Marriage--Why people get married.

@sag2911 (108)
India
December 30, 2006 11:35am CST
Why people get married and if they get married, do they really understand meaning of marriage. According to me marriage is sharing yourself with other. One wants to share him/herself with the other person. He/she accept each good/bad habits of other and vice versa. No one in this world is perfect, but I belive (it's only my thoughts!!) the marriage can be succesful if you really your true self with the other and accept everything relating to your partner.
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@azeemjz (445)
• Pakistan
30 Dec 06
People get married becuase they want their whole life with some one and we call this some one as a lifepartner. and then the reality is that if in couple if some one have such habits then other should have to correct them because they are the life partners and they should help each other.
@sag2911 (108)
• India
30 Dec 06
great thoughts!
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• India
31 Dec 06
I think there can be many different reasons. Immaturity, living for the "MOMENT," feeling like you are not getting what you thought you were going to get when you married and being emotionally pushed to try and find it. A couple may be in love, but temptation is out there in the world and not everyone is strong enough to resist it. Marriage is a life of routine, in a way, and while couples can be perfectly happy, which they should if they're truley in love, those who are not completely in love may grow, well, "bored" of their union and an affair is an exciting alternative to their lifestyle.
• India
31 Dec 06
nice......i agree to that
• United States
31 Dec 06
I would think that the reasons for marriage depend largely upon culture. Many of the responses already offered refer to love as the primary reason for marraige. However, marrying for love is more of a Western idea. In other cultures love is seen as more of a byproduct of marriage rather than a prerequisite. It is something that may be generated after many years of being husband and wife, but is not considered a necessary ingredient for a successful marriage. It would also be prudent to keep in mind that arranged marriages are still very common in other areas of the world. What would be the purpose of marriage in these situations?
@sag2911 (108)
• India
31 Dec 06
I think i am already on your side, i already told that to run marriage successful, both the partner should be ajdustable in the sence, they shuould accept each other. And i think if you accept those whom you love or care about.
@emarie (5455)
• United States
31 Dec 06
well, i got married because i wanted to share my life, forever with this one man. and he wanted to spend his life with me. to me, marriage is forever. a promise to each other to stand there with eathother for all time. but thats just me. people can do the same things without being married. for me, it just means my man is mine and no one can take him away from me.
@sag2911 (108)
• India
31 Dec 06
Wish you a happy married life friend!! I really liked your message.
@anjuscor (1266)
• India
31 Dec 06
Marriage is always decided in heaven, that is what people say. But i think, Marriage should be meant to share your life with other and you need to be truthful. If you marry someone , you should be committed to them always. Some people marry for their physical needs, so that society will not say anything. But i think physical needs are not important, every moment of life should be shared with your marriage partner.
@sag2911 (108)
• India
31 Dec 06
Agree with you friend!! Am happy to have such answer. Thanks!!
• India
31 Dec 06
yes i am agree with u . marriage can be succesful if they live for each other , if they respect each other emotion . but know a day people do marraige because they are in the age of marriage and their parents wants
@sag2911 (108)
• India
31 Dec 06
That's correct, and i really find it sad when parents are ashamed of their child not gettin married even after particula age. Because they just think that it's a socal routine, if their children will not get married in time, society would think other wise and in few cases children get married thinking about their parents. But i would suggest the children should explain the parent what exactl they think!! What do you say???
@emmet18 (1116)
• Romania
31 Dec 06
I think people get married because they don't whant to live theire life alone. It is nice to have someone near you that can understand you.
@sag2911 (108)
• India
31 Dec 06
But i think it should be like understand each other not either way!!
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
People get married to build their own family. Marriage is not an easy decision to make, both partners must consider the consequences when they get there. Im not married yet, but im looking forward to get married when the right time comes, and im crossing my fingers that i will find the right one and spend the rest of my life with him. If partners get married they will become one, they must accept the strength and weaknesses of each other.
