Will u suggest LOVE or ARRANGED MARRIAGE to your children?

India
January 2, 2007 12:31am CST
I prefer arranged marriages but i will suggest them to have a chat and know them better before tying the knot.
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21 responses
• United States
2 Jan 07
Arranging my child's marriage is not even an option. Personally, I would not be happy if I could not follow my heart and love who I truly wanted to love. I would never force my children to do anything they were not willing to do, especially when it came to love. Not saying that I oppose it all together, because I do embrace the cultures and traditions of other countries. But if I ever have kids of my own, they will grow up knowing that they have choices in life and that it is up to them to choose what's best for them. Of course, I will guide them when needed...but at the end of the day when it comes to love and relationship I want them to feel like they are doing it because they want to not because they have to.
• India
4 Jan 07
okay not everone does,but what about the attitudes and principles? Dont tell me that moral values dont count today.
• India
4 Jan 07
moral values? what have morals got to do with arranged or love marriage? If two people love each other and decide to get married, how does it becomes immoral?
@jobinbabu (152)
• India
5 Jan 07
i will leave the choice to them
• India
10 Jan 07
hey but as an indian dont u think one must obey n follow the traditions and cultures?
@julie0825 (1415)
• Philippines
5 Jan 07
NO I WONT DO THAT HOW IF THE CHILD DOES NOT LOVE THE PERSON WHAT LIFE THEY COULD BE TOGETHER
• India
10 Jan 07
but india, arranged marriages are a big success...
@Lady_Vincy (1540)
• United States
3 Jan 07
I will suggest LOVE since I believe that everybody should have a choice in who they want to be maried. Arranged marriages don't allow for choice.
• India
10 Jan 07
no , in india, the parents show a couple of photos to their daughter and ask them to select, are u from india?
@edelweiss (1929)
• India
3 Jan 07
I have no problem with either but I will want them to discuss it with us as their parents about their plans and ask our advise much before things go out of hand and that may ruin two families. I will have to trust my education to the child and should understand reasons behind his or her choice and discuss it out rather than making a decision blindly.
• India
10 Jan 07
do u have children?
• Malaysia
3 Jan 07
Prefer love,if you don`t love,how can you can stand long for the marriage
• India
10 Jan 07
i think u r forgetting something abt trust which is also important..
• India
3 Jan 07
I also agree with your opinion because both of them will get ample scope to know each other before marriage because marriage is not a child's play.
• India
10 Jan 07
so u support only love marriage?
@paul8675 (750)
• Australia
2 Jan 07
Arranged marriage is always a strange concept for me. I don't know how it could work in most instances. Marriage based on love must be more successful.
• India
10 Jan 07
but as they say in india that individuals learn to love only after tying the knot, so its better to marry someone who is chosen by the parents who knows best..
@rmuxagirl (7561)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I would prefer my children to marry for love. People should be able to choose who they want to marry, only they know who would be right for them and they want to spend their life with.
• India
10 Jan 07
yeah, possibly true.
• United States
2 Jan 07
I prefer love marriage. We have so much to overcome when we marry why should there be the obstacle that we dont know each other or end up not interested. Its better to find out if you love each other first. I think.
• India
10 Jan 07
yes to a certain extent u r right.
@marciascott (25554)
• United States
2 Jan 07
N, I think they shold get married. especially if they have children.
• India
5 Jan 07
Yes, but do you support the system of arranged marriages that exists in India?
@assamese (35)
• India
15 Jan 07
I would let my children decide their way.Although I would surely take interest in knowing their heart.Its their life and they are the one who's goin to spend the rest of their life with the person they choose.
@Netsbridge (3242)
• United States
12 Jan 07
See why not. If I ran into someone I really liked and think the person may be good for my child, why not set things into motion? I, however, will not force my child into any relationship without his/her consent. Will just get the ball rolling!
@siluka (304)
• Romania
11 Jan 07
i will suggest to search for a perfect 'pair'
@tildy12 (760)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I want my Daughter to choose the person she wants to marry .I would not ever consider arranging a marriage for her.
• United States
11 Jan 07
An arranged marriage used to sound like an old fashioned or restrictive idea until I began to look around at what happens for some people when they choose for themeslves. Ten years ago I would have said that love is the only reason to marry, but maybe having a team of wiser people help out with selecting a mate isn't so crazy afterall. Who knows?
• India
10 Jan 07
I will prefer arrange marriage, but will tell them to that they must know each other well before engaging in it. As it is there responsibility to live a happy life in next future. Love marriages are also acceptable but nowadays they can be converted to arrange marriages.
@minnie_98214 (10572)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Who says you have to suggest marriage just kidding. Being divorced myself i would suggest love and too be sure dont rush into anything.
@valmiki (84)
• India
4 Jan 07
I myself prefer love marriage amd will certainly suggest my children also to do the same thing. I just dont understand who introduced the concept of arranged marriage and why !!
• India
4 Jan 07
I think a person should thouroughly know the person he's marrying and like him for the same qualities. Arranged marriages turn out to be a bigger gamble as the parents only look for a specific set of qualities (well settled, decent background, family etc) in their chidren's spouse. Ultimately it's the children who have to spend their lives together and it becomes very difficult to adjust if the natures of the two people are totally different. if their interests do not match, marriage becomes a burden. We need to understand the purpose of marriage. you have to like and understand the person whom you want to spend your life with. U need to have at least a few common interests, common dreams, you need to like the company of that person. Even if an arranged match, parents should consider these factors as well. you should enjoy the company of your spouse or you'll not live your life, you'll just spend it.