What do you think of love relationships now?

Philippines
January 3, 2007 2:47pm CST
didn't you ever wish when you were just a little kid that someday you'll meet that certain person you'll love and live happily ever after with? do you think it still exists now or people just tend to be practical and go on with their lives? I always dreamt of spending my life with the very first and last person i love. Im so happy that it came true, i mean almost :) we're not married yet but we plan to in God's time. It's almost 6 yrs now and our ralationship's growing strong. We started as bestfriends, i guess that's why we last this long. It's been a blessing from GOD since the day we met. im chim, and i love to hear your opinions and better yet your own love story :)
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60 responses
4 Jan 07
Hey man you are really lucky in the sense that things are going really well. According to my understanding on the Love case I will say that there are two things because of which the love reduces day by day: 1. Expectations 2. Comparision Expectations: When we have over expectations, this comes when we look at the past i.e. we think that in so and so situation my partner is going to act in so and so way. When the partner doesn't behave in that manner there is a small gap created somewhere in the mind. But the partner has reacted differently than what he/she have reacted in the past is because of time and different level of bondages. Now if you are highly bonded to each other than you are not going to expect few things that you would have ignored at the time when you have an initial bondage. Comaprision: This is the major factor in reducing love. This comes when we compare our partner with someone else partner and as human beings there are certain changes in the nature of the person. Another interesting part is we pick only the stuff that is important to us like, his/her partner allows to partying all the night and doesn't object. the reason one person has picked up this as good thing from another person's partner is because he/she wants to party all the night. And in that case the respect of your partner goes down and people tend to find mistakes in their partner. If we have overcome these two factors and try to think about all good things and see how happy we are without compairing other people happiness than love stays forever. I am married with a girl who I knew for past 3 years and still we have the same level of love. I am blessed as she never look at what other couples are up to and same as I do. Hope this makes some sense.
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• United States
4 Jan 07
I married my high school sweetheart. We were together for 3 yrs in high school and split up right before my senior yr. I didnt know I was pregnant with his daughter, and we split up. He got very jealous and we stopped talking after a huge fight one night. I married someone else, and had another child. we saw each other from time to time. I got divorced after 4yrs. 9yrs after our original split we met up on a night that was destined to be. Many things in the universe had to happen to make the night possible. we saw each other, my ex husband thought he was being funny and pointed me out to my highschool sweetheart. I saw him and spent the next few hours catching up. we have been together ever since. We have our problems, just like everyone else does. But I do think he is my solemate. That we are ment for each other.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
4 Jan 07
I think that it was only make belief now that I am an older woman and see how life really does go on it is not like a fairy story at all but when we are young we are very vulnerable. But at least I can say I have been married for the last 25 years but that is after my third attempt at love and marriage
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@mhv236690 (341)
• India
4 Jan 07
well i think yeah some pppl end up wid their loved 1s but it takes lot of determination and commitment and u shud not think its the end of the world after just 1 relationship
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• United States
4 Jan 07
I didn't think about it when I was a kid, but yeah, I'd love to get married to "the one". I believe that there is not one "the one", but there are many with the potential to be "the one" so if something goes wrong with the person you thought was it, you have another chance, guaranteed.
• India
4 Jan 07
I am happy to announce here that I have got my true love a year ago and we have then planned to get married. This is not very new thing and it happens frequently. Then why I am telling this here? Do you know what is interesting here? We also started with friendship and then it turned up to love and even then we have not seen each other, even not in our pics. Yes, without looking our faces we fell in love and decided to stay together. Then the day came when we met each other and that were really the great moments of my life simply because she was the first girl of my life who loved me. I thought that proper love would not come to my life as I was very worse looking, and also from a poor family. I had a fear that after meeting the girl will never be mine and she certainly refuse me. But it was God who thought something different and ultimately our final decision is still there.... to get married and stay together. Today I am happy and the same for my girlfriend. I think this is true love and I am fortunate that I have got a girl like her. By the way, one thing..my darling is very goodlooking.. Hey lovers, lets enjoy your lovelife..
• India
4 Jan 07
Love always isin't an easy road to traverse when two persons are involved. It is sometimes the cause of the one of the sharpest growing pains that most of us have to experience. We usually find ourselves laying in bed at night alone & feeling lonely & wishing that there was someone next to you. Take comfort in the fact that most, if not all, single people feel that way at some time or another. According to me there are two kinds of Love-- Love as a feeling, & Love as an Attaraction. Love as feeling arise only once, after maturity stage. You cannot forget your first love untill your life ends.. Love as an attarction, a fact that you are impressed by someone which can occur frequently. The basic fact is that when Destiny decides the partner, you have got to love your partner.. So, basically relationship would get stronger only when you are not forced to do so...