@sag2911 (108)
• India
31 Dec 06
I totally agree with you that they must accept the strength and weaknesses of each other. All the best!!
• India
31 Dec 06
Marriage means sharing of love,life and every thing together they should have good compromising .
• India
31 Dec 06
i agree with u friend......
@rama_k7 (71)
• India
31 Dec 06
marriage is no doubt sharing not only your likes, dislikes and habits apart from your body. It should be realistic and not lip touch. Each should understand the other and accept him/her for what thry are and not find mistake in what has happened.
• India
31 Dec 06
thats true my friend......
• India
31 Dec 06
marriage is a concept where two people become one. means after marriage they are one, they live for each other, they share the whole life, if one suffers other will also suffer, if one has a happy thing both will share it, love is unlimit for them, they will enjoy each and every minute
• India
31 Dec 06
u sounds so practical.........i admire that
@prasad1961 (5603)
• India
31 Dec 06
There can be many reasons. But one reason is very common. Because when they got married they were in the throes of a feeling of being "in love" and this love made them special. As marriage grinds on..it is easy for one or both spouses to start to feel out of love and unspecial. so they stuck in the memory of their the "good old days" when they were special and wish to feel that way again....and NOTHING can bring back that novel feeling as quickly as a new relationship.
• India
31 Dec 06
true.....
• India
31 Dec 06
that is god wants
• India
31 Dec 06
Hi....i think you have great thoughts about marriage....but whatever you said is right and even i agree with you......but now the young generation doesnt know the actual meaning of marriage and thats the reason we can hear many divorce cases.....if people really know its meaning there would be happy life for both..... i admire your thoughts if both wife and husband understand each other,believe each other,admire each other then that marriage would be really successful....i hope you too get such a nice wife......good luck.......
@kgwat70 (13398)
• United States
31 Dec 06
People get married because they love each other very much and want to spend the rest of their lives with that person. They make each other happy and they care about each other and will do anything for each other. They also want to get married and have a family together and get a nice home together and do things together. Two people should accept each other for who they are as we have all have flaws and have made mistakes in our lives. It seems like people do not always understand the meaning of marriage, especially among celebrities.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Marriage is about standing before God and everyone and claiming the other person as your rib, your other half of your soul. And pledging to keep only to them and to share your life, come what may, with this person as the years go by together. To continue to love,respect,honor above all others, to trust and to obey their wishes. For my mind it is a oath before God that it is me and you against the world no matter what comes down!
@ambi_ash (51)
• India
31 Dec 06
people get married to escape loneliness...everyone wants someone to be with them for the rest of their life and marriage is a ceremony that bonds them so...further marriage is a social act whereby the society witnesses the bonding of two individuals..
@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
31 Dec 06
Marriage Sucks... I agree that we need to be ourselves if we want a marriage to last, the trick is to be yourself from day one. Not marriage day one, but from the day you meet. Pretending to be someone else to get a relationship started is just plain asking for trouble. It may get you some nooky but it won't get you true love. So like I said at the start. Marriage Sucks... ... if it is based on deception. Surprises from within or our past can destroy what could have been a bliss filled marriage, so Marriage Sucks eventually when it's based on anything but truth.
• India
31 Dec 06
Different people marry for different reason. People who are in love for a long time through which they have understood each others goods and bads marry each other when they think they are ready. Now thats the best thing and such marriage life will be very successful. In my country India most of the marriages are arranged marriage or arranged love marriages. most marry when they think they need a partner in their life when they have set their foot firmly in the financial field. blind love rushing to marriages don't usually succeed because in that kind of love the lovers expose their good sides only and they slowly discover their partners bad sides after the marriage. the success of their marriage life depends on their ability to solve the problems and move on. i never found out the reason why most of the arranged marriages work so well.
• India
31 Dec 06
according to me people get married in order to stabalize their lives,in order to have someone who would always stand by them be there for them when they are in any problem.Marriage is a process of stabalization and building a lifetime partnership according to me..
• India
31 Dec 06
ask this to some married person.