Do you think ugly people know they're ugly?

United States
December 29, 2006 8:17pm CST
Without being facicious here, face it, there are people out there who are homely looking. Do you think ugly people know they're ugly or do you think they feel they're 'average'? If you have an ugly child do you realize it or do you just automatically think they're beautiful because they're yours? I just wonder.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
I think that a lot of people that are ugly know it. Lets face it, we all can't be beautiful on the outside. I know many people that are very good looking that are creeps. I think that no matter what your child looks like, you are still going to think they are cute because they are yours.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
30 Dec 06
Yes I think they are aware of ther fact. thats why beauty products sell so much, otherwise if we all thought we are beautiful then who will buy fairness creams and face mask to make us look more beautiful. I guess when you see your baby you suddenly are overwhelmed by so many emotions that even if it strikes you that he/she is not beautiful the thought ceases to matter after few minutes. You are suddenly the proud parents of your child.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
Oh I agree that good looks does not make a good person... but I just wonder if ugly people realize they're ugly or if they have ugly kids if they realize it. I would venture to think nobody thinks their kid is ugly, just because it's theirs.... but you never know.
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@missyann73 (1454)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Who are we to judge that certain people are ugly. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
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• United States
30 Dec 06
come on, face it... there are down right ugly people out there and you know it I'm talking straight up looks, nothing internal or how lovely of a person they are.
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• Zambia
30 Dec 06
If one is able to tell that they are pretty, they can also tell that if they are ugly. "Beauty lies inthe eyes of the beholder" is some lame paraphrase. lol
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• Canada
30 Dec 06
your discussion seems to be reflecting... all of us are beautiful. its just a matter of individual differences.. because we belong to many races.. we cant judge people because of how they look. there is this intrinsic and extrinsic character.
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30 Dec 06
I try not to think about my appearance, because I think people's perception of beauty is wrong, so I don't think it matters whether you see yourself as beautiful or ugly, or not...I think it just matters whether you can ACCEPT yourself...
• United States
31 Dec 06
I agree... what really matters is how you feel about you.
@xphile777 (427)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I don't have children, so I can't comment on whether a parent knows their child is ugly. However, I am ugly, and I know it. I think most ugly people would have to know it, if only because when they're kids other children will let them know. Also, it doesn't stop with children. When I walk down the street, it's not unusual for someone in a passing car to yell something at me. Also, with America's hangup on celebrities and body image and looking good, it would be impossible for an ugly person not to know that they're ugly. American society not only lets ugly people know they're ugly, it reminds them on a regular basis.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
I couldn't agree with you more. It's very common in the US to put so much emphasis on the outter beauty that many are often ignorant to what's inside. If it helps any to know... I have no clue what you look like on the outside, but from all I've experienced from you in your posts here on MyLot.. You are quite beautiful!
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• United States
26 Jan 07
Awwww :) Thanks. :)
@bigstret (484)
23 Jan 07
Nobody is ugly we all just look different.
@rosebug23 (1906)
• Australia
30 Dec 06
Me with my hubby  - This was taken at a friends house
Well speaking as one of the not beautiful people of course we know.I have a beautiful, wonderful husband,children,grandchildren and many friends so i am so very lucky that way so i can't be lucky enough to have the looks as well .I was the last born of four girls and i have always said that i was made up of all the leftovers. I have incuded a photo of myself.
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@rosebug23 (1906)
• Australia
31 Dec 06
You are so very kind but i am sort of past worrying about how i look and makeup really does not help .thank you but you can be honest. Homely?what does that mean exactly.thanks for being so generous
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
21 Jan 07
What makes a person ugly? Looks? Personality? I know a lot of nice looking people that are so ugly inside that it isn't funny. They make fun of everyone else around them. Ugly is as Ugly does.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
21 Jan 07
ps. but yes there are some homely people out there. Some do know it and their self esteem is low. Now when I see a baby I'll never say oh its ugly or oh it's homely. If it is a baby that isn't so cute I'll say oh he/she is so precious. cuz all babies are precious even if not cute...lol
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• United States
22 Jan 07
Exactly. I'm not saying that "ugly" cannot be beautiful by other justifications! Honest, I do not judge by that. But a real and honest statement is that we all know there are some 'homely' people out there. And I do agree, even 'homely' babies are precious because of the life they represent.
@doniker (493)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I would rather be with a ugly person (by media's standards) than some stuck up beauty. this discussion sucks.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
By the way, even though you were rude and ignorant with your answer I still gave you a PLUS rating because you took the time to answer.
@janet069 (663)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I don't think calling people ugly is a very compassionate thing to do. People cannot help how they look. Some people have the money for surgeries to imporve their looks but the average person does not. Even the beautiful people can have an accident and become ugly in an instant. I would be very careful about my feelings because you never know what tomorrow will bring.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
I wasn't calling anyone ugly. It was a simple question regarding looks. We all see beauty in different ways and you have no idea if I'm beautiful, ugly or in between. It's a question. I didn't say do you think Jessica knows she's ugly? Don't get so self fulfilling there!
• United States
31 Dec 06
I have to agree that hockeygal never called anyone ugly. Quit being so sensitive.
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@jesi06 (279)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I feel that people are portrayed as "ugly" because they are not able to afford or maybe they do not have time to care for themselves as much as others tend to. The world would be a very boring place if everyone looked the same. Some may feel I am ugly, but to those people, thats ok because as they say one mans trash is anothers treasure. NONE of us is perfect, and many times what some feel is "pretty" or "handsome" is often fake because of surgery,make-up,etc. We are wrong for judging people by looks,instead we should base our friendships and such by what really matters like personality.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
I definitely agree. A perfec example of that is Oprah. She is not the most beautiful in looks but after she puts forth the effort and money and time she can be very attractive. Before she had the money she was truly a very homely lady.
