Hardest Decision You've Ever Had To Make

@wolfie34 (26793)
United Kingdom
January 4, 2007 3:38pm CST
Have you ever had to tell your parents something that you knew they'd be upset and let down about. Or Have you had to break off a relationship. The hardest decision for me was splitting up with my partner and leaving behind a 4 bedroomed house in the country, it just wasn't working. I loved that house soooo much and I spent so much time decorating it and making it mine. But I don't regret leaving the relationship, now it's deja vu, oh boy...
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@patootie (3593)
4 Jan 07
My hardest thing was trying to eplain to my nother with whom I didn't get on why I was leaving such a wonderful man as my husband .. I didn't really care what she thought as I was leaving him regardless ... but I just didn't want to go through all the 'who said, she said, why and wherefores' routine .. I'd made my decision I just wanted to inform her about it not have to go through the third degree ...
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 07
I wish I could make a decision and STICK to it, sometimes it can be so easy to be persuaded, grrrrrr
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Its deja vu??? Are you getting ready to go through that again? Are you going to have to move from the flat you are at now? If so, I am sorry!!! I would think the hardest decision I ever had to make was what to do when I found out I was pregnant at the young age of 14 years!!! I was so scared to tell my mother. And then I didn't want to face my dad!!! My mom and dad were divorced, so I couldn't tell them at the same time. So, my mom helped by breaking it to my dad for me. Ouch! Even then it was hard to listen to the phone call!!! Then I had to decide what I wanted to do! My mother said she was completely supportive in whatever decision I made. Abortion, adoption, or keeping the baby and raising him myself. Mind, she would not help with raising him and I had to get child support because I was not even old enough to work. But either way, the decision on soley mine. Well, let's say now, he is my 16 year old son that I decided to keep. Even thought his father wanted to have nothing to do with him. Even to this day. But I met my current partner when my son was only 2 weeks old. And my partner is the dad that my son has ever known!
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 07
That was a mighty tough decision at that age especially. Thank you very much for sharing.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 07
Hmm I reap what I sow and yes I'm in the same predicament again, maybe I'll learn someday.
@doctorul (1063)
• Romania
4 Jan 07
To be born or not to be! Hard, isn't it?
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@roxy_stp (913)
• Romania
5 Jan 07
baby - baby
i say the same one:)) it was very hard but i managed to agree with nature finally...i think i was a good decision, even if it tooked me only 9 month's to make it...
@ukchriss (2103)
4 Jan 07
Why didn't you get a share of the house? déjà vu? - Is the same thing happening again? The hardest decision I ever made was walking out of my marrage and letting 2 of my children stay behind with my ex.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 07
I did get a share of the house, it helped me finance my 3 years in college. Yep, I never learn the same thing is happening again. Out of the frying pan into the fire, a fool to myself thats why I vow NEVER to get into another relationship EVER again. They have been the cause of my depression in my life.
@ukchriss (2103)
5 Jan 07
Hugs xx
• United States
4 Jan 07
The hardest decision I ever made was when my best friend of 10 years forced me to choose between her and my boyfriend (now my husband of 13 years) stating that he didn't love me and wouldn't be there for me like she would. The thing that made it the hardest, besides that we had been friends since 7th grade was that I had been raising her baby. To this day not a day passes when I don't worry about that little girl.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 07
Thank you for sharing. That's terrible a ten year friendship ending that way, but giving you an ultimatum is way out of order.
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• Pakistan
5 Jan 07
sometimes you have to lose in order to gain something and so you have to make such decisions,i too have made one such decision and i am looking forward to the results now.
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• India
5 Jan 07
ONE CANT HAVE ALL IN LIFE.LIFE IS FULL OF UPS N DOWNS.V HAVE 2 TRY HARD 2 LIVE A GOOD LIFE AND SOMETIMES THINGS GO WRONG BUT THAT IS NOT THE END OF LIFE.WE HAVE TO LEARN FROM OUR MISTAKES AND MAKE OUR LIFE MORE HAPPY,MORE FUL .THIS WILL HELP THE WORLD TO BECOME A BETTER PLACE TO LIVE IN.
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@i3kevin (19)
• Hong Kong
4 Jan 07
no one can make a decision, except yourself.
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• Pakistan
5 Jan 07
hardest decisions are hard to make...:)...and the decisions should be made by oneself if the decisions are hard...because if the decisions are hard and you make the right decision then consider it as a major victory which will play an important role in your life... i had have gone through such moments when i hade to make important decisions...but the most of the hardest decision that i had to make was when i passed my intermediate and i had to choose my life career...i was interested in both engineering and fine arts at the same time...it was tough to get admission in either of the fields...but luckily i got admission in both engineering and fine arts...so it was now time to decide for me for what i have to do...so i just ignored the comments of everyone and just made the decision that was made by my brain...and now i feel that my decision was perfect and i m really happy now!
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 07
Thanks for your response, appreciated.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Are you saying you doing it all again. Wow you dont learn. I remember when I first talked to you on here you told me you never learn from your mistakes. Well I see your right. Listen Iam sorry if your having troubles that is not fun for anyone. Take care.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 07
I know I make a rod for my own back! Well remembered least I'm consistant if nothing else! One day I will look back and laugh it off and I've go No one else to blame but ME. I should take responsibility and I shouldn't expect the sympathy.
@kareng (7980)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I've been thinking on this one for a whole day now. I guess that would have to be breaking up with an old boyfriend. He was in law school and was really goofing off too much. I had serious doubts that he would even pass the semester. I decided that it would be best for both of us to take a break in the relationship. We remained good friends but I eventually married someone else. And he did finish law school! He is also divorced from his first wife so maybe he still didn't grow up..who knows?
• China
5 Jan 07
Life is just... sometimes you need to face dificulties or make hard decisions.. When I gradute from college, I have the same feeling with you...I really really don't want to leave my dormitory where I lived for four years...
• United States
5 Jan 07
I had to break it to my parents that their darling little girl was pregnant at 16. My parents are very old school catholic and uber conservative, so you can imagine how well things went. It was the singlemost difficult thing i ever had to do up to that point in my life. I've had to make other monumental decisions since then, but that one has always stuck with me as being the most emotionally draining.
@dontataru (244)
• Romania
5 Jan 07
the hardeste decision that i was obligated to make it it was when i told to a girl that I like her very much