Stress foster child wets bed, foster mother threatens to cut his weinny off?

This absolutely breaks my heart. It would be so easy for me to qualify as a foster parent because I am already a registered child care provider but I just don't think I could do it. I am so afraid of getting a child who has been treated this way, falling in love with them and then having the foster system shuffle them back to the abusive parents or a bad foster home. I think I would die a little bit each time that happened.

I'm sure not all foster parents are like that. But for those that are like that they need some help and should rethink about taking in a child.

I was a foster parent for over 2 years, and we took John because we wanted to help him. It was a VERY difficult job. Foster children come with all kinds of baggage brought about by neglect and abuse, and many of them struggle with what is normal and correct in life, because every placement they've been in has different rules and routines. Therefore, they are very confused young people. This means that not everyone should even try to be a foster parent. It takes very special people to deal with their very special needs. Unfortunately, taking foster children also pays fairly well, especially for someone who takes a lot of children. The more handicapped or troubled they are, the more money is paid for their care. Some of these foster homes are just in it for the money. I met a number of them when I was attending my mandatory parenting classes as a foster parent. You could care they didn't have the interests of the children at heart in any way. It was just when am I going to get paid and when are they going to increase the payments and when is the clothing allowance going to come through? We treated John just like we did our own children and bought him the same quality clothes and shoes as they got. Some places spend nothing on the children and don't even feed them right. It makes me sick, but until someone comes up with a better system, states are desperate to place these children wherever they can.

Howdy WM! Foster parents, IMO, should have an extra special duty of care to the child/ren they look after as they have usually suffered trauma of some kind. For a foster mother to do this is totally unacceptable - I thought to become a foster carer you had to go through a stringent checking process. Obviously in her case she must've fooled them all! lol

well that's surely not right if she's going to scare the children, she could discipline them and then they will learn from it.

I don't think that is a good example of ALL foster parents. Most foster parents are doing it for the love and concern of children. (See http://www.baggageandbug.com for a shining example!) But you are right... how did a person like that end up as a foster parent?