• India
4 Jan 07
well actually i neva thought of havin ny gf wen i was small....... but i think dat now a days most of ppl tend to b practical nd mov on in lif dey jus dun undrstnd wat feelings r but on d oderhand dere r few ppl who undrstnd others emotions nd believ in a true relationship nd though m single but i thank god dat i beliv in a true rltionship.....
@elixir (1456)
• Guam
4 Jan 07
I had met the person i love most.But i dont whether he is my life destiny or not.I think it is possibly no.
@saikat123 (235)
• India
4 Jan 07
love is live the best thing which can happen to some one.
• United States
4 Jan 07
First off, congratulations on finding a good relationship that is rewarding to you. I think that you did well by starting out as friends to discover all that you had in common and were already aware of any differences that you might have. You have also taken your time and not rushed into this relationship so that you could grow together. No relationship is happy all of the time, nor does it avoid differences, but having a willingness to work through those times and being able to sometimes agree to disagree will help any relationship survive. It sounds like you have a strong religous faith as well to help you along. Best wishes for your future together!
• United States
4 Jan 07
Good luck, I just keep in mind a love relationship is not a gift, it is the best full time job you will ever have.
@UcoksBaBa (802)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 07
I also had the dream like you but the love needed the long and heavy sacrifice, and for that I did not have anything to in sacrificed except the feeling of the love personally, would I experience the true love story in living this, the love relations always decorated the life stage of time humankind to the time.
@NancyLobo (681)
• India
4 Jan 07
I think True Love is really beautiful it has no limitations no desires and is not selfish you are really lucky if you find a person who truly loves you it is a blessing,it is lacking in this world but it still exists. all the best to you. I'm happy for you
@chinchu (38)
• India
4 Jan 07
Wow!!My story is quite similar to yours...My story too started with us starting as friends,which later turned into 'best friends'.And i dont know the exact time when it turned into love.We too have known each other for 6 years, and we are planning to get married soon
@NancyLobo (681)
• India
4 Jan 07
I think True Love is really beautiful it has no limitations no desires and is not selfish you are really lucky if you find aa person who truly loves you it is a blessing,it is lacking in this world but it still exists. all the best to you. i'm happy for you
@dr0097 (38)
• India
4 Jan 07
Well i think today the word is quite not used properly. People just get togeher for fun and and then they just go on their different ways. the instances of true love is very hard to find today. But i still belive that some one some where is made for me. I am of the same opinion that is stated in this discussion. True love is eternal it is always constructive. If it destorys it's not love.
@tocika (970)
• Romania
4 Jan 07
I am a dreamer person and now at24 years old i am still dreaming.I allways dream to have behind me a strong,honest and carry person and my dream is so true.I met my boyfriend in an hospital on 13 Nov.Tuesday.This year was the 6th new years eve together.And this year we want to get married,it is an very important year for us.We are so different,but in the same time we are so similary!He is lesser than i with 4years.He is tall,black hair and black eyes,I am blond and i have green eyes.For us love is evrething!When i am seek he is allways behind me,and protect me,he is the person that support me when i dont have power.I feel inhis eyes that he loves me,we understand but sometimes we faith for pretty-prettiest.I had friends but all my ex friends think only at them not at me.In our days is very difficult to find a person who knows to be not selfish,to give and not only to get love,feelings and proof of love.I apreciete more a flower than an bunch of flowers;i apreciete a flower when that flower is with love not only for impress;)
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
4 Jan 07
I think everyone wishes that and i also wish for that and im glad to hear that both you are happy and your relationship are growing stronger. As long as you honor your vows to each other and remain faithful. i think you will live happily ever after. We should know that every married couple and every prospective husband and wife like both of you dream and desire to be genuinely happy. But they or we should realize that happy marriages demand a harmonious lifelong relationship. They should wake up from the illusion that marriage is a perennial garden of paradise where romance is forever. There will always be a time for sorrow and a time for joy, a time for silence and a time to talk.
• India
4 Jan 07
Well i was not that lucky as you. The one i loved and still do didnt came up with the same way , rather she doesnt even want to talk to me. Well i congratulate you .Be happy & do take care of your partener.
• Philippines
4 Jan 07
All i can say is that congratulation for having found the love of your dreams. I wish I would find mind too. For those who are still searching like me well lets not give up hope we may still find our dream love or soulmate. And always stay in love.