Should moms be allowed to drink on occasion?

drinking - beer
United States
January 1, 2007 1:58pm CST
I have a question for you after reading a comment somebody wrote in a discussion recently. She said basically that once you're a mother, you don't have the right to be tipsy. I have to say I don't drink very often. Maybe once every few months, I have a beer or a glass of wine. This is partly because I'm a lightweight, and partly because I don't like beer. Wine knocks me out in one sip, beer isn't very appealing, and I actually prefer mixed drinks, but the ingredients are expensive (well, more expensive than the other options). However, I don't see why even as a mother, I shouldn't be able to order an alcoholic drink at a restaurant every now and then with my meal? I don't see why I shouldn't be able to have a drink on Thanksgiving or Christmas when I'm with my family, if it's one of the few times of the year when I actually have a drink. How does this make me a bad mother? As long as I'm not getting trashed, and my husband is also there to make sure the kids are being taken care of.. then what is the problem?What do you think?
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@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
2 Jan 07
Have a drink and enjoy yourself every now and then if you wish.. who cares what some idiot thinks of you. Do they pay your bills??? as long as you are not falling over drunk and taking money away from your kids mouths to pay for a drinking habit whatever. your a grown woman. I havent drank in quite some time but hey, if I want a drink I'm gonna have one if I please. it's not breaking any laws. just dont drive when ya do it.. are your kids well fed? are they clothed? are they loved? forget what others think and live your life. dont live to please people on this earth, if your gonna live to please anybody live to please God, yourself and your family. not people on mylot lol...
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• United States
2 Jan 07
:D I most certainly won't be pleasing people on mylot. LMAO! i just thought it made for an interesting topic, after a comment i read in another discussion. it is just shocking to me what some people get in their heads about what other people should and should not be doing with their lives. ok, we're all entitled to our opinions, but i just thought that opinion - that a mother has no right to get tipsy - was just stupid. LOL
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@puma_nz (1001)
• New Zealand
2 Jan 07
What do I think??? this is one of my favourite discussions! I think that people who say "You are not meant to drink" are the WORST hipocritical, Culprits ever! I drink on Occassion, and I enjoy it.. Its a time for me to lax out and chill.. I have a very supportive Hubby who will take care of the kids for me if I want to drink.. so long as the kids have sometime with me and are fed,bathed and clothed.. I can have my time of "Letting my hair down"
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• United States
2 Jan 07
I'm glad your husband lets you have time to let your hair down. :)
@lafavorito (2965)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
Being a mother is a major sacrifice for many women, but I don't think that mothers are not allowed to be tipsy once in a while. I don't drink but I'd love to go out with my friends once a while, it's like staying in touch with your own self distinc from your spouse and children. Being a mom is a 24 hour job, we're paid with the smiles and hugs we get form our children, being able to drink is like a day-off for us. The person who said that mother's cannot be tipsy ever is probably a man or a bitter mother because she can't enjoy life anymore.
• India
2 Jan 07
as far as i see my answer is yes.....mom's should be allowed to drink on occasions
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@cheree (10)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I'm a mom of a 3 1/2 year old and i like to occasionally have a drink. It's ok as long as your child is asleep and you aren't driving any where or they are at their grandparents and it's just our night out then yes it is ok. But to say that once u are a mom no more drinking is obserd. Mom's do alot and some times they need to throw back and relax and have a drink or two without being judged. What about dad's should they be allowed to drink? Now u see how crazy that sounds it's as crazy for the mom thing too.
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• United States
2 Jan 07
I am a lot like you with my drinking habits-very rarely, and always with someone as a back up. Personally, I believe that my kids are watching every move that I make and I would like them to see how an adult or a parent drinks responsibly. I have discussed drinking with my older ones and there seems to be no big taboo on the subject which I hope will give them less desire to run out and find out what it's all about one day. I don't believe in parading around drunk in front of the kids at all, but moderation and responsible, occasional drinking is my answer
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@harsh1985 (594)
• India
2 Jan 07
absolutely not..rather i strongly protest drinking of any person. child copy each and every action into his memory and think that it is right. it also follows it but child has no sense and completely unaware about the hazards behind it!! atleast the moms who have small kids with her should not drink...
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@tba123 (457)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I think mamas are humans just like everyone else, if they want to have an occasional drink they should be allowed too And honestly if they kids are being taken care of not neglected who is anyone else to judge them? I had a drink last night and I was at home drinking and my daughter was at home with me. But I did not get drunk and there were other people (her nanny and papa) here to help take care of her. Does me drinking make me bad? I don't think so. Its the ones who stay drunk in front of their kids or that will pawn their kids off on any stranger so they can go get drunk that makes it look bad for a mom to have a drink. I think any mother who wants to have an occasional drink, that makes sure her kids are taken care of before doing so is within her own rights and shouldn't be criticize. Thats just my 2 cents into it.
