Marriage counceling

United States
January 3, 2007 5:42pm CST
Do you think that a councelor can actually make your marriage better if you are having hard times? I am a little skeptical on this but my cousin said that it made her marriage better.
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@misskatonic (3726)
• United States
3 Jan 07
What a marriage counselor does is look at both sides of the marriage and pin points where the problems are coming from. They're trained to get to the root of problems and offer you suggestions as to how to work through them. It's basically to give the couple a clear view of *why* they're having problems, with suggestions on how to improve things. They're like guides, in a way.
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• United States
4 Jan 07
Maybe we should go see one.
@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
3 Jan 07
I think it is possible. They are a mediator that is not on anyones side. They help to bring out the problems and how to handle them instead of fighting.
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• United States
4 Jan 07
ya, I guess it would be nice to have someone that is not on either one of our sides.
• Philippines
3 Jan 07
a marriage counselor helps to let you see both sides but in the end, it will be both of you to make the marriage better
• United States
4 Jan 07
okay, so maybe you have got a point. thank you for commenting.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
4 Jan 07
better communication is what counselling tend to bring out. marriage counselor makes both spouses open up themselves, what they really feel towards each other, what they think is the problem, and air out their complaints - better communication starts there. usually, things that are kept inside such as petty disagreements that's remained unsettled, bad feelings that's developed and piled up, and unexpressed emotional pains are the ones causing marital disputes coz partners tend to express them in worse ways. just making the spouses speak up and vent helps them unload already. counselors act as mediator, to avoid heated arguments once these issues were brought out, making each partner understand what could have happened, pointing out mistakes and make suggestions objectively.
• United States
4 Jan 07
everyone could use better communication. I agree with you about keeping it bottled up inside, you know that this can't be good.
@runsgame (2032)
• India
4 Jan 07
The duty and function of a relationship counselor is to listen, understand and facilitate a better understanding between those involved. The basic principles involved are non-judgment on any of the issues or incidents narrated to them as counselor. Confidentiality of the persons being given the counseling. A successful counselor is someone who has a mature and balanced state of mind and disposition, who can place themselves in the shoes of those they are counseling, and the ability to respect their opinions, thoughts, feelings and (more importantly) emotions. It is commonly observed that many couples who seek counseling dissolve their relationship despite their clear intention to avoid this extreme emotional trauma and expense. The most successful work in counseling involves the study of couples whose relationship has been restored . The final view is , there is no need for counceling in case of marriage . It is at last you to decide and life longer. all the best
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• United States
4 Jan 07
thank you so very much for commenting on this topic.
@Wizybr (110)
• Australia
3 Jan 07
The potential is certainly there. It depends somewhat on the counselor, and mostly on your (plural) willingness to see your partners point of view and compromise. The counselor will not make any decisions for you. But rather, facilitate the understanding of each others issues.
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• United States
4 Jan 07
I know I have faults but he has faults too you know. lol. I know that sometimes I am wrong and I guess that I should addmit them but it is always hard to admit when you are wrong.
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@SK401001 (934)
• United States
3 Jan 07
I can't speak from experience, but only from common sense... I think and outside person can be more opjective to both your situation and not take sites... Its easier to listen to someone elses advice, someone that has not alternative motives, other then to see you both make the right decision
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• United States
4 Jan 07
I see what your saying and it does make a lot of sense to get the person who is on the outside looking in's opinion.