sharing cooking skills

@thatmom2 (126)
United States
January 8, 2007 1:00pm CST
how do i share with my husband about the fact that he cant cook. he tries i know he does, he gets all serious. on weekend days, he will get up, clean up the kitchen and begin preparing the same breakfast...scrambled eggs, corn beef hash, grits and toast. here is the problem, he makes the eggs first!! so by the time anything else is done the eggs are cold and rubbery. then inspite of me telling him about measuring out the rice vs grits, he still pours any amoung of grits in the pot, and they are sometimes under cooked or stiff as i dont know what. i hate to hurt his feelings, bc he really thinks he is helping me out..any advice..?
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@Sawsen (795)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Well my advice to you is: any man that cooks, regardless of how lousy, is better than a man who doesn't. lol. So if I were you, I would just try to hint in there that maybe he should make the eggs last. Or you could offer to help him out and show him the way you do it, and see if he catches on that he's doing something wrong. I mean if you tell him that he's making more of a mess than a help, then he might refuse to help out at all, which probably wouldn't be too good for the future. So try showing him a different way to do it, rather than not having him do it at all. Hope that helps! :)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 07
cook is deliciuos
@Bee1955 (3886)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I agree, so forget the grits - eat the rest and be grateful! :=_
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@thatmom2 (126)
• United States
9 Jan 07
yeah i do ignore the grits a bit. or just add alot of ketchup....lololol. the corn beef hash he has down to a science though....lol
@classy56 (2883)
• United States
8 Jan 07
i would not tell him anything.hes trying to please you.so pretent you enjoy the meal an go on.if he is really trying than dont spoil it for him. rice an eggs arent that high to rasie a fuss.enjoy the fact hes trying
@thatmom2 (126)
• United States
9 Jan 07
yes, i do. i try to remain grateful to this fact...
@emarie (5454)
• United States
8 Jan 07
buy the DVD series Good Eats...i think your husband might like it, i mean mine does. its great it mixes science and cooking and explains everything out. i think we would enjoy watching. i think it is sweet that he's trying to help, and a little romantic as well.
@thatmom2 (126)
• United States
9 Jan 07
yeah thats what i said..that why i didnt want to totally shoot him down..lol. especially since alot of my friends husbands, act like they are allergic to the kitchen, unless its just to put the dishes in the sink, or to get a cup of juice. im going to try the dvd, maybe make it like a contest. the most romantic night. i dont know. good advice though thanks.
@tbomb2002 (269)
• United States
8 Jan 07
It doesn't sound like he can't cook, it sounds more like he needs a little fine tuning. You can simply tell him how much you appreciate his help, but ask him to please do you a favor and make the eggs last because you like yours a little warmer. Also, try buying him a few cook books, but don't make him think it's because he can't cook...try to make it sound like it's because you know how much he enjoys making breakfast so you thought he might enjoy trying a few more recipes.
@thatmom2 (126)
• United States
9 Jan 07
yeah i tried the eggs things the other day, he finally agreed and said he would look into doing it later on in the breakfast. phew!! thanks
@heesaf (741)
• India
10 Jan 07
For that you have to first let him to watch you cooking.Once he sees the exact procedure he will come to know what mistake he was doing from next time he will not do the same mistake.
• United States
9 Jan 07
Why dont you try something like hmmm honey why dony you try making the cornbeef first that way we can use it to flavor the eggs, or something like that. have somethimes get creative when you critisize or make it like they came up with the idea
@avs189 (1030)
• India
9 Jan 07
i dont think u need to advice or corect him ,,,,at least u can openly see for ur eyes the love and affection and pains for preparing a breakfast to u .......that too on weekend .........its just love for u!!!!!!!!
• Pakistan
9 Jan 07
i think u should just let him try...its a blessing if ur husband tried to do something like this for u...its his love that despite not knowing the skill, he still does it hoping to make u happy :) and just not to hurt his feelings, u shouldnt criticise this gesture by him..... enjoy his funny cooking....food doesnt always have to be perfect if its cooked with love :)...i hope u get my point...:)
@snivelbec (135)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Breakfast, to me, is one of the trickiest meals to tackle for the exact reason you mention, timing is EVERYTHING! Perhaps you could prepare a meal together? Something along the lines of, "Honey, will you start the potatoes now? That way they'll be done at the same time as the roast," or something maybe more subtle. Perhaps he'll pick up on the idea that a hot meal means a hot meal, not a hot something-or-other next to a cold something-or-other.
• United States
9 Jan 07
Now matter how tactfully you do it, if you try to tell him how to cook, hes going to become disheartened. My advise is this-Wake up before him one day and say in the sweetest voice you can, Honey why dont you let me cook for you today. Once he follows you into the kitchen, cause he probably will, make it a point to demonstrate how you cook. OR wait for him to get up and clean the kitchen, put on something sexy and offer to help him make breakfast. Either way, be happy to have a man that cooks for you :)
@ghost1380 (871)
• Philippines
9 Jan 07
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@olaff123 (434)
• Namibia
9 Jan 07
First thing that caught my eye, was the fact that he cleans up the kitchen. Screw the breakfast, hold on to a guy that actually cleans the kitchen. My boyfriend is an excellent cook, but believe me, the joy of eating the meal soon turns sour once you've seen the kitchen afterwards. Maybe you can get him a nice recipe book - written especially for guys - and get him to vary the breakfast routine?
@sagirji (48)
• Pakistan
9 Jan 07
i will tell u da most imp cooking hint...be away from kitchen when dere are a lot of guests...lolzzzzzzzzz
@198112 (336)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I would come to him in a indirect manner and give some suggestions. You know men can be so sensitive at times especially when they are really putting forth their best effort and find out that no one enjoyed it as much as they did. I know there be times that i might make a meal and my husband dont like it. he still eats it and never tells me he didnt like it. But if i would try to make it again he would offer suggestions of how to try a didnt way of making the meal. Maybe you can take the same approach with your husband. Suggest to him that he makes the eggs last and measure out the grits. Hopefully he will listen and adopt your approach. Or since it is only the weekend that he makes the breakfast , if you are a little uneasy approaching him about it and dont want to hurt his feelings in any way, you can just eat the breakfast and act like you really enjoy it. Its only for two days, i know i would maybe take that approach because I try to be careful to hurt my husband feelings also.
@sicnarf (27)
• Philippines
9 Jan 07
tell him straight what you think of his cooking, he's your husband anyway and couples are supposed to have an open communication system. be gentle and be sensitive to his feelings though. you may start by giving him 'tips' on how to get things done. you are lucky to have a partner such as yours. its seldom we hear of husbands getting up early trying to please the wife and trying to be helpful at the same time.
• India
9 Jan 07
i think there is nothing to feel in this. sit and talk with him and tell him the right way to cook the food. teach him properly.
@friend722 (343)
• South Korea
9 Jan 07
you know this is not a problem,he just try to good husband for you...and you can teach them how to cook,,,
@adnanmd2 (831)
9 Jan 07
Lol gud but its better you teach him how to cook.. I am sure he will learn one or the other day.. best of luck !!
9 Jan 07
first thing you have to consider is whether he is the sensitive type or whether he listens at all. well, perhaps time it when he is in a good mood or you make him the same type of breakfast and tell him this is the way you like it... if he is trying to help out or trying to please you... I am sure he will make an effort. tell him gently that you like your eggs this way and your grits that way, etc. it's not that he is doing it wrong, but you prefer it this way.
@anne_143god (5390)
• Philippines
9 Jan 07
Maybe you should tell him what is the right way to cook. If he really intended to help you then he will obey what you are saying to him.