Have you ever been extridited after giving Birth?
@everlastin_star (61)
United States
December 27, 2006 12:52am CST
I was recently extridited to California 5 Days after the birth of my son (c-section). My Crime depriving custody and visitation on my 2 year old daughter. The DA said that I was mean to him so he set my bail at 750,000 dollars. I spent a month in jail and then had to plead in order to get back to my kids. My Ex boyfriend was given custody of my daughter the twist he is not on her birth certificate, she doesn't share his last name and she never met him until the police took her from my home. ????....
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@sunrisekn (1466)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I've never been extridited, however, I have had a c-section, and I can't imagine moving after the surgery. I hope that everything is working out for you. Best of luck.
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@vmoore709 (1101)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I think you need to get a really good lawyer.
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@chiquita1977 (1706)
• United States
28 Dec 06
wow!that is awful you should not of had to go threw that especially since all you did was deprive visations you must of had your reasons.I do not know how they can get away with doing something like this especially right after you gave birth its not like you murdered or hurt your kids.its not right to place a child with someone they do not even know or never even met.you must of had your reasons.my heart goes out to you.he should of never got custody he is not on the birth certificate.he should of had to prove paternity first.
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@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
28 Dec 06
im sorry but i think your story is a total crock,First off, becauae you were MEAN the DA cant give you a set bail or almost a million dollars, and i looked into the law in California,and My friend is also a lawyer is cali, and he said there is absolutely no freakin way that your boyfriend could have any custody of your daughter, especially if his name isnt on the birht certificate, and last name.And theres no way he had visitation or custody of her in the first place because heloo u said yourself she nebver saw him..so why on earth would they take her from you and put u in jail?? SHE HASNT EVER SEEN HIM?? AND SHES 2 YRS OLD??this whole story is crap..
@everlastin_star (61)
• United States
29 Dec 06
like i said before I wish it was crap at least then I would wake up in indiana with both my kids.
@briennekb (610)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Your ex wouldn't have been given custody of your daughter if there wasn't a good reason for it. Just because your ex may not be the biological father, that doesn't mean the child is not better off with him. If he is not the father, he could easily become a legal guardian. Child services would never take your kids away if they didn't have a darn good reason to. Also, if your ex isn't on the birth certificate, that doesn't mean that it had never been spoken that he is the father. I doubt that child services would just give your kids away to someone who has nothing to do with the child in one form or another.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
27 Dec 06
Irfan - a few lines down copied and pasted your reply =( I reported him
@everlastin_star (61)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Children services was never involved in this case if they had been they would have realized the emotional damage that taking her away from the only parent she knows would do to her. My ex is the sperm doner but after giving me 400.00 dollars to "get rid of it" he wanted nothing more to do with her. She was the only proof that he had commited statutory rape. His reason now for wanting her to get even with me for getting married.
@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
27 Dec 06
There has to be more to this story, then you are telling. I don't see how the police can come and just take your child from your home. I don't see how you can be extridited to a place after a major surgery. Something is not right here.
@everlastin_star (61)
• United States
27 Dec 06
My son was born October 15th 2006. I had no word my daughter was being taken. My husband and my parents contacted lawyers there was nothing we could do California had released custudy of my daughter to a biological stranger
@everlastin_star (61)
• United States
27 Dec 06
ask any question the case doesn't add up nut the story is true I'm living it. :)
@whitefeahter1956 (70)
• United States
27 Dec 06
The law is that way they'll do any thing they can to make you stuffer and they don't care....i lost my job and my home because i didn't know i had a warrent out for my arrest i guess i didn't do something they asked when i got my last ticket but i had to spend 60 days in jail and i lost everything...they don't care it was a good thing i wasn't in your shoes becuase my kids would have no where to go....but thank god yours did and begreatful you have them and your baby look at what you have not what you don't have that is in the past remember it's what you do know that counts...love your kids and yourself do it all for you family be thankful and i'm sorry that happen to you....
@nhtpscd (1416)
• Australia
27 Dec 06
I too am having trouble following this story. I have been involved with the family law courts on and of for four years. Now. Did the father have the paternity confirmed? Sharing of the last name means nothing if paternity is proven. Did he try to see her before you changed states? Were you deliberately trying to exclude him?
@mansha (6298)
• India
27 Dec 06
How did you encounter DA and for what reasons were you mean or supposedly mean to him. I cant see any reason here. Only thing I can sympathise with is that you had to suffer pain of sepration from a baby so small. It must be heart breaking experience for you. My heart goes out for your kid, to be deprived of mother's feed when its required most. I hope your BF took good care of him.
@everlastin_star (61)
• United States
29 Dec 06
No he wanted nothing to do with my daughter, he never came to see her, and I didn't have a car for a long time so it wasn't like with a baby I wasn't at home most of the time. and no paternity was not established before all of this took place, I also never told anyone he was definatly the father because he said he would go to jail for statutory rape, I didn't want that to happen to him so there it is...
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
27 Dec 06
When you were arrested, someone had to take the kid or she would have gone into foster care. Would you want that? The fact you were extridited five days after birth tells me this was a serious crime. Your bail was set so high because of something more serious than being mean. No judge would agree to that bail on such frivolous grounds.
@arleneverde (9)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Actually, if there was a court date to determine custody and she did not show up it is entirely possible that the court would grant custody based on that alone. If he won custody that way and then she did not relinquish the child to him she would be in violation of a court order which can get you extradited.
Story sounds hinky, but it could have happened that way. I've been involved in the foster care system for a long time and I've seen the state of California do some crazy things.
@SK401001 (934)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I agree with the others that their must be more to this story. What is the exact wording on your warrent? If the bail is $750,000 that is a red flag for me that something more is going on. What is the history, when you say "The DA said that I was mean to him" if I am reading this right he was just born, what did you do to him??? I don't think your Ex Boyfriend got custody, he may have been a temporary foster care which I highly doubt, the first thing in the courts choice would have been a living relative, if no one was available. the next option would be a warden of the state. your leaving a lot of the importent information out, and the information worries me of what really happend.
@jen20619 (1300)
• Ireland
27 Dec 06
I think this is a very sad situation.All you wanted to do was visit your 2 year old daughter.Thankfuly this kind of thing has not happened to me.They should be out catching the real criminals.I hope you and your family live a happy and fulfilling life.
