Are Adoptee's Entitled to Know Who Their Biological Family Is?

United States
December 27, 2006 11:40pm CST
I am an adoptee who found my biological family 10 years ago. I found my biological maternal grandparents. They have refused to give me access to my biological mother, stating that she couldn't handle it. I seem to be the family secret and none of my bio mother's siblings seems to know anything about me. What do you think?
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@lilaclady (28238)
• Australia
28 Dec 06
Yes I think it is very important, from one who spent years doing a family tree it is so important for the truth to be out there, every person has the right to know their family line for future generations.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
28 Dec 06
Tough call..... I think that it all comes down to the wishes of the biological parents of the child. Giving up a child for adoption in most cases would be an extremely traumatic experience for the biological parent and some may wish to maintain denial. Not fair on the adoptee though, I agree. The least your biological grandparents could do is maybe pass on a letter or something? Give your bio mother the chance to decide for herself rather than have others decide for her?
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
22 Mar 07
They can't stop you from contacting your birth mother if that's what you want to do. But you do need to keep her feelinss into consideration too. Send her a letter and tell her if she wants no contact that is ok with you but that you would be thrilled to have that chance to get to know her. She may not answer right away. It's a big shock and all the emotions from the past will come up. So give her time. But just because your maternal grandparents don't want you to contact her doesn't mean that you can't.