Parents please.....

@HerShe (2386)
Canada
September 28, 2006 12:21am CST
Never critisize your child's weight. It very well could cause an eating problems later on....Please tell me you won't.
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@Aali311 (6127)
• United States
1 Oct 06
Parent's who critize their childs weight are ignorant people, your child is someone you help in a loving way not be mean to. I can't ever imagine being like that with my boys, they are on the skinny side but I will never tell them anything mean about their weight or other things.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
I didn't quite know how to respond to your comment. So I rated you plus. ...and you're right, it is....ignorance. That is why I push child development so much.
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@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
1 Oct 06
I would never ever do that to my child. I dont think anyone should do it to a child whether it theres or some one elses , some children and adults just cant help it ,being they may be diabetic and a thyroid problem and more. Its just not right
3 people like this
29 Sep 06
I think there’s better ways, yes. If you’re worried about your childs weight, telling them they ‘need’ to lose weight or so on will only begin a negative cycle of ‘am I okay’? Actively encourage them into sports, it can make a world of difference!
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• United States
7 Oct 06
I was always told by my mother that I was fat and ugly, or fat and lazy. I never had a weight problem until I was an adult. I was always fairly active as a child, but I had all that negativity from my mom. I became a food addict. When I am stressed, I eat. People, what you say to your children profoundly influences how they see themselves. Give them loving words of encouragement, praise for good performance, and always call them beautiful, handsome, and all the good things you can. Teach them to love themselves. It is a skill I am still trying to learn at 49.
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@leeoz22 (183)
• Australia
1 Oct 06
I totally agree. I have a daughter who was a little over weight when she was at school. She was drasticly over weight but she was bullied badly and in turn got an eating disorder that she still struggles with today.
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@bhchy1 (6052)
• United States
30 Sep 06
I never criticize my children for anything...if you feel yoru child is getting a bit to large about the middle..just offer healtheir snakes..fruit, raw veggies..popcorn etc...if they are hungry they will eat it and not know the why to hurt their self esteem.
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@wsue1023 (1396)
• United States
29 Sep 06
I agree, it's not a good idea. If you see your child developing a weight problem it is better to get them involved in more physical activities and to serve them healthier food... this can be done without mentioning their weight. Just say we're going to take better care of ourselves so we can live a long healthy life! It's a great way to teach your child how to take care of themselves and feel good about doing it. Overall, I'd say never criticize your child... encourage them and love them like crazy.
@skittlez353 (1404)
• United States
28 Sep 06
My daughter is 21 months old and 28 lbs. and she couldnt be any more perfect. Has that happened before? I couldn`t even imagine.
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• India
6 Oct 06
i agree with hershe u should never criticize something eating because it always and not sometimes effect their mind especially during their childhood which is supposed to be the best learning period
@d1a2h3 (13)
• United States
7 Oct 06
you should be careful about criticisim or shop better but if those dont work it is not right to condone it. It is unnatural and unhealthy I guarentee anyone who eats the national suggested servings of food correctly each day and does the correct ammount of excercise they would not be fat. And trust me any help or criticisim that you feel bad giving will your kid will be made up for when they go to school. Kids are ruthless. And it doesnt have to be bad to help them try to give them wieghts to be like theyre favorite action star allow them limited time on video games make them play out side. Only allow treats after a salad or something that would fill them up so they dont gorge on fatty treats. These are suggestions but when your kid lose all self respect and maybe his life cause of his unnatural condition blame your self cause it is your fault for condowning it.
@Trixy99 (194)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
It is also important to remember I children learn by watching us. If we have bad eating habits or making comments that we are fat and all those things we dont want them to have. THen we had better become more aware of ourselves. THe most important lessons we teach our kids are from our own actions not words
• United States
1 Oct 06
The parents have control ovet the shopping list. If their kids are fat they know why. a treat here and there is fine. I see so many kids with can of soda. This alone is terrible. I had the hardest time getting off the hooked on soda kick. I also know how to get my child up and walk. there would be no need to make sad remarks.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
5 Oct 06
You will have wonderful memories of this some day!!! Thanks for the chat.
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• United States
5 Oct 06
Your so sweet. Thanks very much.
@van123 (1288)
• India
28 Sep 06
My son is 7 years old and 32kg.he is healthy
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@van123 (1288)
• India
6 Oct 06
i agree with u
7 Oct 06
Sorry HerShe! Never got the reply for this because it wasn't my original comment, although I got your email and replied! Though all the notifications they're all going to some unlucky person who has to listen to us rabbit on! :) Thankyou!
• United States
2 Oct 06
Why would anyone do such a thing!? that is so evil! It's not the kids fault a kid is over weight or too skinny! If parents critisize their kids the parents seriously have issues! Maybe when the kid is older like in highschool mention something if they want to do something about their weight! It's a mean thing to do!
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• United States
1 Oct 06
Parents should be criticize themselves for their childrens' weight. Their children are not the ones buying the groceries and cooking the meals. They are eating whats parents are putting in front of them.