• United States
15 Jan 07
I definitely agree. A perfect example of that is Oprah. She is not the most beautiful in looks but after she puts forth the effort and money and time she can be very attractive. Before she had the money she was truly a very homely lady.
@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
30 Dec 06
I think that there are ugly people who think that they are beautiful, just as there are beautiful people who think they are ugly. I think that you can think someone is ugly too until you get to know them, and that their personality can actually change the way you view them and they become quite attractive.
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@abilbrey (114)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I agree with you completely. I have meet people that I found physically unattractive but after talking with them found them to be charming. There have also be attractive people with little are no moral fiber and my hair stand on end when I am around them. You must look at people as individuals and not a gloss print from a magazine. There are many sides to people and it is more than one deminsional.
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• Singapore
30 Dec 06
Perhaps it's true. Basically every human has the same instinct, the different is only how good they are to express themselves. Ugly people just do not know how to express their look, contrarily for beautiful people. Based on my experience personality is something we can change, it influences our image to other people.
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
27 Jan 07
Will you please explain me that how do assess thee uglyness? I mean the criterias and what's the measure of this uglyness? In my opinion intentional uglyness by nature & behavior only is real ugly, which can't be forgiven or forsook.
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• United States
30 Jan 07
I think you know exactly what I mean. By the explanation I gave I explained that I do not judge by outter appearance but face it and be real about it.. there are homely or ugly people in this world. Plain and simple. It's a very real question and is not a matter of saying how you should view others. Sometimes reality isn't always pretty or even politically correct. Welcome to the real world. We have creeps, ugly people, beautiful people, fat people, short people, skinny people... and so much more. Don't go PC on me, it belittles you.
• United States
27 Jan 07
Well from being around some not very attractive people, I do believe they don't know or realize their real looks. Gotta love yourself I guess. I'm lucky I have cute kids... I know I used to be cute but I'm 32 now so I'm just average now.
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• United States
30 Jan 07
I think most of the world is pretty "average" with aspects about them that make that part "pretty or handsome". And there is nothing wrong with AVERAGE! It's what most people are! lol
@katyzzz (2897)
• Australia
25 Jan 07
Very often yes, sometimes no. a baby? ever heard the story of the ugly duckling?
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• United States
25 Jan 07
lol.. true.... ugly duckling
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I don't think anyone is "ugly". everyone has their own beauty somewhere within. Some people may say I am ugly, while others say I'm beautiful. And yes I htink some people know they don't like the way certain people want them too.
• United States
23 Jan 07
I agree... everyone has a beauty within. I truly am talking just superficial, surface looks. We know people like that are out there. I think most everyone truly is "average" in looks, with a few that fall above or below the mark. For the most part, even those that feel they're "ugly" are truly usually at least "average". But we have all run across one of those people that you think YIKES! lol
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
23 Jan 07
most of the people i know that are beautiful, think that they are ugly. So, i guess its what you see, and hopefully your not just looking at the outside.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
I agree... I would hope that everyone looks beyond the outter package. But I have been curious. I've heard people comment that they're ugly when they're really not ugly at all, perhaps 'average', which is what I'd think most of the world is any ways.
• United States
15 Jan 07
Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. It's the same way with people who aren't ugly - some thing that they are. And come on people, let's not be all politically correct and pretend that there are no ugly people on earth - if you are reading this, you know there are certain people who you think are ugly, whether you admit it or not.
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• United States
16 Jan 07
Thank you SO much. LOL That point was one I continuously kept putting out there because you would get the self righteous ones that would tell me all about beauty within. I didn't say that EVERYONE isn't beautiful in some way but face the facts.. there ARE ugly people in this world. We ALL know it. And those that refuse to admit it because they're so busy being PC then they need to move on! LOL And just FYI to everyone.... I don't judge others by their covers... and I DO realize that beauty is only skin deep. I know and love some rather homely people that are beautiful from within. But I'm honest enough to say they are homely (not to their face of course because I would never hurt them) but in my own mind. I'm also big enough to say I look past a persons outter surface when choosing friends, loves and such.
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
26 Jan 07
I think that people are more aware of their physic than of their look. I think that the majority of ugly people would not consider themselve ugly... but just different. They would have to... Just imagine getting up every morning... looking yourself in the mirror... thinking... gees I'm ugly. They would not be able to live with themselve. As we are born ugly or whatever... we do get use to our look from the first time we look at ourself in the mirror. No matter how ugly we look... we never feel as ugly as much as what other people might think of us. If a 20 year old had lived all his/her life without seeing himself/herself in a mirror... and you suddenly gave him/her a mirror... that person probably would have huge difficulties coping with the fact that he/she is ugly. You might even have a person looking average normal... not ugly and not pretty... but thinking that they are ugly because it is not what that person expected to look like. I also think that it is only the good looking people who pass judgement on how other people look. When you are good looking, you spend a lot of time trying to look your best all the time, and are very aware of how you look like. So of course... looks are a big part of your life and you compare yourself to other people.
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• United States
30 Jan 07
Very well put! I agree... I would bet "ugly" people learn to live with their outter self. Fortunately it's easier to do that then for "beautiful" people with "ugly insides" to learn how to deal with their REAL self!
@javajoe (149)
• United States
26 Jan 07
i dont care what anyone says yes if you are ugly you know it.just like if you are good looking you know it. and though the ones that are ugly can even see some beauty in them selves aswell. the same goes for the ones that know their pretty can find flaws in their own looks. to prove my point i never heard of a plastic surgeon begging for cash.! have you?
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• United States
30 Jan 07
Very true. And I've seen "pretty people" have so much plastic surgery that they become UGLY! Now that's scary!~