1st Love's 2nd Chance

United States
December 28, 2006 5:40pm CST
Okay, the strangest thing happened on myspace to me this week. I was contacted from my first love from back in High School contacted me. We dated when I was 16 and I'm 21 single with a child now. It didn't work out because his mother didn't like me and he moved out of state. 5 years later he contacts me on myspace and we start talking and he asks me for a second chance. I know that I have never loved another man the way that I loved him and I never was able to trust a man the way I trusted him long ago. Now all grown up with a bitter heart from heartbreaks including his he is asking me to learn to trust him again. Do I dare rekindle that fire that was set on my heart so long ago that I had never forgotten but thought had gone out. Could this be fate?
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61 responses
• Canada
28 Dec 06
Hi babydoll :) I'm a sucker for a good love story LOL I've heard of a lot of people finding lost loves, past loves, etc., on myspace. If you are not in a relationship of any kind right now, and if you really did care for this guy, I don't think it would hurt to build some communication with him. I mean, you'd have to really take your time and not jump to the conclusion that he is "the one," even now. A lot of things have changed in 5 years... you have a child now. Other things don't change... I'm thinking he still has the same mother? *ahem* But, hey, who says there's no such thing as fate or destiny, right? :) I wish you all the luck in the world. Just be careful... for you, your child and your heart.
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• United States
29 Dec 06
This is very good advice. If I might add, listen to your head & your heart. Remember to let the head overrule the heart if they disagree. Good luck to you.
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• United States
29 Dec 06
I agree with this advice and I too am a sucker for a good love story. I think that you need to be cautious. You need to consider the future for your child and not let your child get attached to him if you're both not in it for the long haul. Is your ex-love ready to be a dad or is he just having romantic feelings for you? Be careful and lead with your head!
• United States
29 Dec 06
If you have never loved another like him then why not give it another chance? Did he want to move away from you or was he forced? When your a teenager you really have no choice but to listen to your parents. My advise is to give it another chance. It may not go anywhere, but it may go somewhere and is that something you want to hold over your head for the rest of your life? I hate what if's. Good luck! =-)
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• United States
29 Dec 06
I would say go for it again.But just be careful to not get to attached right away and it doesnt work out.People change over the years.But hey why not.I would go for it.
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• Pakistan
29 Dec 06
he said abosultly riht i agree
@amafrias (456)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I would give it a chance. When I went back to my home town to find my first love, after about 15 years apart, he had passed away from a sudden brain aneurysm only a few weeks before on his birthday. He was only 33. Life is short, and you never know when your time may be up. Live life, don't look back and be happy!
@kareng (7980)
• United States
29 Dec 06
You have to go with your heart. Just be careful. I ended up marrying my high school sweetheart. We had broken up and gone our seperate ways. I called him on his 21st birthday to wish him a happy birthday and he asked me out. I said yes and that was the beginning of a new era! You are both more mature now so give it a chance!
@chertsy (3804)
• United States
29 Dec 06
You will never know til you go and test the waters. Your older and more wiser. You set the rules. He has to know up front about your child. Because he won't be just dating you. It is always fun going out on dates, as long as he pays but the girl should pay for a few as well. Don't rekindle anything, til your sure there is any kindling left from the old fire. Good Luck.
• United States
29 Dec 06
well they say you never forget your first love maybe this is your chance to finally be with someone you truely love and were meant to be with.I would give this love a second chance maybe that it was meant to be.I always say that everything happens for a reason and their is a reason he contacted you.this maybe what you have been waiting for the return of your first love.
• United States
29 Dec 06
I think this story is absolutely adorable. I think I would continue talking with him. I wouldn't jump into anything because of your past and things not working out. Be open and honest with him, let him know that when things ended the first time it hurt you and now your a lil nervous about just hopping back onto that train again. Try it out, but take it slow and be cautious. Especially since you have a child now, always keep the childs best interest in mind.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 06
for me that could be fate...both of you are destined for each other... just give him a 2nd chance but just don't give your all to him yet if you're still not sure of how you feel towards him and if you're not sure if he's ready to fight for you and love you eternally...
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• United States
29 Dec 06
I recently talked to my first bf too. It was a great feeling. I wouldn't want to be romantic with him, simply because I'm a mother of 2 with a third on the way & I have a husband. but to talk to him, it felt so good to share memories with someone from my past (I moved 3 states away when I was 18, so my husband & I did not grow up together).
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@bimmer999 (1160)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
yes that could be fate.. give him another chance.. you will never know he is the real one for you ;)
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• United States
29 Dec 06
If I had a second chance with my first love again, I would do it in a heart beat! Go for it!! Hope everything works out for the best!
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@kylesmiles (1913)
• United States
29 Dec 06
You know, it doesn't hurt to start talking to him again! ;) I actually reconnected with someone I met over 8 years ago on vacation. I only knew him about 3 days but we had always thought about each other. Anyway, I found his friend on myspace. Gave his friend my email and we've been emailing ever since September! :) I am happy for you. Take your time and realize that you are both ADULTS. Hopefully he isn't too much of a mama's boy?! :)
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• United States
28 Dec 06
You never know what fate has in store for us. If you feel this strongly about him, I say why not give it a chance. You could be passing up what could possibly be the love of your life. Approach it with the knowledge that you are an adult now. You too can break it off if you feel it isn't right.
@vanezzyi (206)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
that is a really cool thing to happen, you rekindling with your old flame and stuffs, however , do not just rely on fate...decide on whatver you feel...if u feel like you still love him and you will be happier with him and then by all means go out with him again...just do whatever your heart desires and whatever makes you happy....
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• India
29 Dec 06
well...same thing happend to me also....i used to like a gal... it was 12 yrs bk...tht time she didnt bother abt it and now she proposed me... i dindt feel anything except denying her
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@JBD189 (346)
• India
29 Dec 06
This is fate. Try it. Maybe, now as he is older he know his mind. You have nothing to lose.
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• India
29 Dec 06
Ya it is fate.Just follow ur heart & listen to it .U ll get a real answer. Dont fear of the past.
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@chintoosk (445)
• India
29 Dec 06
everyone should be allowed a second chance.....you are lucky to have got one now buddy......savour it.
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• United States
29 Dec 06
I think if he found you (which he probably put a lot of effort into) then it is worth at least seeing how far it may go. I would say that you should treat it almost as a new thing and start from square one even though you do know him already but trying to just pick things up where you left I dont think would be wise. So i would say try it out and see what happens. Good luck!!!
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