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@amiksinha (1961)
• India
1 Oct 06
u should present it nicely to your child if he is having lots of juck food and becoming overweight
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@MrsFrizzle (1964)
• United States
1 Oct 06
Oh i hate when parents do that. I work with kids and I am overweight. I have heard many comments from children that I know where direct results form their parents. I have seen children as young as three worrying about their weight and what they eat. They also worry about being fa and that is not right. It could cause eating diorders.
• United States
1 Oct 06
My parents criticized my weight, but I was nineteen at the time so I guess I was capable of figuring things out.
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@MGarcia (331)
• United States
1 Oct 06
I agree, No one should ever tell a child they are fat or any other negative things. However, it is the parents job to make sure that the child grows up eating the right things so that child grows up healthy instead of obese.
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• India
7 Oct 06
Yes We must not critisize your child's weight. Eat as much they want but make them exercise to keep fit. This is the solution
• United States
7 Oct 06
I am one that does not beleive in that but my mom is really bad My 20 year old in 9th grade went on a diet from 270 to 155 But kids a school still called him fat boy even though he lost all that weight and went to a 35 weist.Well he gave up the diet and my mom harped on him about his weight again till he said he dont care what he looks like.Now I have a 6 year old that is a little heavy and she is on him now it hurts them more the helps them.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
You are absolutely right. It does hurt more than help. But allowing a child to eat whatever and whenever he/she wants to can be just as bad for that child. The best way to help children maintain a healthy weight is to provide ONLY healthy foods. If the junk food isn't there, they can't eat it. If they are hungry (enough), they will eat healthy things for a snack instead, like carrot sticks and fresh fruit, etc. If you want a child to eat healthily, you have to give them a role model. Here are a few web site that might help you www.kidshealth.org/kid/stay_healthy/food/snack_at... www.exrention.iastate.edu/nutrition/nutrition/kid... The parent site.com/cookbook/healthysnacks.asp Good luck
@perugu (5281)
• India
7 Oct 06
You had done a great job. I like your belief
@ShannaS (559)
• United States
7 Oct 06
I agree completely. It's been so long since I had a 21 month old I can't remember the "ideal" weight. My step daughter is ALWAYS getting criticised about her weight by her mom abd we can see the toll it takes on her. Shame the mom doesn't heed her own advise.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
I don't understand. Has she given advice to you about children and their weight? Let me know. Then I can better respond to you.
@ShannaS (559)
• United States
7 Oct 06
no she busts on her own child for being a chubby and makes her feel bad when she herself is a stocky overweight thing
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
Here is a web site that may be of some help for you. Check it out. www.pueblo.gsa.gov/cic_text/health/overweight-kid...
@sunrisekn (1467)
• United States
7 Oct 06
I won't do that to my son. Ican't imagine a child hearing all the negative. Theres an old saying and I'm probably going to get it wrong but it goes something like it takes 1000 at a boys to erase 1 bad comment.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
I'm not quite sure of your saying either, but I think what it is saying is: It takes a thousand years to erase one bad comment. This translates to me as, 'You can never erase the effects of a negative comment'. Does this sound about right? Regardless, It is a true story, and I'm stickin' to it!!! Thanks for the 'saying'. I hope I translated it correctly.
@sunrisekn (1467)
• United States
7 Oct 06
Sounds great to me. I must watch way too much Dr. Phil :) I think I'm getting his sayings confused!! lol Thank you....
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
Your welcome. Dr. Phil?....Oh please....Just look at the man!! Negative feelings, yes... Weight control, no.
• United States
7 Oct 06
My kids are over weight now, and my mom is always ragging them and me about it, I just tell her that not to do this, they are Beautiful..
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
Yes, I am sure they are beautiful. I am also sure your mother has only concern for your children's health. I'm sure she doesn't understand that the way she is going about it, is doing no good. She should try another approach. Here is a website that may help her understand how it works. www.pueblo.gsa.gov/cic_text/health/overweight_kids... I hope this will be of some help to you. Thanks for your response.
• United States
7 Oct 06
I couldn't get it, and you are right, she means well, she just wants them to fit in and be healthy.. The sight wouldn't get it.. Thank you too
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
I'm sorry about the web site. I search a lot of topics and sometimes it is frustrating when many of them, aren't. Here are a couple of others. They don't deal with weight directly, but if you can get them, I'm sure you will find something on it and if not, they will still have useful information about children. www.kidshealth.org/kid/stay_healthy/food/snack_at... www.extention.iastate.edu/nutrition/nutrition/kid... Theparentsite.com/cookbook/healthysnacks.asp I hope these work for you this time. If not just do a search for anything related to children's weight, childrens diets, healthy eating habits, and things like that. Good luck again.
• United States
7 Oct 06
My daughter is 9 months she weighs 16 lbs. But she is long so she doesn't look chubby and if she did I would love her the same. As long as she is happy and healthy that is all im worried about. It breaks my heart when people talk down to their children about their weight.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
I breaks my heart when adults talk down to any child for any reason.
• United States
7 Oct 06
Mine too. I wish their were better parents in the world.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
I'm doin' my best to educate. Sometimes it's like knocking you head against a brick door, and it just won't open.