If you knew your child would be born gay, would you have an abortion?

@Pigglies (9339)
United States
December 27, 2006 10:44pm CST
We were talking about this at work today. Some people are very against homosexuality and didn't want gay children. A couple people actually said they'd have an abortion rather than have the gay child. However, if their child was going to be born without a leg, they'd keep it! If you knew your child would be born gay, would you have an abortion or keep the child? Why or why not? And you can't say that people aren't born gay, for this topic, people ARE born gay, that's not the issue. I would absolutely keep the child. I'm a lesbian and wouldn't be disappointed in my child no matter what sexuality they were. Even if they were transgendered, I'd be worried for them, but hey, I don't think they'd wish to be dead for it. I bet my parents would have chosen abortion if they could have known. They hate homosexuals with a passion. But I'm glad they didn't abort me. As much as I hated my teenage years, I am happy now that I am out to myself, pretty much all of my friends, and even at work.
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@sunshinecup (7880)
28 Dec 06
Well you can't throw a rock without hitting an idiot. People like your friends just need to be pittied for being so stupid. Bless their hearts. I'm sorry you have parents and friends like this. Things are sometimes unfair in life. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders, so keep that great attitude up. I wouldn't have an abortion for that reason, no. I have two little girls, if they BOTH came to me one day and said they were gay, I'd love them the same. End of story.
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@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
28 Dec 06
This thread is NOT about a cure. This is a hypothetical question. If there wasn't a cure, and you knew for sure your child would be gay, would you keep the child or abort?
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I am Pro Choice HOWEVER only with reason and I am HIGHLY against homophobic bullshyt and being homophobic is no reason to abort...just like using abortion as constant b.c isnt a valid reason to abort
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@amafrias (456)
• United States
28 Dec 06
sndcain, I don't think this discussion was meant to be about the right to abort or not, but your reasons for it. I am somewhat pro choice if your not abusing it like birth control, but to use it to chose what type of child you have, boy, girl, gay, straight, is unbelievable to me.
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@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
17 Mar 07
there so many varieties of people in this world and I think that nobody has the right to say which is right or wrong. We all have our differences and so long as we respect each other then there is room for all of us in this world of ours.
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@conniej14 (248)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I am straight and i would never kill a child for any reason.
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@imadriscoll (2230)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Honestly the gay lifestyle confuses me and I would never choose that life for my child. But, I would always choose life. I have three children now and if one day they would say to me that they were gay, I certainly wouldn't kill them! So why would I kill them when they were in my womb. Did your co-workers give an explanation for why they would abort the baby? For instance because the child might have a hard life or because they would be ashamed to parent a gay child...? I would also say that I'm sorry for the reaction of your parents.
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@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I guess when they're in your womb, it's still legal to kill them and they're not considered living until born. One said they wouldn't want such a life for their child, another said they couldn't love the child and didn't want them to have a parent that didn't love them. That'd probably be the same reason my parents would have picked, that they couldn't love a gay child.
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• United States
28 Dec 06
Legal or not, gay or straight, I would never kill my child. I was asking what their reasons were because if they were saying that they are Christians and it goes against their beliefs to live a homosexual lifestyle then it would also go against their beliefs to have an abortion. I would also note that I'm a Christian and some of my favorite, most loved people are homosexual.
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• United States
17 Mar 07
wow. i hope those people would realize they are ignorant people to begin with and shouldnt even have kids. Imagine if their kid was brown eyed and they wanted a blue eyed kid...they probably wouldnt love it as much. You should love your kids unconditionally...thats what a good parent and good adult does.
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@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I bet there are people out there who would abort a brown eyed kid. I personally hate light colored eyes often and wish I had dark brown eyes. I don't care how they look, I just want better vision and less light sensitive eyes.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 07
I personally would not, granting that it could be knwon while still in the womb. Re abortion, I started a topic entitled The Bible on Birth Control which may include abortion. Those interested are invited to go to my Profile and open such topic. I have also started a topic entitled What the Bible says on Gays, open it also if you care to know. May God bless you. SEN
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
2 Jan 07
Thanks for commenting! After reading your threads, I've been kinda curious about what you'd say on the issue.
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@apostrofy (661)
• Romania
28 Dec 06
lol u can't give birth to a gay child. he becomes gay coz of his life experiences. i never heard of a "gay gena" in our dna, and even if that would be possible, as a parent u should ask god that u'r baby would be born healthy and enjoy a happy life
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@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
28 Dec 06
This is a hypothetical question, and in this question, you can be born gay and doctors will let you know after amniocyntesis or whatever. :) You have to use the "true" statements in the hypothetical question or it would have way too many issues to debate.
