Mom's Blame me for everything...

India
January 1, 2007 1:07pm CST
Hey guys... i am really annoyed with my mom's actitude... For her i am always the guilty for everything that happens: Someone break a glass... Mom: "Renzooooo!! What the hell you did now!!?" I was 100 mettres away from the place where the glass broke and "i did it..." then... my little brother lost MY gameboy and she told my mom i hid it... and my Mom: "Renzoooo!! Give the gameboy to your brother" ME: "I dont have it!!" Mom: "Give him the Gameboy now!!" ME: "F*CK!! I dont have it!!" Mom: "Go to your room and you wont get out until you decide to give the gameboy to your brother...".......... Thats really annoying.... What should i do??!!
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47 responses
@KahYee (104)
• Netherlands
1 Jan 07
Tfusion, you are in the EXACT situation like me!!! serious, i'm not joking!!! everthing that goes wrong, it is MY fault. not my bro's It's very anoying isn't it? you really haven't done anything wrong, but yet you still get blamed for it. how to solve it? answer: don't know, I still have to find the answer myself. one thing I found, is that yelling back at them WON'T help, try to defend youself with arguements, for that glass case, i would have said: "Mum, i'm 100 metres from it and I really can't have done it, unless I have used magic, but there isn't magic in this world, right mum?? right??" oh well, that's what I do... I'll pray for you. (and myself) good luck!
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• India
1 Jan 07
Ohh!! What the hell you think i do? But she says "Dont lie me!! You did it and thats it! you have to see your errors" I Try to dont say any bad word but its hard...
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@KahYee (104)
• Netherlands
1 Jan 07
I understand... it's very hard to don't use bad words :( sometimes if i'm really angry, I'll shout it all the way. if you think about it, it's quite silly. :P
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• Ireland
2 Jan 07
This discussion made me smile because it was exactly like that for me as a kid. Everything that happened, I got the blame for, even if my brother admitted it was him, I still got the blame for letting him get into trouble (like I could stop him!). It was really frustrating and first I hated my brother because of it, then I ended up hating being around my mother, then when I got older and moved out, my mother had another child and everything that he did, my brother got the blame for :) I laugh at it now but at the time it was horrible. Try keeping out of your mother's way, she may just be stressed about something and taking it out on you. She's not being fair and there isn't a lot you can do about it while you are living at home but I'm sure that one day you will have a better relationship. Best of luck.
• Japan
2 Jan 07
That sounds so bad! Why don't you try and change the feeling of the situation by just walking up to your mother now and giving her a big hug and a big kiss! I'm sure it'll put a smile on her face and she'll feel so much better! Maybe you'll feel better too. Try it with your brother too! Good luck! kumiko xo
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@satyamss (870)
• India
1 Jan 07
May b u hv made such impression on ur moms mind bcz of ur past acts... if u did not do it as i say above...i never saw such a mom! try to convinse her with cool attitude...and talk her about this...and try to know the reason abt it all happenings... then response her.. i wish u all the best!
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@coldmoon (1092)
• France
2 Jan 07
If I was in the same situations, I would say "Mom, I swear that I didn't do that, otherwise I would lose my mother". But it's just a hypothesis. In fact, my mother doesn't match with me , but she never accuses me falsely.
• India
2 Jan 07
Don't swear, instead say " I know i didn't do it and there is nothing you can do about it. I don't realy have any time to think of what you think of me (X-P) "
@imakella (669)
• United States
1 Jan 07
mom has rights to blame u ! do what ever she orders to do. have a respect towards ur mom. wah twould u do if ur mom blames u ?
• India
1 Jan 07
How can i have respect to here if she annoys me all the time... Do you want me to be happy if she says that i am doing something wrong that im not!!? Its impossible... i hope it gets better
@clookid (75)
• New Zealand
3 Jan 07
I am in the same position.... I always get banned from the computer for weeks on end!
@ausp7883 (47)
• India
2 Jan 07
hi ... i think ur mom is working right?.... if yes then this might have been because of her work tension..... since your the eldest she thinks that u will be responsible enough to take care of everything at home during her absence.... so firstly u try to give as much as love u can to your brother then move forward to your mom and express your feelings to her when she blames u for nothing.... tell her that your grown up and u can take care of anything and not to worry.....
@vladut (20)
• Moldova
2 Jan 07
you're not the only one.. it happens to us all the time.. I once was just surfing the Internet when my brother broke smth.. And h\she instantly cried: VLAD!!! What did you do?
• United States
2 Jan 07
OoOoO..I cant help you out there...As i have no clue how to handle that. I was thr youngest of 5 kids, and ended being an only child after my sister moved away :( But i do suggest sitting down with your mother and explain to her, that You didnt break the glass, and that you dont have the gameboy. Ask her why she assumes is you tha does everything, KWIM??
@sahergul (774)
• Pakistan
2 Jan 07
well try to do counseling with her and tell her calmly that what she says and what u expect... theres always a way out... find it ...
@paraacbe (231)
• India
2 Jan 07
moms always look devils to us in dis age..bt its not true
@hurri03 (40)
• Romania
2 Jan 07
I don't know what to say.Maybe you should talk with her.
@SWAP007 (88)
• India
2 Jan 07
mom will always blame u only... becuae u wll be the one who is concerned to her.... and she loves u only na thats why
• India
2 Jan 07
Friend don't think like that moms are the one which love their children than anyone.You be good to her whatever she says because she is not going to lie with till the end friend after you got a job or you marreid it happens you may live her and go away somewhere.
@lafavorito (2966)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
I was in the similar situation a few years back, how I got out of it? I just let her blow steam on me, scream at me all she wants but I know I'm innocent. Don't bother defending yourself because your mom sounds unreasonable, just let her scream at you but don't feel bad if you haven't really done something wrong. Let her blame her blame you for everything that's her happiness, all you have to do is study hard, be the best in class or in sports, she'll realize one of these days that you're not as bad as she thinks you are.
• India
2 Jan 07
i think it's bad.
@anushri (961)
• India
2 Jan 07
dont worry it happens just talk with ur mom y is she behaving like this way
@quatelmon (955)
• United States
2 Jan 07
You probably did something at one point that makes her not feel that she can trust you. You are, however, only 12. I think that having a thing like a play boy bunny next to your profice would make me be a caustious mother. :P I wish I had a suggestion for you. However, I know that if you love your family, when you are older things will get better. Just remember to continue to love and treat your family right, as hard as that may be!!!
@catchre (407)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
Get lost. Get a Life. or you can choose to talk to your mom and ex[plain your side calmly.
@banta78 (4335)
• India
2 Jan 07
I think it is tough for you having you mother blame you for everything. i think she has a bad impression of yu as she thinks you are the naughty one in the house and so she believes easily that you are one at fault not others. i think you can't change your situation overnight. I think you should try to love your mother and little brother. Give them both hugs and kisses espcially to your mother. And don't get into arguments with your mom or don't shout back at her or abuse anybody because that will show you in poor light and your mother's bad impression towards you will only harden. I think you genuinely need to be nice and good boy and do everything that is good boy is supoosed to do that will please his mother. like you study hard, help your mother with house work, clean your dishes, help your little brother with homework, and not abuse anybody and he healpful to everybody then when your friends, teachers,a nd neighbours, and your own family members everybody will prasie you, your mother will feel proud of you and she will change her opinion about you. but be patient and focussed as it will take time. good luck.