Why are lesbians so crazy?

@Melizzy (1381)
United States
December 27, 2006 5:48pm CST
All of my ex-girlfriends have turned out to be crazy. Emotionally distant, selfish, bad lovers and just down right miserable people. Aren't there any happy, joyous lesbians? Lesbians who want children and lesbians who are not afraid to love? Heck, I'd even take one looking to bring a U-Haul or other moving truck on our second date at this point. Just as long as she was on any depression meds or anything else she might need to be productive and healthy. I might even consider using an online dating service.
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@jricbt (1456)
• Brazil
28 Dec 06
There are happy, joyous lesbians. It is sad that you had to suffer these bad experiences, but I hope you will find someone better, that fits well in your life.
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@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Thank you. Usually my relationships find me. Next time, I want to be the one who does the picking.
@WebMann (4734)
• Canada
28 Dec 06
Let me start by saying I am not a lesbian. :) I have lesbian friends and from what I can see they have struggled with identity issues most of their life. Hiding things from those around them until the day they declared they were lesbian. I believe that hiding and struggling with who they are makes for very mixed emotions and even trust issues making relationships difficult.
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@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
It is very difficult to be yourself when nobody knows the truth about who or how you are. Trust is a huge issue and then you can have betrayal and that adds insult to injury. My latest ex has not told her mother and she is 41. Her sister told her, "Mom knows and she's not ok with it." Everybody in her life knows except her mother. Well, she knows, but not because they've ever talked about it.
• United States
28 Dec 06
It's not just lesbians. Hell, I wish it was. Would havemade dating alot easier for me before I got married. But, I saw in a later post that you said you date men also, so you know they're just as crazy as women. The only advice I have is something an ex-boyfriend told me. After many bad relationships I was very suspicious of anyone new. I didn't trust them and made it pretty clear from the beginning. One day he said to me, basically, that you can't judge the new person on what the old one did. You never know, the next one might be Mr Right (or Ms Right). Funny thing is, he was right. The next guy was "Mr Right" and we've been together for 8 years and married for 6. All I can say is, for every crazy lesbian you meet, chalk it up to a learning experience. The next one may be "the one" or may be just another learning experience. But, if you never date the bad apples, you won't appreciate the right one as much.
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@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Yeah, I keep thinking that with all this learning I'm doing, I'll be the next Albert Einstein!
• United States
28 Dec 06
Im not a lesbian, but I had a encounter with a friend who was, she was emotional, very high strung, and miserable alot of the time. People used to comment that it was because she wasnt living "right". I'm sure thats not why, but society is very down on things like that. I hope you find love, or a nice meaningful relationship. *online sites for dating is risky, be careful*
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@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Thanks you for the kind words and encouragement. If I decide to go the way of online gay dating or any online dating, I will use extreme care. I watch a lot of true crime. A meaningful relationship would be nice.
@aizavel (558)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
I think most people have their crazy side, Lesbians might had been unstable because of the pressure aournd them, you know how society looks them right? they feel very in need of someone's attention because thye are always looked at by people that they are scared, women who are afarid of commitments haha i can probably say i am one of them, whwnever a guy try to come and ask me to be his girl friend i really become cold and well the get freezed up and they give-up.. I just think that's its not yet the right time or else i might not take that person seriously, you know there are right time for things... hey i feel bad about being cold but it's my way of escaping a stuation like that .. :0)
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@solmari (123)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I think some of us are luckier than others, in my experience i have encountered crazy lesbians but i never let that discourage me. My experience with Men has been bad and i mean bad that i can't look at then in any romantic sense what so ever. I do great with the Ladies so its where i stayed. Hey Melizzy we all get a little crazy at time but we all have the option to rectify right?
• United States
28 Dec 06
I think that this problem is not exclusive with lesbians.
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• Canada
28 Dec 06
I have never known a lesbian. And so I have no idea how they behave and all. But the fact that you know through your experience that lesbians are crazy is downright throwing insults upon the lesbians. I love lesbians, because they are enjoying themselves. I think it's natural for them to get attracted among themselves. I would love to try to do with two girls some day, hopefully with lesbians. Would be fun trying threesome!
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Uh, yeah. I'll get back to you on that. My idea of a 3-some is me and two guys, Funny, most guys aren't down with that.