@beverly1 (1130)
• United States
2 Jan 07
yes i think a mom as right to drink. long she dont drink everly day in front of the kids.
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• United States
2 Jan 07
yes it should be allowed for moms to drink occasionally. it's only once in a while and you deserve to have a good time. if someone else is watching the kids then i think it's fine. but i wouldnt drink around the kids cause it's not a good influence and they could get a hold of it. i dont think it makes you a bad mother if you're not having much to drink and only once in a while. i see no problem at all with drinking at Christmas or Thanksgiving it's the holidays.
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@mbs730 (2151)
• Canada
2 Jan 07
Just because you are a mom doesn't mean you are not entitled to do certain things! If you want a drink once in a while, I can't see the harm in it. I used to sometimes I have a drink here and there but can't really do that now because I have a problem with my liver. Besides... you are NOT just a mom, you are YOU! If you are responsible with whatever you please to do, by all means.
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• United States
2 Jan 07
I am a mother, and about 268 days a year, thats ALL that I am. But, sometimes, on occasion, like last night, I like to do my own thing. My daughter is always in a safe place, and I have NEVER drank around her. I feel that whoever made the comment that mothers dont have the right to drink, is probably bitter because she would like to have a night off once in awhile and CANT.
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@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
2 Jan 07
Well I've been tipsy in front of my children on a couple of occasions. And I don't feel ashamed about it either. I look after the children and I'm a good mother. I deserve my bit of fun now and again. As long as I don't drink in front of them all the time then I think things should be ok. I would hope that they would have a healthy approach to drinking when they're old enough to want a drink.
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@xXmeganxX (4422)
2 Jan 07
I think mum's should be allowed to do everything that a non parent does. im a mum myself and i have a drink only on special occasions, but i never get to the point where i don't know what im doing and plus my partner doesn't really like drink. I think people say this is because, as being a mum we have a huge responsibilty for our children, but it shouldn't affect the way we enjoy our social life, as longs as our children are well looked after etc, that's all that matter's!
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@bonnibp (103)
• United States
1 Jan 07
Yes they do have the right as long as they are not pregnant.
• United States
2 Jan 07
I agree- you don't need to put your life on hold just because you have kids. Dads take liberties- go out with the guys to get away from the kids. Why can't moms?
• Ireland
2 Jan 07
You would swear that women have no control over themselves, that if they had one drink then they have to keep going until they can't stand up or something. Becoming a mother doesn't mean that your life should stop and why shouldn't they have some way of relaxing or go out and have a social life. I wish my mother had spent more time winding down when I was younger instead of being as uptight as she was. She now drinks every week and she's a much nicer, mellower type of person because she lets herself relax, she's a much better mother to my youngest brother than she was with us. I remember my grandmother trying to give my own mother money to go out for a night, just so that she could babysit lol There is no reason why a mother shouldn't enjoy herself or relax as long as she isn't harming her children. The husbands who have a problem with this should seriously get over it, it's better to have a happy wife and mother than a stressed out one. In fact, my partner is the one who would encourage me to have a drink or go out with my friends because he knows everyone deserves a break. I rarely go out but when I do, I know my family are being well looked after and they probably enjoy the break away from me too :)
@Metallion (2229)
• United States
2 Jan 07
You should be able to have an occasional drink as long as your children don't see you acting drunk, a parent whether it's a father or mother should never be drunk enough that their actions make it clear to the children they are drunk.
• United States
10 Jan 07
I agree- being drunk in front of a child is never appropriate.
@azeemjz (445)
• Pakistan
2 Jan 07
Look lady actually even all the ladies except you have done all the drinking and other activites befor marriage. And after marriage when thay have their own childern they try to be as good as they can infront of their childers such that they can made the good character of their childern.
@SWAP007 (88)
• India
2 Jan 07
never moms shold be given the permissioin to drink.. man how can a mom drinkn her job is to keep her family built up.. not to disrupt it
• United States
2 Jan 07
I'm with you! I'm a mother and I have an occational drink. And hey.. even if you WERE to get trashed, your hubby's there to help with the kids that night. Just because we have kids doesnt mean we sold our life away! We're still allowed to have fun, as long as it's not going overboard.
• United States
2 Jan 07
i like your user name. ;) seriously.. if the hubby's there making sure the kids are a-ok, at least somebody is being responsible and looking out for them.
• India
2 Jan 07
drinking is really very bad whether its once or all the time so dont think of it .there r better things which u can enjoy on
• United States
2 Jan 07
Sure, there are better things in life to enjoy. However, having ONE drink (in my opinion) is neither a sin nor a problem. You do not necessarily become drunk after one drink, nor a menace, nor suddenly an irresponsible person who cannot care for their child. But thank you for your response. :)