@mansha (6301)
• India
28 Dec 06
I dont think you can find out if the child is gay or not at birth so its a long shot. well in case there ws a way I will still love the child as much. Its not something sanyone can dictate but i amy feel hurt as anyone with different kids may feel , but definately I wll let him follow his calling. I can not write his destiny for him.
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@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
28 Dec 06
At this time, I'm pretty sure you can't even have any idea if they are or not. So this is strictly a hypothetical question. Why would people with kids who are different have to feel hurt? Technically, everyone is different. Your child will be unique. Even identical twins.
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@sunsham68 (1378)
• India
28 Dec 06
This topic is very sensitive to me cos I struggled a whole year to help a homosexual be accepted and fit into my office and in the end he did something totally outrageous. I am at the moment totally upset about that and cannot give anything but a biased opinion. But let me try real hard...OK. Whatever sexuality one has, its important that the rules that apply for anyone else applies to them too - decency and moderation in public, mutual attraction between both parties - its very often that homosexuals hit on straight people and that is very uncomfortable (that's what this guy did too)and then, honesty and loyalty. As long as its done that way, everyone can accept this better, cos it is a huge deal for most people to accept something different anyway and if gay people keep behaving outrageously, even obnoxiously, it doesn't help. About what I would do if I knew my child were to be that way? I have vowed never to hurt any child in my womb and I pray to God if ever I am faced with something like this that I will have to courage to still not take a life.
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
1 Jan 07
I don't think it's all the often that gay guys hit on straight guys. That could lead to a trip to the hospital. I think your co-worker is not the norm.
@Aali311 (6126)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I would not abort my baby, it doesn't matter what they turn out to be, they are my children and I would not get rid of them for selfish reasons. That's not what a parent is about and alot of people fail to realize that.
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@Tripod (105)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
Interesting topic. My answer is No, I would never get an abortion wether or not the consequence was having a ga y son/daughter. I have a straight-sister-gone-lesbia n and I don't love her any less, it just took some time to adjust to her new "criteria". Aside from that, all people, gay or straight, are still humans that thrive the way most others do. So it's all reciprocal in my view of things. I think it's a form of discrimination to dislike people, homosexua l or hetero, of color or without, of religious beliefs or without. Predominantly I just think people have to grow up and engage themselves out of the box a little. You know? Allow themselves to adapt to things. Just IMO.
• Estonia
17 Mar 07
No I wouldn't have abortion. I would have that child no matter what! I mean this child would be mine and my love would not be any different, because of my child's sexuality. My parents maybe would have abortion when something like this should happen to them, but actually I can't be 100% sure. i know they love me, no matter what I do. And if my child would be gay then I would be there for him, because I know he would need it, cause we are living in quite cruel world.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
i would never have an abortion if i knew i was having a gay child. i think that's mean and frankly i think it's stupid. i don't understand what the big deal with gay people is. i think gay people have enough of a hard time dealing with strangers judging and disaproving them that they need a family that will still suport them. if this were possible to tell i'd hope to have all of those children born to me instead of people who would kill them or disown them, they have just as much of a right to be born in this world and have a good life.
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@marryann (45)
• Canada
2 Jan 07
All I have to say on this is that it is sad that we even have to have a discussion about this. Your child is your flesh and blood to love and cherish.
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• United States
2 Jan 07
That has to be one of the most horrible reasons for abortion I've heard.
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@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
1 Jan 07
I think your co-workers will have children, and at least one will be gay. Karma
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@birthlady (5613)
• United States
1 Jan 07
I would keep the child and I don't care if the child would be gay. I would love my child no matter what, being gay isn't the end of the world to me!
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
nah...it doesn't matter to me...he's still my son...abortion is the very last thing i will do...
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• Romania
28 Dec 06
absolutly not.I keep the baybe..good that he is healty that is important... is my baybe and i love him the way that he is, it doesn't mather what he is...he is my child.How can i kill him becouse a thinck who doesn't matter at all.I'm sorry of what you say'd about you'r parents' i really and i wish you all the loock in the world.Tacke kare of you.
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• United States
28 Dec 06
I would NEVER have an abortion just because my child was gay! That is ridiculous! Your friends are really stupid! And, I feel sorry for any children that they DO have! God save those children!
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