Do you let your husband do home improvement projects?

@Thoroughrob (11750)
United States
January 1, 2007 10:43pm CST
Would it be easier and go alot smoother if you just hired it done. My husband does most of ours, but I just hate it. He is nasty and if something doesn't go right, he throws things. It would be alot easier to hire it done. He makes me an emotional wreck. lol
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@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
I'm the husband and fortunately by training and inclination I do woodworking, plumbing, electical, electronics, carpentry and I do it for a living too. So I guess my case is a little different. Maybe it's also true with many people out there.
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
2 Jan 07
Wow! If my partner threw thing around, I wouldn't be standing around...even if he asked me. LOL My partner and I do projects together. It is funny sometimes too because I am very mechanical so I can figure things out better than he can sometimes. Then we will stand there and argue about it. LOL Then we also have difference on opinions on quality. I want to fix things and make it work and look good. He wants to tear it apart, gut it, throw it away, and start all over. I feel like I am fixing messes all the time. But then he will surprise me and do something on his own and do it right! Of course, I will have to touch it up if it is painting...he has a bad habit with painting and slopping it. I have the perfectionist point of view. And he has, that's good enough point of view. He will just build something without looking at instructions and then get lost needing my help. I will at least look at the pictures to see if I need instructions and then work step by step if necessary. We are total opposites in every way, but we get it done. Arguing and laughing...it gets done. LOL
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
2 Jan 07
My husband doesn't read directions either. After he is already frustrated he'll need my help. If he asks me a question and I get it right and he couldn't figure it out. He gets aggarvated. Not so much at me, but with himself. He is normally a laid back, nothing bothers him kind of person, but let him work on a project and look out.
• United States
27 Feb 07
If he wasn't good at what he did, most certainly- but I know its so hard to get him to understand how you feel. Luckily mine is good at fixing things.
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@weemam (13377)
26 Feb 07
My husband has never been good at DIY , I used to do it all because my father taught me how , But since my hubby gave up work through heart problems he has become so good at housework , he is even more thorough than me, He has had surgery lately but he is missing helping in the home , but he has loads of time to do it again , as long as he is with me I am quite content xx
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• United States
25 Feb 07
LOL, I feel your pain. My husband rattles my nerves with home improvements projects too! I wouldn't mind so much if there was some planning involved. I can't tell you how many times I have walked in on one of his projects. Sometimes, I hate to leave him home alone even if it is only for a few hours. He gets bored, starts a project, makes a mess and next thing you know he's tired. There I am stuck with a half completed project, a big mess and a husband passed out on the couch. But not for very long...Sometimes household cleaning can be very NOISY.
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I try and do most projects on my own. But some are best done by a professional. Maybe you should try and give your husband encouragement. I have thrown a few tools in my time and it never once helped me to finish a project. But it sometimes helped me to release the frustration. That was in my younger days. Now, I have much more patience.
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@earthsong (589)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Your hubby sounds a lot like mine. All he does is complain about how screwed up everything is when he works on something in the house. But it never stops him from starting a new project. He always says we're hiring something done "next time", but we never do. I think he just likes to complain.
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• United States
29 Jan 07
I do all of the repairs, My hubby does the electrical and most of the plumming but I build the new walls, cabinates, countertops, shelves whatever needs done. We cant aford to hire someone to do it and I have fun.
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@villageanne (8554)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I hate it when I see my husband beginning to tackle a DIY job in the house. He is good but he too throws things and says things that he would not normally say. I have found that it is best if I just leave the house till he is finished. LOL
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
7 Jan 07
if i know that he knows how to do a home improvement project yes i let him. but the reality is i do more home improvement projects then he does. probably because i watch those home improvement shows and learn how to do things then i want to try them. i have put up drywall, fixed the sink, patched a couple holes in the walls (kids got to love them), taken cabinets down and put new ones up, painted, put down new floors and much more. my next project is the kitchen counters. i plan to redo them and the floor in the kitchen. that home and garden channel gets expencive!lol
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@mcmomss (2601)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I let my husband do home improvements, the problem is getting him to finish them. He starts things and it takes him forever to finish things.
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• United States
6 Jan 07
My husband recently put on an enclosed porch. He went to Home Depot and asked for help with what to buy. The clerk told him that he would have to tear down the existing porch and start from scratch. He didn't listen to him. He came home and took out some books that I have collected on home improvements. He went back to Home Depot and purchased the items he would need such as nails, bolts, etc. He constructed the enclosure out of scrap wood. The only thing we purchased new was the tin roof.
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• United States
4 Jan 07
My husband used to get mad and throw things, but he and I discussed it and he's made a real effort to control his temper. I used to leave when he'd get mad. Now he's got a friend who he meets with once a month and they talk about how to control his temper and they study from the Bible about it. I can't tell you how much that has helped! We do projects together all the time. We remodeled our kitchen, remodeled a house and are now building a new construction house together. We do the work ourselves. I design and he builds. I measure and he cuts. I hold and he nails. We are a good team now that he has his temper under control. It's a personal improvement thing for him. I'm really proud of him for his effort!
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
3 Jan 07
minor things i do let my bf fix, but i think if it came to a major thing then i would have to hire someone, only because he may not be able to do it, though i would rather him to do it since it would cost less.
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@jmp824 (741)
• Philippines
3 Jan 07
It will be much better if you and your husband do the planning on home improvement. Inputs or suggestions from other people will do just fine.
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• Japan
3 Jan 07
I'm not married - yet - but if i was i would certainly let him do so! i'm hopeless with my hands and if i did the problems would become worse! haha!! he can do everything - cleaning, washing, everything! haha!! kumiko xo
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• Philippines
3 Jan 07
Well, let him know how you feel and better get the house done by an expert who have more patience.
@Pmcbride (1082)
3 Jan 07
I am a husband, who likes to fix things, i will have a go at anything, i can fix pc's & i have done a few years at electronic servicing classes, but i will have a go at fixing anything thats broken (i have a tendency to swear a lot if things don't go the way i want), but my wifes main complaint about me fixing things is that i won't give up, i'll keep on going, sometimes for 12 hours straight (won't even stop to eat, depending on how much it's annoying me!!), but it usually works out that i get it fixed in the end, Washing machines, tumble driers, pc's,tv's, kitchen units, tiling,shelving,building things, i love the feeling that you get when you have actually achieved something on your own that would have cost £100-£200 (sometimes £300-400) had i got someone in. But i do know when a job is too big for me. I have made things that my wife has said "NO, you're not doing it, it's too much e.g. made a formal two piece basque & skirt for my nephew's girlfriend's formal dance (i use a sewing machine too), or i made a set of loose covers for someone's 3 piece suite, or recovered all of our caravan furniture, i'll do anything for a really good challenge and sometimes i even surprise myself.
@suny1946 (275)
• China
3 Jan 07
I am a man.
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@Bee1955 (3886)
• United States
3 Jan 07
Are you sure you aren't talking about my husband? I really prefer to hire a contractor, but he gets out his Handyman's book of Household repairs, gets his toolbox and after 3 hours of cussing and banging for a 1/2 hr job, I have to call a plumber to complete the now bigger repair under the bathroom sink. THEN, he stands over the man constantly bugging the poor guy until he and I want to scream. Once the plumber is paid and gone, hubby then whines: 'But I almost had it!' -Now really!
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