Love and Like....What is most important.????

@Polly1 (12645)
United States
January 6, 2007 3:47pm CST
Here is something to think about. You can love someone intensely and not like them. You can like someone and not love them. We don't always choose who we love, we do choose who we like. What is most important? We can love and like someone. We can't make someone like us, we have to do something positive to have that happen. What are some of your thoughts? Do you have people who you love but not like in your life?
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@Darkwing (21583)
6 Jan 07
Let me start by answering your final question, which is no, I don't have people whom I love but don't like in my life. To my way of thinking, you cannot possibly have one without the other and succeed in a frienship or relationship. Loving and liking are different but both are needed to make a relationship last. We need to find the happy medium and balance it out.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Thanks for your input.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I agree with you deebomb, I always love the kids and grandkids, but sometimes I don't always like them. Thanks for your reswponse.
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I think you are wrong. I have 2 grandchildren that I live with. I love them drealy but there are times that I don't like them. I don't want to be around them. I have also raised 4 kids and found it the same with them. When they were being bratty as all kids are from time to time, I really didn't like them. and I'm sure they didn't like me all the time. I believe there is a big differene betwee love and like
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• United States
6 Jan 07
I believe that you can love a person heart and soul, but dislike the things that they do. Take children for instance. I love my kids. They are my children. I do not like some of the things that they do. Just because a person does something that you don't agree with or dislike does not mean that you will stop loving them.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I agree with you, I always love my kids and grandkids, but sometimes I don't always like them.
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• India
7 Jan 07
yes, you are right in segregating two terms of utmost importance in our life by giving splendid but simple examples from our day to day life.
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@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
6 Jan 07
I used to accept the fact that most important thing in our lives is love. That we have to be surrounded but these peple only. After many hits that happened to me, I have to say that I now prefer to have people in my life that I really like and enjoy be with, instead of people that I love and they try to hurt me all the time.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Jan 07
You said that very nicely. Sometimes its more important to be around people you like. They don't seem to hurt you as much, its the people who you love the most hurt you the most.
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• India
7 Jan 07
Dear, if you Love some one that is the act of yours so why do you look for same feelings in that persons eyes as well? for before no one sees if other person too would reciprocate his/her feelings in the same frequency as of yours before falling to love,as you don't intentionally love any one rather you fall in love to some one because of any reson best known to ALL MIGHTY only. So why to repent on the act which was/is/will be not in your control.ALLWAYS KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
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• India
7 Jan 07
Dear, if you Love some one that is the act of yours so why do you look for same feelings in that persons eyes as well? for before no one sees if other person too would reciprocate his/her feelings in the same frequency as of yours before falling to love,as you don't intentionally love any one rather you fall in love to some one because of any reson best known to ALL MIGHTY only. So why to repent on the act which was/is/will be not in your control.ALLWAYS KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
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@Lionkitty (130)
• United States
6 Jan 07
You can like & love someone, you should never dislike someone,,just dislike what they do or say. NOT dislike the person. I love my family but dislike WHAT they do or say sometimes. but NEVER dislike them
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Thanks for your comment.
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@xionous (439)
• Belgium
7 Jan 07
ya it happend to me. i dont like my mom instead i almost hate her but deep inside i think i love her! apart from my mom once i had a fiend of mine who i liked a hell lot but i wasnt even sure whether i used to love her. and when she was no more with me it was a mess in my life! is was like a dumpd one!
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• India
7 Jan 07
It seems you are a bit confused with the two different important terms of life to remain in a smooth relationship. Moreover It also seems from what ever you have written that you are a very possessive person,which is not bad all the time, but here it is spoilingyour life. What you need right direction. See, probably for you mom you have deep respect,affection from your deep within,and that is quite natural. And for that girl of your's you seem to have infatuation only but no LOVE.
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@onlyme123 (124)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I think you can like without love, but you can't love without like. Many people define "love" differently, depending on culture. But in my opinion, love is the next step above like. Both are important
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I agree, both are very important.
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• India
7 Jan 07
You fall in love only because you have probably started liking some of the acts of that person you have fallen in love with. But contrary to it whom so ever you like dose not get translated into love.Infact love can't take place without liking, later on due to love when you come closer to this person and learn some more close acts,which might from your point of view are negative, you start disliking those acts. But that dose not always mean that you hate that important person of your life
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@Srikar29 (15)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I BELIEVE THAT ITS DIFFICULT TO CONVINCE EVERYONE. IN OTHER WORDS ITS IMPOSSIBLE. SO, TRY TO BE GUD TO EVERYONE SO THAT THEY MAY LIKE U.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I agree with you, thanks for the response.
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@Reviver (339)
• Romania
7 Jan 07
true...
