Boys

United States
December 28, 2006 8:58pm CST
Are all guys players? do all guys say what you want to hear just to get what they want from you? im frustrated with hearing stuff that doesn't mean anything...and how do you know if you really like some one...is it when your heart beats faster and slower or is that when you love some one? or is that a strong attraction for that person? will it always be hard to tell the difference between liking the person and just being attracted to them... but if you like the person you should be attracted to them right? Will a guy ever see past the physical attraction...? Will they ever like a girl just for who she is? I wish i knew...
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@Timinator (739)
• United States
29 Dec 06
No, not all guys are players. It just seems that way because all the players are hitting on you and it seems like they are all the guys. I am not at all a player, and I don't tell girls what they want to hear. If you really like someone, you think about them a lot and your heart beats faster when you see them. Guys can see past the physical attraction, but it is challenging for us since we are visually oriented mostly. There does need to be some physical attraction between a man and women for them to be compatible.
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29 Dec 06
Dude you are so right. The initial attraction is physical, but then on the other hand you could be friends and then you just really start liking the person, without having had any initial physical attraction.
• India
29 Dec 06
hi, there is a huge difference between liking and love. There are guys who dsent go for physical attraction. for me most important thing is a person. I love a girl, due to some reason our relationship broke, but i love her and i still care for her. Love is always give and not take.
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• United States
29 Dec 06
Not all guys are players, there are some good ones out there. Just take any new relationship slowly, don't rush into anything. If you like someone, you enjoy spending time with them, if it is just attraction then it is purely physical.
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@Asimo69 (21)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Although I feel like I'm not like many other guys, I can tell you that I have been very unattracted to physically attractive girls. I have heard there are three things required for love. One of which is physical attraction, the others, personality and romance. I find it to be true and try to use it as a guide. Also, try not to think too much about love and like. In the end, there is only one relationship that works out compared to the numerous that do not work out. Every relationship is an experience to help you know what exactly you are looking for in a partner.
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• India
29 Dec 06
Well i think you have misconseption about boys all boys are not like that and even girls are also not far behined from boys as they also use to cheat boys.what will you say then????
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• India
29 Dec 06
no...not all guys are players.... theer are those guys too who get played by gals... wht abt thm ??? u cant clap in one hand
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• United States
29 Dec 06
not all guys say what they think you want to hear... there are some out there that are genuine. and your question about like and love... you will know... when you love someone.. you even love (or can tolerate lol) their downfalls because it is what makes them them.. you know? and yes many guys like/love girls for who she is on the inside... it just takes time to find that guy. And when it comes to guys who just say what they think you want to hear to get in your pants... you need to learn to know the difference... yes this is hard... but if you pay close attention.. you can usually tell if a guy is being genuine or just trying to get you to do what they want. I am 25 and I still sometimes don't completely understand it all.... but all you can do is go with your gut! because your first instinct is usually right. good luck =)
• New Zealand
29 Dec 06
Heres how it works: Boys have testosterone pumping through them. They are attracted to you. They think they themseleves are not very attractive, so in order to get your attention and for them to help make you start liking them, they act cool. A true guy will do this a little, all guys tend to even if they dont know it, but the guys you want a the guys that dont try to hard at beeing someone they are not. Ideally, guys arnt players, but the sad truth is that most are, or try to be.
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@Rotiro3 (27)
• United States
29 Dec 06
No not all are but a lot are. If you give us the oppurtunity to be one than we will. For instance I loved this girl at work but she insisted that she wanted a boyfriend and not a fling so I never fully pursued it because I knew that she wanted a full time relationship but if she gave herself up easy than I would have just gone for the fling. I believe there is someone out there for everyone it just takes some time and effort to find them.
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@mcrowl (1050)
• New Zealand
29 Dec 06
No, of course not all boys are players. Many boys struggle with relationships in the same way girls do. There are certainly plenty of boys out there who only want one thing. Keep away from them and find someone who cares about you as a person. He might not be a big jock, but your relationship will last a lot longer.
@wings33 (230)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Maybe try to get to know the guy and don't rush into anything, even if your heart is beating fast and songs remind you of them. In time you will know if the person is for real or playing you and if you want to be with him. Try to communicate and ask him questions about himself. Maybe ask other people if they know the guy, if he has a history of being a player. I think guys sometimes get past the looks thing if they like your personality and you treat them kindly. Just being attracted to sombody is not enough in my opinion. You made be attracted to someone,but they may not be the right person for you or they may try to play you. You want somebody that is for real.
@aizavel (558)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
oh so thats how it is huh? i think most are too met a buncha them rarely find real ones
@xionous (440)
• Belgium
29 Dec 06
may b ur not lucky enough or may b u werent the right track. but u r right, rarely you can find the real one. what do you think about the guys tryn to protest on this topic here? dont you think they are different and not players?
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• India
30 Dec 06
i don't agree with it . All guys are players .yes at first physical attraction is normal but later on physical attraction has not enough matter . a person whom i love so much is not like that . he is different .
• United States
30 Dec 06
No, not all guys are players, though at times it is easy to believe that they are!!! My advice to you...for whatever it is worth, is to set your standards very high, cuz you are worth it!!! Then, get to know guys as friends before you get into a relationship. this is a good way to get to know a person, and to see who they really are...then you may not realize that you're over your head, in a relationship with a real jerk! good luck.
• United States
30 Dec 06
It is easy to believe that all guys are players...dirty, with no care for another person. however, there are wonderful guys out there. set your standards high, because you are worth it. then, get to know guys as friends first...this is a way to see them as they are, and to get close to them without getting in over your head. being involved in a friendship will be much safer than being involved in a relationship, and then realizing that he's a jerk!!!
@absfive (145)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
of course yes,there are some guys who loves there wife of girlfriend for what really she is..physical attractionfor me is just you like that person to be sexed..love is about having with that person for life
@mef623 (81)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Not all guys are players, but people tend to be attracted to the same type. In other words, some people tend to get together with a lot of players because that's the type they like. Mike
@dominican (202)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
Being players are mostly associated with guys. But being player is by choice whether your a guy or a gal. Its not a gender issue, and with your question. No, not all guys are players.
@vipul20044 (5800)
• India
29 Dec 06
Ok i will say that it isnt you who is saying that its your experience You havent seen all the boys buddy Well you did come across the players but 1 out of 10 might be good and who knows you might bump into him the next time
• India
29 Dec 06
no all boys r not like that but some r like that , so some girls r like that. one thing i know that if a guy like someone from his heart than he can do anything for her.boys do have feelings , thet do get upset, they do cry, but not in public, but in front of their close ones.