Divorce should not exist.
By Wena000307
@Wena000307 (45)
Philippines
January 4, 2007 11:33pm CST
Today, Most of us are favorable of DIvorce. But me I'm UNFAVORABLE.
17 responses
@chickenlittle882003 (31)
• United States
7 Jan 07
i totally agree i dont believe in divorce although my parents have been divorced for about 6 or 7 years now i dont believe in it and i never will when i get married it has to be forever
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@Wena000307 (45)
• Philippines
8 Jan 07
Yes, thats right. We should do what we had promised to our partner when say our bows to them.
@brandonknies (305)
• United States
6 Jan 07
ok, this is what i have to say on THIS subject. my gf, her family, myself, and my family, all beleive in a common thing here. marraige is forever. there is no 'oh i change my mind' about it. you say i do, you do. if you don't think it is gonna work, if you aren't sure, then you don't do it. we do not beleive in divorce.
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@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I'm not favorable of divorcing over every little problem. Marriage should be something that you're willing to work at. But, I do think there are times when divorce is necessary.
@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Well, if your life is in danger I don't think you should stay in a marriage. Or, if your children are in danger. If the choice is between divorce or dying, I'm sorry, I'd pick divorce. And, unfortunately, there have been times when people do have to choose between those options.
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@Wena000307 (45)
• Philippines
5 Jan 07
There are lot of ways to save the marriage life. If your partner start hurting you. You should analyze what is the problem all about. Let your partner checked by a psychologist because that is not a normal but it is abnormality. If your husband don't want to participate. Seek help for deparment who is concern for that.
@Desertbird (323)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Okay...
Nothing else? Can you back it up a little as to why?
I'm fine with divorce, what other people do is their concern and I have no reason nor right to butt in.
@Wena000307 (45)
• Philippines
5 Jan 07
Marriage is very sacrament before you sign the marriage contract you should UNDERSTAND and AGREE what the marriage contract is. It means that you fully understand it. Marriage is a commitment, it is not a trial or error that once you failed, you quit already. Success sometimes cannot achieve easily. You will encounter a lot of failures before you achieve it. And what we should do whwn we encounter failures. We should analyze what is the problem. And you should solve it. Just like in marriage, sometimes you will encounter a lot of failures and problems and what we should do. we should analyze what is wrong and you should solve it together with your partner.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I agree with the comment here. I am anti-divorce unless there is abuse (mental or physical). If you get divorced for other reasons, than most likely you didn't get to know each other enough before marriage! I've been dating my fiance for over 5 years and I feel I know all his traits and hobbies and beliefs, plus we go to marriage prep classes to really learn.
In response to the original response "what other people do is their concern and I have no reason nor right to butt in"... all I have to say is that normally I stay out of people's business. But in my experience divorced people are always involving me by telling me everything about their divorce, their fighting with their ex, their alimony problems, etc etc... so I have every right to butt in since they are bringing it up all the time. Drives me crazy.
@cliffcliff (1350)
• United States
8 Jan 07
i dont believe in divorce either wena, then people should not get married then, i am not married but would be afraid to get divorced. if people dont want to live together then okay, but they should stay married so they dont create problems for other people.
@Kalachia (230)
• United States
7 Jan 07
I think the only way divorce is plausible is if you find out the other person is abusive. There are probably other extremely good reasons out there, but that one I think is the only way I would do it. And I know that most of the time people see the abuse before they say "I do", but there are tons of stories out there of men that change once they're married...
@Wena000307 (45)
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
Maybe your right men changes once they're married. But changes didn't happen instantly it always happen with a reason. As I always said that open communication is very important in a relationship. You should tell your partner what is your problem so you can solve it fast.
@Wena000307 (45)
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
There are lots of ways how to save marriage. If abusive exist already, seek help to the department who is concern for that or let your partner checked by a psychologist. Maybe she or he has a psychological disorders. Your not the only one who will benefit for that, your husband it self, your kids as well as the whole family perse.
@Kalachia (230)
• United States
7 Jan 07
Yeah, I agree with you, the changes don't happen right after the wedding is over, but there are some that do happen quickly. I admit that sometimes women aren't the easiest to get along with, which infuriate men, but if there is no way else to save an abusive relationship, divorce is the answer.
@myte003 (179)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I'm not convinced that Marriage is for everyone either, I may never Marry? Who knows? So Be It!
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
5 Jan 07
I do think that divorce must exist , it not only protect women rights but protect woman from being abuse by some man yea ... beside if a relationship is not stable , divorce is the only way to end the misery yea
@Junig1 (300)
• Barbados
5 Jan 07
I don't totally disagree with divorce but I think many people use it as an easy way out. They don't work hard enough at a relation or just don't care - there is just too much rubbish that people let tear them apart.
@Wena000307 (45)
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
Yes, I agree with you. The y are too lazy to find solution to their problems
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
8 Jan 07
The problem with divorce is that it's become the easy way out, and is no longer the emergency exit it used to be. My parents were in a somewhat abusive relationship (I say "somewhat" because it wasn't physical but it was STILL Bad) and Mom ended up leaving him. My sister and I think she did the right thing.
My Sweetheart has been divorced before. She left him for someone, and he had absolutely no control over that. Not his problem at all.
Some things we can not control, and other things we need to get out of, but as an easy-out, I agree there should be fewer divorces.
@koltrone (264)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I am 50/50 on this situation, I am in favor of divorce for the people who wants to find their happiness, there is no reason to become a cheating a**holes if there is a divorce, however I do not want my relationship end up in divorced thats why I choose the person who I can live with, had sacrifices with and someone who has the same views as me. I hope they give people their choice.
@guesswhomsa (1168)
• India
7 Jan 07
i am with you and i too dont like divorce it is the last thing to happen to a relationship
@tocika (970)
• Romania
8 Jan 07
I'm not agree with divorce,especially when is one or more children in that family.If they married that means that they like one of each other,maybe they both ,if they stay alone few days make peace and find the right way on their marriege way.
HAve a nice day!
@anna_from_indiana (41)
• United States
5 Jan 07
any contract in the business world can be nullified if you take the proper steps. So why should a "marriage contract" be any different? you might not believe in divorce, but I don't believe in marriage. Just a difference of opinion.
@quatelmon (955)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Most of the responses I have read here are extreamly unreasonable! Getting divorced over little things should not happen, and for the most part it doesn't. However, are you telling me that two people that hate each other should be forced to spend the rest of their days together just because they got married too young or before getting to know each other?
Instead of saying you hate divorce, you should say that you hate marraige! They should make it super easy to get a divorce. However, if they make getting a divorce super easy, it should be very very VERY hard to get a marraige certificate. You should prove that you are competant, and have taken the time to get to know the person you are marrying.
And for many people, marraige is not a SACRAMENT. That is a religious term. For most, it is a civil ceremony. Everyone is entitled to their oppinion, however.
@Lady_Vincy (1538)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I agree. Divorce should be illegal. Once you get married it should not be able to be overturned no matter how much the two people don't like each other.
