do you think he still loves me?

United States
December 30, 2006 12:56pm CST
i was dating my high school sweetheart and the last time i have seen him was 1998. me and him was engaged back in 2001. i ended up the relationship in 2003. just a month ago i just realized that i still love him but he has someone else... but i know he still loves me and some of our friends says he still loves me... we are both not married and we both have no kids but we are both in a different relatiopnship. i love my partner but i dont know what to do? i am still inlove with my ex and i see a future with him...... the thing is... im in las vegas nevada usa and he is in the PHILIPPINES! thats whats causing the dilema... could someone give me some great advices:) with GOD's GLORY!
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48 responses
@kylesmiles (1910)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Howdy neighbor! I am in Northern NV! Anyway, whatever you decide, I think you should be honest with the guy you are with NOW. Don't you think he deserves that? :) I understand you still having feelings for the other guy but do you think it's because he's with someone else and not with you? :) You know the feeling? All I can say is listen to your instincts! I have learned to do that.. but it's still hard for me because when I really want something, I tend to just go for it without listening! LOL But also follow your heart. If you think this is a good move, go for it. :)
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• India
30 Dec 06
Yes this person is telling correct. Because your ex has someone you will start feeling attraction out of basically jealousness. Close your doors for instincts. And listen to what I tell you so that you will benefit in your life.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
yah, thats right.. my partner knows that i want to be single but its not vice versa... i just want to be single and just wait for mr right... i have a deep feeling that its my ex yet... at the same time... who knows but GOD!
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
30 Dec 06
My experience, that from all of our love stay a piece in our heart. We do not forget the nice things. But you must know why that relationship got over. I suggest you to keep him for memory. Sorry, but it is the best I think. And probably you know it too. Do not think about it. You make only your life harder. The time will solve it. Take my best wishes.
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@ezzrssi (11188)
• Italy
30 Dec 06
no forgot him and look for a better man
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• United States
30 Dec 06
ohhhhhh, but i don't want to look... i just want mr right to come to me.. i am patient... but i love my ex.
@tambdy (1967)
30 Dec 06
if you are both in another relationship and he is so far away then i think you should just leave it. He has moved on and so have you, you will find someone else who you love as much. Would you be willing to move to the phillipines.? Would he be willing to move near you.? this is really a no win situation, i feel very sorry for you.
@tambdy (1967)
30 Dec 06
Would you move to him? If you would then go for it love is love and you deserve to be with the one you love.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
yah i would... i might... after school:)
• United States
30 Dec 06
love is love.. i like to be patient... while i am going to school and working in my business and helping my parents... i say that when i call in JESUS, all things are possible... i love him no matter what... i am happy everyday! and i just want to spend the rest of my life with the right ONE!
@blastrail (345)
• India
30 Dec 06
Life is big. You will meet many people along your life. Don't waste your time and life by going back and forth. It is natural for anybody to remember the old story and feel liking for it. Whether he loves or not is different issue because he is already having another. Now if you think like an idiot you will end up losing your loved ones. Don't just go by your instincts. Use some common sense and think new relationships. If that person is not having another one then you should have taken a step toward him. Now there is no point. If you now move toward him only to turn back again(which is for sure) he will be disappointed and will never forget it. Don't behave like an idiot. Instincts always tell you to do bad things.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
thanks for that advice
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@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
30 Dec 06
be with the one u love.. you dont want to live your life in regret so the one that your heart tells you that you want to be with, be with.. but dont hurt your partners... do u know if he loves her? have you talked to him and seen if he honestly really does care for you and these people arent just saying it? it doesnt matter where your from and where he is from, if u two are meant to be together then you can always find a way to come together..
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• United States
30 Dec 06
i love ur page about God and everything... thanks for the message:) thats whut i need:)
@stanie (21)
• India
30 Dec 06
WELL..UR STORY IS QUITE DIFFERENT ..BUT AT THE SAME TIME IS QUITE NATURAL..COZ...A PERSON FEEL LOVING THE OTHER WHEN HE/SHE MISSES THE OTHER...AT THT TIME...THEY WILL REALISE THE MISTAKE THEY DONE.. THEN AFTER THEY DONT REPEAT THT MISTAAKE....I FEEL THT ITS BETTER N 2 MEET HIM..AND TAKE A STRONG DECISION IN B/N U AND DONT MAKE EVER BREAK THE RELATIONSHIP FOR EVRR, COZ IT MIGHT IT LEADS TO MANY PROBLEMS..AFTER UR CHILD WERE BORN ....