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@umair2hot (1220)
• India
7 Jan 07
U r rite...but dont dislike any buddy just give love to all...it is a natural thing dude...u can change any thing to ur good habbits if u like any one tell him or if u love him/her...then also tell him u can change ur likeness in love all depends on u !
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Thanks for your input.
@shellyrios (1212)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I did before a long time ago, but that person isn't in my life anymore. I think also you can love people and not LIKE what they do or actions they take, but it doesn't necessarily mean you don't like them. I understand your point though, I do like some people, but I don't love them. I don't however, have people I love in my life and not like them currently.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Thanks for your comments. The people that I love, I also like most of the time. Its only sometimes when they are off the hook is when I don't like them or what they do.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
24 Feb 07
Yes I would say my husband because he always stress me out with his sickness he can help it, he acts like he don't care sometime. and the stress me.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
25 Feb 07
Husbands are supposed to stress us, they think that is their job, haha.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
16 Jun 07
He is gettimg better with it. Yhis was a good one Vicky! you did food!
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Everyone that is in my life I both love and like. I do not know anyone that I feel both for, whether it is family, friends or my girlfriend. I like everyone and love everyone. I think both loving and liking is very important in any relationship.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Yes both is very imporant in a relationship. Thanks for the response.
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• Philippines
7 Jan 07
sometimes you like people but you don't love him, and sometimes in reverse. For me, love is important as your relationship going deeper you will learn how toi like him/her. Unlike, like their is no deeper emotion attach, and your relationship will easily fsde.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Thanks for the response.
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I know that it is possible to love someone very much and not like a lot of things _about_ them. I'm not sure if it is possible to truly love someone and not like them at all. You're so right in saying that we don't always choose who we love, though. The heart decides for us! *laugh* And we can't help but love our parents, no matter what. Sometimes my mother can be a very difficult person to get along with, but I love her with all of my heart.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I agree with you, my mother can be difficlt sometimes. I also love her with all my heart.
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@kavi1234 (96)
• India
7 Jan 07
i think first we should like someone to love them (if they our frnds or negibours or someone outside our family ). but in our family ,someone like our kids .if they are bad whith bad character we may not like them but love them through heart
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
8 Jan 07
You said that nicely, thanks.
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
Well, here's another take on that: I hate my mom but I love her, just the same. That's the thing with family, you don't always agree with what they do, what their opinions are; but you stick by them. Acceptance is important. Love first and then you'll see past the differences.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
7 Jan 07
We always don't choose who we love. We can choose who we like.
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• India
8 Jan 07
both are 2 different things but i like to love every one.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I like to love everyone too.
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
8 Jan 07
yes polly i can relate to your post in two ways i love someone i don`t want to be around at the present time and i have some one who i do not like but am around then a lot of the time
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Good Luck to you Hope, I think of you often. Take care.
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
7 Jan 07
We can choose who we love, we also can choose who we like. The both of them count a lot and when you fall in love in can be the best thing in the world if it works out for you but if it doesn't then it will surely hurt, but we can choose more who we like, as it is not so deep the feeling, and we cannot force someone to like us no most of the people in my life I love them, and they love me, so I must be lucky in this way.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Thanks for your comments. I am not just talking about a mate, buyfiend, girlfriend, etc. We don't choose our parents, brothers, sisters, children etc. And yet we love them all.
@fliffy555 (1044)
8 Jan 07
love is our heart calling to someone else... i feel that love is always the best option.... i have chosen love and although i dont always like my fella i do love him and that always takes priority... i forgive him for anything and we have a very strong relationship... so although we do not like each other 24/7 we do love each other and that is the best aphrodisiac anyone can ask for... being in love makes you feel great... liking people and people liking you makes you feel popular... to me they are not the same and love will always overrule like.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Thanks so much for your comments.
• United States
7 Jan 07
Wow...that is some deep thoughts. Yes, I definately have someone I love soooo much but can't stand at times. Unfortunately it's my oldest daughter who is almost 17. I love her so much and would do almost anything for her...however, she has a few problems with stealing, running away, etc.. She has been to jail twice. It has been such an uphill battle with her. I have had to do the tough love thing with her for the past couple years. It hurt and the pain was so intense having to do this. I have felt almost abused by her actions and I can't understand where this is coming from. Well she is finally starting to do better and will be getting out from her placement program next week. I have decided to start off with a clean slate. She seems to be doing better and her grades are awesome. I want to rekindle our relationship and grow close again.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
9 Jan 07
You totally understand what I was saying, Keep the faith you will get to where you will like her again. Good Luck and May God Bless You and your family.
@sunny1984 (639)
• India
24 Feb 07
You can love only what u like.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
25 Feb 07
Thanks for your comment.