Is caning or using the rod to 'discipline' your child good?

good...when cained children remember it,so mostly wont do again but always caining is not the solution...children can be explaind by talk first and love.really it does wonders

I don't think beating your kids is disciplining them, you should try talking to them and punishing them by taking away fun things from them and stick to your words don't go back they will never take you seriously.

The parents in modern age do not use canes or rod to discipline children. Even in school, they have received strict instructions from government to avoid these kinds of punishment.

I say no way is caning or hitting with a rod any good, maybe a little spank on the bottom sometimes it they are 5, but to me it doesn't work, what works for me is if I take some of my daughters favorite things away, that definatly gets her attention.

I spank my child with my hand and that is it. I first put her in the corner if she won't listen, then if she still doesnt listen, that is when I spank her. I find that putting her in the corner works better.

Hitting a child only tells them that it is ok to hurt others. I agree that talking with them, tell them what you expect from them. I have used time out and groundings also. Mostly, I sit them down, face to face, ask them what they were thinking when they did whatever they did. Then after they are done speaking I tell them why it was not acceptable and what happens in the big world when they do such things. Then leave them alone to think about it a while.

No..violence begets violence...And in this country it could send you to jail if you canned a child.

It is child abuse.

No. I have two kids and I do not use the cane on them. Sometimes, when I am really angry, I might slap the elder one on his upper arm but not heavily. I think children are so soft and fragile. Parents should not try to pass their anger by beating children. I hate parents who does that and I silently cry when I see someone doing that.

Good? Perhaps not, I believe it can cause the child to act worse rather than better the moment they're hit, and stir up worse complications. Time-out's, corners, simply not giivng their favourite sweets/activities I think is far more easier to 'hurt' the child without having to physically hurt them.

Discipline is essential to all children's lives. A rod?? A cane?? Not likely. I'm not against spanking, but there is a line between discipline and abuse.

caning is not good by any means..it will actually spoil the child..

My children are nearly 10, nearly 8 and four and a half. They know that if they misbehave, they will get a smack on the bottom. I do not believe in smacking on the arms, legs, head, or anywhere else. They understand the consequences of bad behaviour, and understand that mum loves them, they just need to be good. My husband used to get the "belt or strap" from his father when he misbehaved. If he is asked, did he deserve every belting that he got, the answer is yes. He even admits that he should have copped a few that he missed out on. So, it depends on the individual and the age of a child. A 2 year old will not understand reasoning, but will understand a firm "NO" and a smack on the bottom.

I do not hit my kids! I have a 3 kids, 2,7,and10. I think that if you hit a child youare teaching them that you can and will hurt them. They will become afraid of you. My 2 year old, I redirect him and use a low voice to say "NO NO" My two older I talk to. When they do something cruel to one another or another child I make them write about it. Why it was wrong and what they should do next time this happens. When they are fighting woth one another I make them sit across from each other at the table and write down 10 things about why they love each other and then make them read it to one another. They are always smiling at the end. You need to get creative. try to think of how you felt at their age!

Caning, no. Hitting with a switch. No. Spanking with a hand on a fatty bottom. Sometimes. However, I have found it is best to talk to children and help them learn consequences outside of physical interaction.

It is wrong to hurt someone physically or verbally, in order to correct them. It is wrong to hurt someone at any time. Tonight, for example, I had a small disagreement with my soon-to-be step-son, and I discussed it with his father. I approached both of them (his Dad thought I was being a bit over-sensitive) and we RESOLVED IT!!! I was FLOORED by both of them. I was so totally floored by how SMOOTHLY things ran, and by how we were agle to discuss it, in very few words too. I spoke, they spoke, we all realized.... No verbal or physical blows were exchanged, and the problem was solved.