What do you do if your child talks about suicide?

@beckyomg1 (6758)
United States
January 1, 2007 8:57pm CST
What do i do other then getting him into a session with his counseler about this? He is bipolar and goes from one state to another, his med usually keep him alright but he found another "friend" but he wanted more and she gave him that impression at first but she already had a boyfriend and she decided to stay with him. So my son got very upset with all the other things like the first break up a month or so ago. He will not talk to me and yells at me anytime i try and talk to him. I get so worried, and not sure if he really would consider this or not because of all the conditions that he has. I did call his counseler and she can see him in the morning, i just dont know what else to do.
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I would really watch him close until morning. The counselor might be able to give you some things to do. Do not take things lightly. Talk withthe counselor after he has talked with her and see what she says. Good luck to you and hope things work out.
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@beckyomg1 (6758)
• United States
2 Jan 07
oh yes i will talk to the counselor afterwards, i really just did not know what to do i love him so much and to see him like this really hurts me as lately he has really shut me out where before he at least opened up a abit to me. thank you and i will keep a close watch till morning.
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@birthlady (5613)
• United States
2 Jan 07
Tell your son how much you love him, tell him the way you are telling us. He might act like he's ignoring you, but the love seeps in. Don't demand that HE opens up. YOU open up, give him some verbal love.
@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
2 Jan 07
from other responses i see that some people really have no idea what it is like to deal with bi polar....its not as easy as slapping them out of it or telling them they cant do it....one can try to talk them out of it but its never an easy task to find things to get them to fight for.... i know these people mean well but it just frustrates me when they have no idea what it feels like or is like to live with someone suffering with a mental illness... and religion certainly isnt going to help them in my view... maybe a change of medication is needed..who knows im not a doc good luck hon
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@beckyomg1 (6758)
• United States
2 Jan 07
thank you again, im not sure on the medication, i think that it may have to be increased a little bit, it has been doing alright but when things like this happen it just make the bipolar a bit out of control. and yes alot of people do not understand living with someone that has an illness like this. thanks for the support.
• Australia
2 Jan 07
any time hon
@riyasam (16571)
• India
2 Jan 07
thats scary.even i havent experienced such thing before...i think only godly physchiatric counsellor can help
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@beckyomg1 (6758)
• United States
2 Jan 07
thank you for your response.
@sungat (1016)
• Pakistan
2 Jan 07
well will advise him donot ever try to sucide because its not the solution of your problems,if you have any kind of problem or you want any thing from me,i will provide you.but donot ever try to sucide,you must be responsable,care about yourself and donot ever try to talk about sucide.
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@beckyomg1 (6758)
• United States
2 Jan 07
thank you for your response, and yes i have told him that it is not worth it to even think about doing it.
@vanities (11401)
• Davao, Philippines
2 Jan 07
thats so depressing...try to console him to the best of your ability to calm him...and try to let him pray or you two should pray thats the only last remedy i can advice to you...prayer is a very powerful tool..havent you know that..??have faith and trust to the Almighty...
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@beckyomg1 (6758)
• United States
2 Jan 07
thank you for your response.
@lizabeth (666)
• United States
2 Jan 07
If you think your son will harm himself I would call his counseler right away and if they won't do anything call mental health or the police so he can be evaluated. I know it has to be hard with him being bipolar. My best friend was diagnosed bipolar when she was 16. It took a while to get her medication regulated.
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@beckyomg1 (6758)
• United States
2 Jan 07
yes i did call the counsler which is the mental health facility in this area, and her suggestion was if it esculated any more throught the night to call the police and have them take him to the er, it seemed to be alright through the night and we will be going to the counsler in a few hours. thank you again for the response.
• United States
2 Jan 07
I know when i was a Teen i talked and thought about it on a weekly basis..everything that happens to you IS THE END OF THE WORLD..and nothing any parent can say will get through to them.,.Being a teen is the hardest walk of life in my opinion..so many changes,and so many bad things for most, and alot of good as well..but the bad is just too over welming to a Teen..and with bi polar that itself is scary..i know many children and teen that have this and its not pretty.,they get it even harder,like thats imaginable!! But i woudl worry more in this case,because getting over the edge and not thinking is what come in Bipolar territory..So i really dont think you have much of a choice than to get some therepy for him, and get some help for you on how to deal with these matters with him..good luck!
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@beckyomg1 (6758)
• United States
2 Jan 07
thank you for the response, i know teenage times are the worst at times, yes the good and the bad, it is hard as a parent and then you wonder how your parents did it too, i will be talking to the counsler too to see what i need to do in this situation, i just dont know what to do sometimes. thank you again.
@mhv236690 (341)
• India
2 Jan 07
i wud seriosuly sit him down and talk abbt it and tell him abt the oain that i have gone thru in taking care of him!!and that every1 hopes for the best for him!and even then if he wants to do so ill give him a beating cause i love my child and woud not like to let gooo
• Australia
2 Jan 07
if you told your child about the pain that you went through taking care of him would push him over the edge because he would think its all his fault and he wouldnt want to keep you in pain... beating a child is wrong and is abuse and could push him over the edge more too i hope if you were faced with this real life, you would try other things first
• United States
4 Jan 07
You did exactly right. The therapist will evaluate him and determine if he is a threat to himself or others. If he is, then he will be put on a 72 hour hold in a mental hospital for evaluation. At the end of that time it is up to the doctor if he will keep him longer against his will.
@mirage108 (3403)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Dont make him talk just ask him to listen for a few. Tell him you love him and that you are there when he wants to talk. then let him be but keep an eye on him. I am sure things will work out. he just needs the time.
• United States
3 Jan 07
Absolutly have a meeting with your counseler, all of you and individualy!. If he is bi-polar he should be on meds and maybe find somekind of martial arts for him to attend. It is not all learning about fighting it is also about centering ones self and quieting the mind. Maybe he will benefit from it?!. My brother in law was diagnosed bi-polar. I have empathy for you. Just hang in there, :) LOL
@suny1946 (275)
• China
3 Jan 07
hold him back
@shyam4uall (1002)
• India
3 Jan 07
Yeah he needs a counsellor but above all he needs a mother and her love..You have to make him understand that what have happened have happened forget that and step forward in the future.You have to be with him as much time as you can give so that he doesn't feel himself lonely.
• India
2 Jan 07
First thing i would like to tell is spend as much time as you can with him. Be a child with him and play with him. Speak the things by which he feels really happy. Praise him and make him feel that he is good and the girl who duped him is not meant for him. Make him feel that he is the best and deserves a better one. Try to induce more of positive things in his mind and see to it he smiles. This will solve this.
@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
2 Jan 07
hope things are going ok for you over the night hon...i dont know what time it is where you are but im keepin positive for ya..
@tiggyann (614)
• United States
2 Jan 07
hunny I would be seaking a doctor to get him some help! This is nothing to put off, if he is talking about it, then there is a chance he could actually do it! krissy
@azeemjz (445)
• Pakistan
2 Jan 07
Easy talk to your son that there are not only the two girls in the whole world. And what is he doing that he is giving his life for only girls. ANd what about the parents that do for him.
@hurri03 (40)
• Romania
2 Jan 07
I think that you should talk with him and try to find out what worries him.
@hurri03 (40)
• Romania
2 Jan 07
I think that you should talk eith him and try to find out what worries him.
• India
2 Jan 07
I will talk to my child and will told that life is very long and it will be never going to end till last breathe. I will disscuss about the matter with child and will try to find some some solution to the problem.