What makes a man want to get married?

United States
December 26, 2006 11:27pm CST
In today's world, the view of marriage is so skewed and different than 100 years ago, that I truly wonder why people get married at all anymore. As a christian female, I have my reasons, but what makes a man want to get married? Why did any of you get married?
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@Ashida (1370)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I can't speak for all men, but I married my wife because I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Of course, we could have done that without getting married. But there's a power in that commitment and in the ritual of getting married -- a public statement and a vow that stand for something that is real, despite what the world may say. By marrying my wife, I wanted the world to know that this is the woman for me. I think marriage is what you make of it. If you believe it to be sacred, it will be so.
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• United States
28 Dec 06
So there is something about saying something to the public. Do you think there's an importance in "giving her your name" so to speak? Without sounding too barbaric, is there something in your make up as a man that is rewarding about letting the world know that this is the person I'm giving my name to?
@Ashida (1370)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I hadn't thought about that, but there may be something to that. Like I'm giving you this name that was given to me by my father and his father before him and the like. It didn't matter to me. My wife could have kept her maiden name if she wanted to. What about from a woman's point of view? Is there something, a sense of belonging perhaps, in taking a man's name?
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• United States
29 Dec 06
I'll have to admit, it is something that has been important to me, and it has only been the past few years when I've realized it. There IS something special in it for me, because a lot of my life (not trying to feed anyone sob stories) the men in my life didn't seem to want to have anything to do with me. My brothers were a lot older and resented me and my father either worked at night or drove a truck for weeks at a time. And so I always struggled with issues of men accepting me - so to me for a long time, having a man bestow his name on me, so to speak, was the ultimate honor, because I always wondered if I'd be "worthy" enough of that honor. Now, although my view of changing my name hasn't really changed, I do realize that my worth and value aren't in what a man thinks of me - and it was only then that I met the guy I've been dating - and we plan on getting married in the distant future. So I think it has personal implications...because I know women who have been badly abused by men either physically or verbally, and they don't want to have anything to do with taking on a man's name.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
27 Dec 06
my boyfriend is 30 years old. and i am 28. before we met, we never believed in marriage anymore. we both went through so much painful experiences. we're in this relationship for 8 months now. and we love each other so much. and we're planning to get married, too. i think when a man meets a woman who is worth of him time, love, effort and support, he will no longer want that woman to be out of his life and he wants to marry that woman.
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• United States
27 Dec 06
I've always felt that way, too...that if a man loved you enough, eventually he want to make you his wife and stuff, too. My current boyfriend and I will have dated for a year in January (I'm 29 and he's 27). I know that he has witnessed some extremely bad marriages in his own family, and I wonder if that's part of the reason he doesn't want to get married yet? I would never push him...don't want to push him, but I constantly wonder what makes that switch in a man's mind? Thanks for the comments :). SB
• United States
29 Dec 06
My father-in-law says "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!" *laughing* For us it was becuase 1-there were things physically I would not share with a man I wasn't married to 2-We wanted to have a family and children and provide a proper environment for them 3-Marriage is suppoed to be a reflection of Christ's relationship with the church....it is hard to portray that if you accept cultures views of "co-habitation". *wry grin*
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• United States
27 Dec 06
There really is no point...only to save money on taxes and other such things lol. Also when you marry a person you are saying you will love them forever.
• United States
27 Dec 06
*grin* Sometimes I DO wonder if there's as point! Just out of curiosity, don't you get penalized in your taxes when you first get married? Seems like my brother went through that when he and his wife first got hitched...
@pr4pyaar (307)
• India
29 Jan 07
you would always need a person to share everything you like to, to be able to hear what ever u want to anytime, to express your feelings, etc etc... and moreover you would like to do this woth a person you like the most... and hence u marry a person u like, in sense you like to spend your life with him/her