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• United States
30 Dec 06
yah, i think i can understand u:) i think u have a point... thats what i am longing to do... is to go to the philippines and go see him! i have to see him...
@jen20619 (1300)
• Ireland
30 Dec 06
Yes I think still loves you by the sounds of your discussion.I think if you love your partner and you have kids together best stop thinking about the ex after hes an ex for a reason.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
i dont have kids... he doesn't have kids...
@kareng (54676)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Listen to your heart. Be honest with yourself and both the other men involved. Lay it on the line. You deserve to be happy and should be! Good luck!
• Indonesia
31 Dec 06
Why didn't you marry him, long-distance relations often emerged many good problems of the trivial problem and the big problem. According to me all that depended on the two of you, if the two of you agreed to develop these relations without marrying meant you must visit to his place or was the reverse. and remembered long-distance relations really needed the big cost.
• Canada
30 Dec 06
I would suggest that you need to sort out your feelings for your partner & your ex. To whom do you want to spend the future with & who do you love most? If you decided to rekindle your relationship with your ex, then what are you waiting for...go ahead & tell him how feel for him. Love will always find a way for you to be together again..goodluck girl.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
yah, he knows i love him and i know he loves me... my partner and i are always in a rollercoaster... i did break up with my partner and its because im not treated right... i have been patient and i have been loving and caring and i guess i have nothing else to give... what do you think?
• Canada
1 Jan 07
I think I can relate to your situation, we have the same qualities as being patient, caring & loving. There are times that we don't know how to make ourselves feel good coz we're always thinking of how to satisfy & make our loved ones happy & contented. Am I right? We are willing to sacrifice everything just for them without even leaving something for ourselves. Try to focus on yourself this time. You deserve to be happy & to be loved. If it's not too late, start communicating with your ex & then you will decide afterwards.
@ilvrshn (463)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Wow, for one you can't beliebe in with two people at the same time. I don't believe that and it is evident that both of you show strong interset towards each other. Both of you still ove each other but it's the distance that is keepingyou too apart. I know exactly how you feel! Ya'll are not through with each other. I wish the best for you!
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• United States
30 Dec 06
Forget it. The relationship ended for a reason, and you are ith the guy you are with now, for a reason. If you cannot love the guy you are with to the best of your ability, you should leave him. Why do you still see a future with him? You two broke up! Do you not see a future with your current partner? I'm guessing your current partner is so nice, that you love him with your head, but you're finding it hard to love him with your heart...
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• United States
30 Dec 06
my current partner hits me... what can u say about that?
• India
30 Dec 06
I recommend you to move on with your current partner and forget about the past because your ex is neglecting you. If he really loves you, he might have continued with you.
• India
30 Dec 06
does your current partner hits you regularly
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• India
30 Dec 06
if ur heart says he loves u u can disscus with him
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@sagarbx (732)
• India
31 Dec 06
yes you are in love................
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
31 Dec 06
I am not sure if he still loves you or not, but I can say one thing it takes long to forget the first love and the schoolhood crushes. Since both of your have different partners like you and him I would suggest you to stick with your current lover. Anyway give it a try. Most times our heart says what is right and what is wrong. Listen to your little heart and understand what you really wants. If possible try to spend time with him or communicate with him. New year is coming try sending him cards or e-cards. Give yourself little more time, you will certainly will know yourself without anyone telling you.
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
31 Dec 06
This is a tough one. So u still in love with your high school sweetheart. The is once an ex always an ex. I would maybe try calling him and see where you guys stand so you can have some time of closure. There was some reason u break up with him in the first place. So there is only one way to find out.
@MzLefty (311)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I am an incurable romantic,I think that if you guys truly love each other that you will find a way to be together,had you had the chance to actually tell him how you feel? does he know that you stil love him? If not you need to find a way to let him know,and see if he wants to rekindle your relationship.If you guy stay with the people that you are with now,it will not work,because you hearts belong to another.Don't let him be the one that got away.follow your heart.
• Sweden
31 Dec 06
i think if u really love ur ex-boyfriends then u will be happy with him only.....
• India
31 Dec 06
It is now u have to decide whom u love more, coz we all have feelins for our x but in present life if u r happy wid ur present partner then y not try forgettin the previous one.......i think ur present partner deserves dat....n if u still have lots of feelins for thex then y not try talkin to him abt this.....tc!