@Pigglies (9340)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I think you'd need bisexuals for that... lesbians aren't going to want you in the picture. As for me, one woman is enough... I couldn't handle two! I think I told my girlfriend that once, "Baby, I'm not cheating on you because I can't handle more than one woman!"
@clownfish (3279)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Hi! Pigglies, that reminds me of what my hubby and his friend say. His friend's wife was always accusing him of cheating on her, and he would always say, "Why would I want another headache?" haha
• United States
28 Dec 06
We ddo exsist. My partner and I just celebrated 11 years. We have a son, house and car. And we used to have the pets as well. We lost all 3 this year. Hang in there. It always shows up when you aren't looking for it. I know that is a cliche, but it is so true.
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Honey, that's how I found my last one. I was six weeks post brain surgery and stumbled into her. I can always blame it on the surgery I guess!
• United States
28 Dec 06
that works:)
@clownfish (3279)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Hi! Sounds like my luck when I was dating! I was a "bum magnet" until I fortunately met my hubby! There are a lot of messed up people in the world. I work for a dating website, so if you do end up deciding to join one, send me a private message and I'll give you the name privately. :-)
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I just may do that. What the heck could it hurt?
@Pigglies (9340)
• United States
28 Dec 06
It could be worse... my ex-fling was the "town drunk" magnet... she brought every town drunk to the next town with her!
• United States
29 Dec 06
Hi, I read your discussion. I am a lesbian in a relationship. I have had problems finding lesbian friends that are normal. I get so frustrated by this. Most of the women I have had experience with online have all been basically the same. I sometimes find myself more attracted to straight women than lesbians. I've read that gay men and lesbians often are depressed. I wonder if it's because they were in the closet too long and didn't live their life like they wanted to. I can see that being a cause of depression. But that's just my opinion. Anyway, I hope you find what you're looking for.
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Of course you are a lesbian in a relationship. All of the good ones are! All of the sane ones are. I'd rather be alone and sane than with somebody who was a little unbalanced.
@taruha (561)
• United States
28 Dec 06
It appears to be aseer coincidence that you have come across lesbians who were crazy.I myself have met many good natured lesbians who enjoy the love tremendously and want babies also through marraige.that does mean that they are bisexuals.but, i have come across strict lesbians also who are enjoying the life normally without any problem.would you agree?
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Well, if I could find one sane, stable lesbian, that would really make me happy and make my day.
@vipul20044 (5800)
• India
28 Dec 06
Well its most likely that they are pretty scared that they might be in love and might face the real responsibilities
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I completely think that is what happened with the last one. Oh gosh, she felt an emotion and then what was she to do? Run!
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
I dont know why lebians are going crazy!...Maybe they just need lot of attentions from the people around them!...They want to be recognized by other people and see them of who they really are!...
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I saw my ex for who she was...a crazy lesbian! She was cold and calculating and devoid of any real human emotion.
• Indonesia
28 Dec 06
i`m not a lesbian, so i`m not crazy, LOL
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Being crazy isn't just for lesbians. I've dated my share of crazy men as well!
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
not all lesbians are like that... a had a lots of friend who are lesbians but not all of them..and i am not also like that. maybe they love thier girlfriend so much...
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
You are right. Not all lesbians are crazy, just a lot of them! I think some just have behavioral issues and need some really good medicine to help them.
@mbs730 (2155)
• Canada
28 Dec 06
That is a stereotypical comment! Not ALL lesbians are crazy!
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
How many have you dated? Are you a lesbian and if so, are you single?
@dmanuel (411)
28 Dec 06
maybe they are afraid of falling and i mean really falling in love. sometimes if we get hurt we tend to release a lot fo negative energy and try to get back at other people.
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
28 Dec 06
That was the problem with my last ex. She felt, she fell and then she fled. We share the same energy. Weird I know, but I know when she is thinking about me, etc. Yet, she won't talk to me.
@Solja420 (2508)
• United States
28 Dec 06
when it comes to lesbians i say THE CRAZYER THE BETTER!!!
• United States
28 Dec 06
homosexual in general are smart ,intelligent and social successuful to my knowledge
• India
28 Dec 06
hey the only reason behind is their mental instability......they dont trust people........they feel unsecured in the society and cant find the right way to follow