Do you have a secret life or pleasure that your spouse doesn't know about?

@34momma (13896)
United States
January 5, 2007 1:10pm CST
If so, would that be a form of lying? I think it is being dishonest, but what do you think?
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@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I must come clean. I do happen to have a secret pleasure, however if I told it then it would no longer be a secret, & may result in it no loger being a pleasure. Hmmmmmmmmm, Oh, I just thought of a new one, so I guess I can share the first one I was referring to......... I luv to watch you when you sleep, I can look at you for minutes/Hours at a time & just simply reflect back on the past few years of our relationship. It explains why I luv you so much today:-)
@34momma (13896)
• United States
12 Apr 07
oh honey that was so sweet! i am just glad that you did tell them that I snore, your the best!! loving me some you boy
@seamonkey (1981)
• Ireland
9 Apr 07
I guess so, but it isn't that grave. Sometimes I will ask him to go to the store in the evening and get me a treat of Reeses's Peanut Butter Cups. The dishonest part comes in where sometimes I have already stopped at the store and gotten one for myself!
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
9 Apr 07
now that is just a great answer!!
• United States
9 Apr 07
I guess it's a good thing to say, I don't have a secret life or pleasure that my spouse doesn't know about. Since we've been together for so many years, there's very little we don't already know about each other. If I did have a secret life, I think it would be the worst form of lying. I would never want to chance that kind of loss.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
9 Apr 07
i hear ya on that. honesty is the best and only way to have a strong healthy relationship. i think people don't tell their spouses about things they like because of fear of rejection. we under estimate people all the time. you just might be suprised, they may like the same things too. and just because they don't doesn't mean you can enjoy them on your own. as long as they don't come in between the relationship
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@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
9 Apr 07
The only secret is that I still think, and dream about my first love. I think about another one of my ex's as well. I wonder if all the time
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
9 Apr 07
i guess that says more about your relationship. i have had some great relationships and some not good at all. my husband to be is a great man, and altough we like everyone else have our moments. I don't think about past relationships.
@jonezy (293)
5 Jan 07
i think that it is only being dishonest if it is a serious pressure on your relationship, something which interferes and that you have to lie about or create suspision when questioned about where you are going or what you are going to do. i have a few things that i merely dont talk to my gf about, such things like what i have done in my past with other girls and the things that i have enjoyed with them. purely because i know that she would not be appreciative to this information as i had tryed to mention it beforehand. khris
@34momma (13896)
• United States
5 Jan 07
that i understand. you don't have to discuss things that you have done in past relationships. most people are hurt by that. and those things are a need to know level.
• United States
5 Jan 07
I do not keep any secrets from my partner on purpose. However, sometimes topics do not come up. That doesn't mean I am hiding things from him. I feel if you have to "hide" something from the person you are with, then you shouldn't be with that said person. Relationships are all about honesty and blending two people's lives. How can you do that if you aren't honest about an aspect of life that you are attempting to blend together?
@34momma (13896)
• United States
5 Jan 07
that is true. very true. it is all about being honest. being with someone you don't have to keep secrets from