Is Domestic Violence a Learned Behavior?

Philippines
January 5, 2007 11:51am CST
According to Catholic Charities "Domestic Violence defines as any kind of behavior that a person uses to control an intimate partner."(Catholic Charities) It occurs in every community and Pyschological research identified that violence is learned. Person or children witnessing acts of violence will more likely to become involved in violence if they witness violent acts. A child exposure to violence from a father will have tendecy of transmitting such behavior or violence from one generation to another.That I believe Domestic Violence is a Learned Behavior
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• India
6 Jan 07
Domestic violence is widespread because it is possibly the easiest kind of violence and most easy to enflict. I think it is as prevalent in developed societies as it is in the lower rungs of social living. Physical strength determines the pattern of such behaviour. It is commonly believed that women are the most easy target but if they are physically strong, they are no different than men.
@venshida (4837)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I read a lot of articles that said it is a learned behavior. The child thinks that is the correct way to deal with a problem in a relationship because that's what they saw at home. I know people who comes from a domestic violence environment who has made the decision to break the circle of violence so I guess it depends on the individual.
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• United States
5 Jan 07
I think it can definitely be a learned behavior, but I don't think it's an excuse. I grew up in a very abusive household... lots of anger. I don't hit my kids, or abuse others in my life. I definitely feel a hot temper in myself at times, but how you handle situations is completely up to you.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
6 Jan 07
I think how you handle situations is very much within your control, ie whether or not to hit your partner. Not realising there rae different ways to behave can make you the same as someone who has no control though. And due to life experience you can have a hell of a lot of indicators and pull factors leading you towards that kind of behavior. Some people may act out what they have learnt in their homes but in some (admittedly too rare) cases once people are made aware of what they are doing, why they are doing it, take responsibility for this and resolve to stop, Change Is Possible. Or at least the discontinuation of the cycle is possible.
@rsa101 (14873)
• Quezon City, Philippines
27 Feb 07
I guess you're quite true in saying that we learn to become violent if we grow in an environment that is conducive to violence. I guess that is explained why war torned countries have a hard time to develop since they are so exposed to violence and the people in those areas have tendencies to create violence needlessly.
@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
I personally believes that attitude is being learned. We are being influenced by our environment. So behavior per se is something that is being mold and not innate as others believes.
• United States
6 Jan 07
I believe domestic violence is a learned behavior, as is emotional abuse. However, anyone can choose to alter the pattern and not continue the abuse. My grandfather beat my grandmother and father when my father was young. My grandmother had been abused as a child, and so emotionally abused my father. My father broke the pattern of physical abuse and tried to break the emotional. Once I learned the family history, it made it much easier for me to understand what was going on. And to know I had a challenge to face. My husband tends to be violent and I know his step-father was very strict and used physical discipline on the boys, but not the girls.
@Reviver (339)
• Romania
6 Jan 07
I am afraid history tells us it is I donot have the stats but i understand that an abusive husband often comes from an abusive home as a youngster That really surprises me because i would think if i went thru a traumatic young life i would not want my loved ones to go thru the same thing and that idea that abuses ones usually have been abused themselves and i just donot get it good Luck 800 credits goodnight and its only 8pm but i donot want to become a mylot addict which seems to be happening to me
@sagarbx (732)
• India
6 Jan 07
yeah it is. you should know about this and that other rules also. U are right answered.
@pendragon (3352)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Children who watch the adults in their life will act on their given example.I don't claim to know anything about the catholic angle, but that's the common sense angle.
@maru_047in (1007)
• India
6 Jan 07
yes even i believe in that. i accept ur Thinking
@Brandi06 (2227)
• United States
6 Jan 07
i don't know
@myrith (1830)
• Canada
6 Jan 07
I believe it is, you learn from what you see, right? whether good or bad, but it's for you to decide if that's the way to go or not. I think the behavior can be curbed (stopped).......Great post!
@baylvr (25)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I firmly believe in the phrase "we teach people how to treat us"... so I also believe that abuse of any kind is a learned act. Wether it's something one sees going on in the home as a child, or wether it's pushing someone's buttons to see what response one gets. It's still a "learned" behavior.
• United States
6 Jan 07
on most cases, yes it is learned. it is sadly passed down from generation to generation. its a vicious cycle
@sahergul (774)
• Pakistan
6 Jan 07
well it is not a learned behavior, but it is human insticnt, a reaction to something... Adam(the father of humans) had 2 sons, one of him being killed by other bcoz of a wedding a girl... he didn't see that anywhere but yes u can say that devil showed him the way to do that... still you can't say its learned behavior... its inside u ... rather be violent or controled...
• India
6 Jan 07
good discussion
@sammye (9)
• United States
6 Jan 07
DM is a general term but how one deals with frustration can be affected. I am a flash A, and my parents are not. But I blow up --thankfully, I do not hit. I just yell. I seek ways myself to slow down the eruption so that I can think. I KNOW my eruptions are wrong. Scientists think it is a chemical that works too fast in some people. My family knows that while i yell, they are safe. I have never hit anyone when I get mad. Flash A people are just yellers. IT can be slightl controlled if you tell yourself many times, "when I feel like erupting--walk away fast!" it works a bit. I yell less now than 20 yrs ago.
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
I don't think it is appropriate to use the line "learned behavior" in reference to the behavior that might stem from a violently-filled home environment. I guess it would be unfair to a child, for example, to say that he had learned violence from his home. You don't learn violence. You acquire it. You get it into your system. Anything but not learn. To learn is to subject oneself into what is ought to be learned. In this case, violence is something that no one would ever want to learn.
• United States
6 Jan 07
this is an absolute truth that domestic violence is a learned behaviour. children learn good and bad things from their parents and if domestid violence needs to be stopped elder people must stop behaving in a violent way.
• Canada
6 Jan 07
Very true when you said that the child emulates parent's behaviour. Whatever actions happens in a household is bound to affect the child. Harmonious environment in family will ensure better life and beautiful future for the child. Therefore violence should strictly be prohibited in household.