Would you have trust issues if your bf/gf kept in contact with their ex's? why?

@fliffy555 (1045)
January 5, 2007 10:30pm CST
if your partner kept in contact with an ex girlfriend or boyfriend would you have a problem with it? I know i do cuz I know they have had feelings for them before me and always worry they want them back because they were in their life before i was. What do you think... Why do you think this??
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• United States
8 Jan 07
before it wouldn't be a problem but now it seems to be cuz the ex still loves my baby..
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• United States
7 Jan 07
From my experience with this I would say that yes I would have a problem with this as they are supposed to be ex's. If they have children together then they have a reason to have some contact but if not children then contact is not good and can only mean one thing to me.
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@quarks (180)
• Ukraine
7 Jan 07
not necessarily , few relationships are broken becoz they are beyond their control to manage ! people can just be friends after breaking and at the same time be comitted to new partner .
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@tambdy (1969)
6 Jan 07
My girlfriend is the exact same way, she keeps in contact with her ex because of one of the kids being his but it anoys me. He used to come round all the time and i gave her a altomatum stop speaking to him or i am out. She choose me luckily but there gets to a certain point when you cant let people walk all over you.
• United States
6 Jan 07
There was I time I would not have been bothered, but recent history has changed me.
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@20021985 (109)
• India
6 Jan 07
Yeah tht is perfectly fine.. i think u cannot restrict someone fromdoing anything but then you need to be aware of it. It shdnt be like one fine day u come to know tht ur beloved is talking to their Ex since last one year after break up. restricting will only be a problem. Loving someone doesnt give u authority over their personal life.
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@raisushkr (1399)
• India
6 Jan 07
it all depends how much they trust me .its ok if they r in contact
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@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
11 Nov 07
If they where only talking one in a while on msn or things like that, I would not have nay problem about it. Some relationship sometimes end upin a simple relationship. When I started going out with my boyfriend, I was still talking and seing my ex. He never had problem trusting me and that was a real proff of love for me :) Now I'M only talking once in a while on msn with my ex when we are both on it.
@fliffy555 (1045)
12 Nov 07
that's cool, you're right it is a real proof of love :)
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
9 Feb 07
it depends on the curcumstances.. Most girls would be pissed of if their guy was still friends with their ex but same goes with some males.... If they have both moved on and are happy I don't see why not that they can be friends... I am friends with my ex but his girlfriend doesn't know we keep in contact via email and phone sometimes catch up and No funny business happens just friends we still love each other as Friends ONLY.... As my partner says "You break up with them for a reason why would you go back".
@fliffy555 (1045)
8 Nov 07
i know how you feel and what you mean pinklilly im exactly the same i keep in contact with my ex but it took us nearly 2 years after breaking up to get back in contact as he cheated on me, i just need friends at the moment and he was my best friend before we went out so needed him back lol. x
• United States
2 Feb 07
I wouldnt have a problem with it because until about a month ago I talked to an ex every day. We dated 3 years ago and we are still very good friends, he's started training as an EMT and a firefighter so he doesn't have much time to talk now. I think it can be a good thing if the person talkes to there ex. If there still friends then it showes they respect each other. If the girl just showed up one day and they started hanging out alot I might have a problem with it, unless I was invited along of course.
• United States
2 Feb 07
My last ex was friends with most of his ex girlfriends and I found it really irritating. Too sad now that it's too late that I'm understanding it all. We are very good friends, he says I'm his best friend even though we broke up a year ago.
@chanfrado (1166)
• Portugal
2 Feb 07
Yes I would. I don't like to think about it.
@babyjane (1395)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
I do because they had an affair before and we don't know what they had talked about. And if your partner does this one, it's like he is not respecting his gf's feeling. It might hurt us if we know that they still getting in touch with each other. Some girls are flirt and we don't know what happen next.
@sensesfail (2251)
• India
2 Feb 07
Sure! i'm a possesive guy.I'd seriously have issues if my girlfriend keeps contact with her ex.I mean why should she? i may sound selfish but no way.
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
No, i wouldn't mind if she still has contact with her ex because that is the past. I, too have contacts with my exs because we're friends. If you jumped into the relationship with a guy/girl, that means you trust her so you shouldn't be bothered even if she still has contacts with her ex.