Not for singles please!!!

@ilunice (947)
Netherlands
January 2, 2007 2:06am CST
For those members that are married. Now that you are married and have been through ups and downs with your spouce,if you have the option to change your spouse and marry another person of your choice (without going through the problems of legal divorce or settlement), just wondering how many of you would gladly do that. Please be honest. This question was raised in the church i attended. it was suprising to see people raising up their hands even in the presence of their spouse. Please be honest with your answer. This is such a very odd world where people believe that variety is the spice of life.
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@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
2 Jan 07
So far I haven't met anyone else who I would rather be married to than my current husband. That is not to say that I wouldn't ever meet someone else, it just hasn't happened yet. I have on numerous occassions thought that I might be better off alone but in the end I have decided to stay. My husbnad has a lot of issues that drive me nuts and we do argue at times but for the most part he is a good husband. If I could change some things about him, well that is a different story. I for one would give him more of a sense of humor like mine. I would also change him to be more patient and help more with raising our daughter. He is not perfect but neither am I and I am sure there are many things he would change about me as well.
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@ilunice (947)
• Netherlands
2 Jan 07
I guess you are genuinely in love with him. Love find no faults.and keeps no record of wrong doing.
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@Bee1955 (3882)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I feel the same. Sometimes I feel I'm better off alone, but then mine is not perfect and neither am I, but we do get along 98% of the time (LOL). However, change to another spouse, I say no - I rather stay with him.
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• United States
3 Jan 07
in the 27 years that i been married never thought about anyone that way we had lot of up and down she love me when i was up and she love me the same when i was down so if i had a choice it would be the same woman i love for 27 years and hope for 27 more it not a one side to married it take two to make a married so if you have second though then you done made your choice thank you for letting me how much i love my spouse
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@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 07
well honestly if i can chance my spouse who has a financial future then maybe i will raise my hands too.but however i havent found any candidates for that lol, there are lots of rich man i know but i dont like them to be my spouse, because i see they are not as good as my husband, anyway every human has a good part and bad part so there's no such a thing as a perfect person.so even i chance my spouse with a rich man but i'm sure i will still have another problem with his bad part.so i prefer not to chance my spouse coz i love him so much and he always makes me smile and love me and a hard worker even though he's not rich or handsome :)
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@Meljep (1666)
• United States
3 Jan 07
Humans must realize that humans will be human. Just because someone changes spouses doesn't mean that the new relationship will not have problems. Maybe not the same problems, but different problems. No marriage is perfect, but what you choose to do with that imperfect relationship is the key factor.
• United States
2 Jan 07
This is a selfish question and I can't imagine the context that would cause a preacher to ask for a show of hands on this one! WoW!!!!! My wife has not been perfect... but she has loved me, forgiven me, supported me, put up with me, bore my children, and been a faithful companion... there are some negatives... not worth mentioning! A better question might be... if I had to start over with my wife, what would I do to be a better husband, lover, father, friend, encourager to her! It's not what you get that counts... it is what you give! Vita brevis! Carpe diem!
3 Jan 07
I've been with my husband for almost 7 yrs, and we've been through our ups and downs but we've always been there for eachother, he's sexy, loving and a great guy. We have a great marriage and family. I would never want to trade him in!
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@leonilyn (467)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
i dont want to.. i am happy with my hubby and i am getting happier. if i had a choice i still have to choose my husband. he is the only person who understand me alot. even if he is sarcastic almost all the time i find it fine. i have been with a guy for about 4 years before. he is very soft spoken and very kind on me. i dont feel any challenge anymore. thats why i chose my husband. he is my best choice of all time.
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
2 Jan 07
MY SPOUSE IS ALWAYS BESIDE ME AT THE TIME OF MY HAPPINESS AND CRISIS. THERE IS NOT EVEN ONE GOOD REASON FOR ME TO REPLACE HER. EVEN IN CASE I EXIST ON MY NEXT BIRTH I WISH THE SAME PERSON TO BE MY LIFE PARTNER.
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@car0811 (184)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
I used to think that it's easier to just look for another husband or marry a new one. Now, I wouldn't want to change my spouse because we've been through a lot and our foundation is stronger now. If i will marry again, I have to start building a new relationship which would entirely mean new adjustments with a new person(or a total stranger perhaps)---and that is quite hard to do than maintaining,valuing,and working on something that you already have.
• United States
18 Jan 07
I for one am completely happy with the partner that I have. Sure if I were still married to my first husband, I would probably be one of the first to raise my hand. Not now though the man that I am with now is the greatest in the world. He is a wonderful father, a great supporter for our family, and he is my best friend in the world. No way would I ever want to try and find another one like him.
@shorva (923)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
there's soooo many things about what my husband does that i really really don't like and no matter what i do, nag, cry beg etc. i cldnt change his ways.but despite of this i dont know why i cldnt hate him and no matter how angry i get at the end of the day i still manage to tell him how much i love him.and if id have to live my life again id still wish that he's the one i'm goin to end up with forever.so i'l stick with him no matter what.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 07
honestly, i wont change my preference. i'd still marry my husband. i'd rather be alone than with somebody else. we've had our share of ups and downs but those are not enough to make me change my mind. i can pretty much say that im happy with him. =)
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@AskAlly (3625)
• Canada
2 Jan 07
A year ago I would have answered no way. But now I wonder about what it would be like to be with this other certain person. I don't know that I would marry this other man, but I sure would like to.....well you know, at least just once.
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@jenalyn (675)
• United States
18 Jan 07
If I were unhappy I would get a divorce. I don't believe that I will be on this earth long enough to just not do something about it if I am unhappy. I wouldn't want to change my spouse. We are always renewing our love for each other because it keeps on growing. It has been 10 years and I am still physically and mentally attracted to my husband. We both keep changing and growing, so our relationship hasn't become boring or like watching the same movie over and over. I love my husband flaws and all!
@craftwave (1338)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I've been married for 25 years. I would never in a million years change for another spouse. I've already got the best there is. When you have the best what more do you need? He not only is my spouse but my very best friend.
• United States
18 Jan 07
well if it come sto it no i would n't becuase me an dhusband has been through alot together and there is no other one for me and i wouldn't even try to look to see if there is another man for me im happy with the one i have now and we have had our troubles but we have worked through them and now we are getting along much better now
@ssnaqvi (283)
3 Jan 07
well i would love to have four wives living happily with one another, if i can afford them .
@bugbaby (1787)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 07
I think I would possibly change little things like try to make her less forgetful or get her to help out more with the dishes. I imagine what my life would be like if I were single and it seems good to me but my wife and I have been through so much. I'm thankful now, because I know I would never have been as happy with her as I am with my wife now, I couldn't be happier with anyone, my wife is AWESOME! Just being honest, like you wanted
@jojopuff (520)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I could never marry anyone else. I was lucky enough to meet the love of my life and marry him, and I would never want to change that. I am completely happy with my husband, and if I wasn't, I wouldn't have married him. I love him with all my heart and nothing will ever change that!
@spreadout (127)
• Nigeria
17 Jan 07
I can't think of any reason why i should change my partner,as far as am concern she's the most beautiful woman in the world,and though she's not perfect,i will stick with her no matter what,i hope to marry her again in Heaven when we transit to the great beyond..lol