Gaining friends on myLot

@Bev1986 (1428)
United States
December 28, 2006 9:09am CST
Okay, how do you all get friends on myLot? Do you just click on random people's ID's and ask them to be your friend? Or do you really know these people? I only have one friend so far and she initiated it. I guess I'm a bit shy and hate to ask people to be my friend! lol! Maybe I should check out the interests and request people to be my friends who have my same interests? Would that be appropriate?
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@ChewySpree (1834)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I agree with you completely - you should start with the interests. Add your own interests and see who might have started discussions in those interests, and then you can find others with similar interests. I think that's the best way to do it.
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I agree also that interests are a great place to start. If you are interested in the same things, then you will have more to talk about with those people. :)
@Bev1986 (1428)
• United States
29 Dec 06
PLEASE! Everyone, I hope you read this message!!! Please stop asking me to be your friend if we have nothing in common.... I don't mean to be mean, but I've been bombarded with request now! lol! Guess that's what I wanted but I now have 20 or more requests every time I log in! I am only approving the ones who share my interests... so if you go to my page and we have nothing in common, please don't send me a request... Thanks!
@thumb_up (80)
• China
29 Dec 06
before i like bo chat ,icq .msn .qq ....and so many chatting programme i have install in my pc.and after shcool i can find a lot friends on these chatting programme.of course at that time . i felt very happy . we can find a lot topics to talke wiht my friends all over the world . but till now . i have been unfamiliar with them .now i have no time to chat with them . so i dislike change . i want to find myselfe like the one used to be ..
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@andygogo (1580)
• China
29 Dec 06
Yes, it;s a very interesting phenomenon in China. Many young male foreign friends keep chasing Chinese girls. Maybe because in there mind the girl from the east are very beautiful. On the contrary, more and more young female foreign friends are having a difficult time to choose their Mr. Right. Why don't they have a try and chase our Chinese boys? That's quite unfair, is it because we are not handsome enough?
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@conniej14 (248)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I am new also and I would like to be your friend.
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@kgwat70 (13398)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I think the best way to make friends is through your interests but I have made friends through other discussions as well. It just happened that me and a lot of other people had similar thoughts about other subjects. If you do more replying to peoples topics, the more friends you could possibly make.
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@irisheyes (4375)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I'm new here too and kind of struggling with this friends thing. I got a lot of pending requests and couldn't figure out why they wanted to be friends but did not have the heart to deny them. So I tentatively okayed three of them. One guy posted so many discussions in the first day that I couldn't even find the avatars for the other two people. I put the notify button on "Off" for the guy with all the postings and have decided to be a bit choosier. I'm thinking about waiting awhile and then making requests to people whose discussions have interested me enough to reply three or four times...I think friends are supposed to help each other out by giving replies and keeping each other's discussions going but who wants to reply dozens of times to somebody whose pulling stuff off Wikepedia just to get points. It's like having a conversation with a brick wall.
@Bev1986 (1428)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Thanks for your responses! I think I will check out my interests and start trying to find some friends... So, I don't have to approve someone if they ask me to be their friend? Right?
@irisheyes (4375)
• United States
28 Dec 06
No Bev, you don't have to approve friends requests although I don't know what happens to them after they hang around for awhile..If you do approve a friend, you can choose to be notified when they start discussions or you can turn that feature off which is what I did when I realized that one of my friends just couldn't stop posting & posting & posting...
@forfein (2509)
29 Dec 06
Hi I just did the same as you!!! People would send me a request, and I would accept it!! Then one day I started to wonder what happens if they get deleted, and so I put a post on mylot about it. Guess what!! The post got deleted! I remember some of the replies though....... Basically if you have "Good Friends" it will help your earnings!!! OK
• United States
29 Dec 06
Actually I count 14 on your page
@Bev1986 (1428)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Yep, my count is really getting up there now! lol! I went from one friend, and now I have almost 30!!!! Everyone keeps adding me! Woo Hoo! Now I feel so special! lol!
@shyam4uall (1003)
• India
29 Dec 06
To be frank I first made my friend list with those who are from my country..and many of them I really don't know..here is the fun of making online friends come.Then I started to add whom I think I should add..I donot follow any hard rule that those who shares the same interest as me should be added as my friend..I choose randomly and add them as my friends.I know many of the users personally and due to lack of their activity and also not knowing of their user ID I cannot add them as my friend.
• India
29 Dec 06
well in mylot i have my friend too and randomly chosen friend too. As we cant know the more detail about that person so cant say anything about it just added and responding there discussions.
• India
29 Dec 06
i m agreed with you but what is the harm in knowing a new friend because evre one is new for some one when we meet first,and we dont know everybody since birth so we can give some time to know a new friend.
@kstanley7 (1172)
29 Dec 06
All my referrals are either clanmates or friends, not bad though as have 22 referrals so far.
@raj0019 (2629)
• Argentina
29 Dec 06
i have 90 friends, but i only know 2-3 of them a bit. I am used to add some one in my friend list if they are matching my interests. I don't think most of the users here cn attend all of their friends here, honestly speaking no one gets enough time to talk with them. Its just that we cant deny each others friend requests, that keeps building our friend list.
@sahergul (774)
• Pakistan
29 Dec 06
i am new to myLot too i wish someone tell me some beneficial way where i expand ma social circle as well as gain money ;)...
@riyasam (16582)
• India
29 Dec 06
i never refuse ppl to be my friends.same applies to mylotters
29 Dec 06
I've not asked many people to be my friend but I've had plenty request me to be their friend, some I recognised their names from threads so I accepted others, well, there still pending approval on my friends list as I'm not sure who they are and where they've posted to request me as their friend. If I like someone's thread about something and think they have explained it in depth and use proper english (I understand not everyone is english but I mean no annoying text talk...), then I check their other topics too, if there reasonable, debatable topics too, only then will I send them a friend reqwest.
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
I'm new here, like everyone else, I'd like to meet some friends also.
@padhukr (2267)
• India
29 Dec 06
no idea.
@utsadetti (4593)
• United States
29 Dec 06
yeah, we gain a lot of friends here, but not yet serious in corresponding each other.
• India
29 Dec 06
No i don't have many friends in mylot i have only one friend like you but soon i will get friends just add friends and message them to know who you are and what are you doing.
• India
29 Dec 06
yes i think u r absolutely correct....