have many wonderful suggestions here. One more thing you can do is allot stars to her for every box she throws away and when she has around ten just give her something that she likes. make a wall for stars and stick them there. Its a good habit to inculcate and you can get hr to do many things if you reward her on number of stars.
@ilvrshn (463)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I found some of the closet organzers in Home Depot. I am not sure where you are located but any store that deals with home improvement or home decor, you can find some neat ideas for kids room. The painting and wallpaper. Go to a furniture store and get her a bunkbed set that has everything in one, ie, computer desk, dresser drawers, etc.
• India
27 Dec 06
Break the whole of task into any smaller manageble tasks and you will be able to finish of them. Don't look at whole room it will make you sick.
• United States
27 Dec 06
more space = more fun
@gewcew23 (8011)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I think storage boxes with pictures or words if she can read simple words on them will help her to sort and clean her own room. Also make a game out of it with her tell her that the things that she no longer wears or plays with goes in this box and the others go in the boxes with the pictures or words on them. Also tell her that she would be helping other boys and girls who do not have toys or clothes. Also another idea is to let her make up gift bags of clothes and toys to take to a local shelter or children's home and let her go with you to take them to them. I think that she is old enough to learn this and I think she will like the idea. My friend's daughter did, and she would throw major tantrums whenever my friend tried to get rid of anything.
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Yeah, set a firm boundary and be her parent. Gather up the stuff she rarely plays with. next gather up the stuff she has outgrown. Then tell her you are taking it to the Salvation Army or to a women's shelter. Tell her she will be helping other kids who are not as fortunate as her. When she starts to cry, keep doing what you are doing. Load her in the car and then take her to the shelter or Salvation Army, mission, church, whatever and let her see where it's going. This will teach her to be selfless and to do good deeds. You are the parent. Not her.
@nancygibson (3738)
• France
27 Dec 06
Could you persuade her that it would be a good idea to parcel up some old toys and books and clothes for children less fortunate than herself? Many children have a very active social consience once the idea is put to them, and maybe she would enjoy knowing that thinsg she really doesnt need any more have helped another little child somewhere?
@patootie (3593)
27 Dec 06
Get lots of storage bins .. and pile everything in there ... get her help to sort out some things for other less fortunate than her .. and maybe let her help you take it to the charity shop whatever ... Outgrown clothes need to be passed on to someone who could use them ... and without sounding rude .. flippin' stop buying her stuff ... if you didn't keep buying her things they wouldn't be stacked up all over her bedroom ... Only buy what she really needs .. not just what she cries for ..
@ronnique (35)
• United States
27 Dec 06
SOME PEOPLE HAS ATENDENCY TO KEEP EVERYTHING EVEN CHILDREN IT SEEMS THAT YOU HELP HER TO CON'T TO DO THIS FOR FIVE YEARS BY NOT SETTING DOWN SONE TYPE GUIDELINES FOR HER AS HOW TO CLEAN HER ROOM AND WHY SHE SHOULD DO SO. i HAD FIVE CHILDREN ONE BOY AND FOUR GIRLS AND I TAUGHT THEM EARLY THAT CLEANESS WAS NEXT TO GODLINESS AND FILTH WAS A HEALTH HARZARD TO US ALL. THEN I MADE SURE THAT ONCE A MONTH WE WE WENT THROUGH THEIR CLOSETS AND DISCARDS THINGS THEY COULD NO LONGER WEAR OR USE. WE GAVE THOSE ITEMS TO THE SALVATION ARMY OR GOODWILL FOR SOME LESS FORTUNEATE TO HAVE.TRY THIS AND TELL HER SHE IS HELPING SOME ONE WHO REALLY NEEDS SOME OF HER UNUSED ITEMS
@armywifey (883)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Start on one side of the room and work you way to the other side. I have the same problem as you because i have 2 girls in a small room 7 and 5, and they have more toys than they know what to do with. I bought a coupole of thise under the bed storage boxes and use them to store the toys that they rarely play with. I also got a big trash bag and and but the toys they haven't played with in a long time in it and stored them in the garage. That way if they realize something is missing I can got get it. I plan to leave it there for a month and if nothing is said I will take it to goodwill.