What are the ways to your spouse that you really care for them?

U need not take special pain in conveying the message. If u are true in ur heart, and act responsibly, that is enough. Dont act love, live love. She will definitely read the message.

Lots of hugs and lots of thank yous. My husband went overboard with the showing of love this Christmas. He bought me red and white carnations (he never does this at Christmas), bought me a lovely heart felt card, AND he bought a little trinket box with a loving poem on it. That one really knocked me for a loop. I like to try and do little things like slip notes in his lunch, or a loving greeting card for no reason. But he is not very romantic or sentimental so I don't get much of a reaction. I did do a year long journal which included quotes from songs and the bible and other sources, as well as photos and a diary of how our day was together. I gave that to him for our wedding anniversary and he actually loved it AND read it! I think saying thank you is really important.