Does your mother still treat you like you're ten years old?

@sharone74 (4839)
United States
January 7, 2007 11:16am CST
My mother has a tendent=cy to treat me like I am still a child and a stupid child at that! it get's on my nerves. I mean I know that in her way she loves me but I am 32 years old. She seems to not recognize this fact.
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@snakeyes (569)
• India
8 Jan 07
No matter how old you are,you are still a kid for your mother.I think every mom treats his/her kids like a child.
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@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Some moms treat their kids like adults now that they are adults. And some parents just can't let go.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
7 Jan 07
oh hell ya...my mother is the same way with me....she uses this tone with me that suggests she still considers me to be that annoying, useless little w/hore of a child that she has always hated (which is why I avoid dealign with her at all costs)....Truth be told though, I know why she does it even if she doesnt know....My mommy dearest would have to face some serious demons if she were to really acknowledge the fact that i'm on my way to 40 yrs/old (I'm 36)and havent failed in life like she wished...Whereas her two biological kids who are 38 and 40 are living false lives and still are under the rock she shoved us under as kids....They still see her as she WANTS them to see her..I on the other hand see her for WHO SHE REALLY IS and I've called her out on it more than once which is just unacceptable in her eyes.. LOL sucks to be her eh ;-)
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@SageMother (2277)
• United States
7 Jan 07
Looks like the problem is that you haven't set those shocking limits that cause parents to recognize your change in status. Using the word "no", letting them know that you that there are some issues that are not up for discussion is a good start. Stop trying to please them, stop worrying about their opnion...just be the adult. If they don't accept it then you limit your contact. That is now all people learn, through logical consequences. It is time you provided a few!
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I learned to tell her no a long time ago. I moved out when I was 14 and I am now 32 she and I almost never talk unless it's through my 17 year old daughter who lives with her.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Im sure she does. I dont think it is fair to talk about your mother like that. No one should do that. Just consider yourself lucky to still have a mother. And stop your crying.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Bite me!
• United States
17 Jan 07
Ya... she does. I think it's out of love. I know... it's annoying. But wha tan you do. It's your mom.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Yeah but still to be treated like a child is bad to be treated like a stupid child is worse.
@diego018 (74)
• Mexico
17 Jan 07
im 16 years old and i dont like my mom treats me like a child, she doesnt let me go to someplaces at the night etc.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
You are still young yet, enjoy it while it lasts.
@missinghim (1339)
• United States
17 Jan 07
There are times when I have to take breaks from my mother because I can't take the way that she either speaks or treats me. I keep having to remind her that I am a grown woman, and that she's going to have to treat me like one in order for us to have a good relationship. After I tell her that and give her some breathing room she get's it together for all of about a month or two, then I have to remind her again. Oh well, she's her own woman and is going to do what she likes.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
But isn't it irritating for them to do as they like.
• Romania
17 Jan 07
Not just my mother, but my father too, they are over the line critical and careful for me, but i have 24 years old.i still live with them , i'm in the final year of college, but i want SO MUCH to move in a new apartment and to be free.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Once you are free you will miss them and wish to go home probably.
@paule4129 (968)
• United States
12 Jan 07
yes im 42 and she still does guess you cant turn off the mother button?
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I don't think so.
@beta_love (451)
• India
10 Jan 07
well no my mother has syop doing this a long back ago
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
well you are very lucky then because apparently a lot of mothers have not.
• Hong Kong
9 Jan 07
In parents eyes, we always are their kids. I don't know if you are a mum too. If you have your own kids, you will have the same feelings as your mother when your kids grow up. Frankly,sometimes I want my mum to treat me as a child, but sometimes I do have my own idea and hope her to treat me as an adult. But It is not easy for her to do that. I think it is just a way Mum expresses her love to me. I would accept that. Good luck to you!!
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I treat my kids like adults as they get into the late teen years.
• India
9 Jan 07
yes she do....... but the only difference is that is doesnot expect me to act like a 10 year old
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I don't act like a child at all she just treats me like one. I live with my fiancee I am in college getting an education and I am living a state away from her.
@umerasif (532)
• Pakistan
9 Jan 07
Well sometimes yes. But then you should not hold it against her since to her you are always going to be her baby girl, the one that was dependant on her for everything and to whom she guided to walk holding her step and encouraging her to make more efforts and ultimately run.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Yeah I learned to run to get away from her. The woman is nuts!
• Pakistan
8 Jan 07
yaaa although il b 25 soon but my whole family treats me as if i m 2 years old....
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
with the advice and the judgmentalism? Oh God how I pity you.
• India
8 Jan 07
well, because i seem to be a maverick to my mom, she thinks im immature and not practical. so yes, she treats me like a kid.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Does it get to you when she treats you like that?
• United States
8 Jan 07
Moms do that. I think it kills my mom to try not to treat me like a little kid. Patience, we only get one mom a piece, and that's if we're lucky. Let it go...deep breath...her chiding is going in one ear and back out the other...deep breath...smile and say "I'll keep that in mind, Mom." If that doesn't help, I'm at a loss for ideas.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Nothing helps with this woman. I just keep a big stupid grin plastered on my face and try to ignore her jibes and general noise.
@simran1430 (1793)
• India
7 Jan 07
yes she does , and that what mothers are there for , we wil always be kids for them ,, and that why they are so special , moms love their kids , and they will always remain kids for them ,
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I wouldn't mind so much her treating me like a child if she would stop acting like I am not jsut a child but a stuid one!
• United States
7 Jan 07
My mom still kinda treats me like I'm 10 to. I think they do that because were her baby and always will be.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
9 Jan 07
or maybe they just have trouble not parenting.
@jonezy (293)
17 Jan 07
well im still only 17 so some of you may consider this an age worthy of being treated like i am a child, but im a mature individual and i consistently go beyond people expectations. because of this my mother is considerably relaxed with me, and allows me to do nearly anything i want, within reason, and supports me on nealy all of my decisions. I accredit this to the fact that we have always been able to talk about any subject openly and freely. this invokes a huge amount of trust between us, and means that i can tell her almost anything that i need to and ask her plainly if she minds me doing something. This has ment that she has alot of trust in me because i am always honest with her, and she has now come to trust my judgement and ofcourse if i have made my mind up on something then she knows i have put alot of thought into it and infact it is more than likely she would agree to anyway, this means overall that i never get treated like a child and more of an adult when in the company of my parents, they know i have a childish side, but then again, doesnt everyone? khris
@nayand (169)
7 Jan 07
It depends upon the impression your mother is having depending upon your behaviour history. You can not generalise this fact or can not apply any rule at what age you need to be independent. I mean were you a bit naughty in your teen? At 32 most persons start their own family and are independent in most of the countries. And if I am not wrong you are from the US and by this time you must have been independent but try to understand why your mother behave like this with you and try to win her confidence.