My views are old fashioned?

January 9, 2007 10:52am CST
I am constantly being told that for a seventeen year old my views are old fashioned. I believe that you should not even kiss someone if you are not in or intending to be in a relationship with them. Is that so bad?
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13 responses
@JashleyB (1441)
• United States
10 Jan 07
No it's not. Matter of fact, I think more teenagers should be a little more old fashioned. When I go out in public I am shocked by them lol. I'm 21 and still old fashioned. Have been all my teen years too. ;)
@Wanderlaugh (1624)
• Australia
10 Jan 07
It really is your call. It's not "old fashioned", really. It's discretion. You can send a lot of wrong signals with a kiss in the wrong place. Nobody has the right to tell you how to run your relationships. Just don't miss all the fun "on principle".
@medooley (1874)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Is it bad, not at all. It is good that you have values and morals, and it is even better that you are willing to stick to them even though society may not agree with your morals. That says a lot about you as a person, and for that I respect you. I can truely say that I hope when my son grows up he meet a woman such as yourself. I think that if there were more people in this world who shared your views there would be many improvements with the world. You keep on believing in what you believe in and perhaps we can get some more people to believe it to. Good for you!
@jetlady (338)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
Girl, I am about 2 decades older than you and I still hold the same beliefs, and I think we are an endangered species here. lol. But for a oretty, young girl like you living in the US, I would say that's quite rare. So keep it up! If you must, use a magnifying glass before accepting a guy into your life. :D But take your time. Enjoy your youth without strings attached. :)
• Singapore
9 Jan 07
i dont know..but u look like Chicks alcalla from far..the very controvercial girl from the PINOY BIG BRO! haha
@jenbatres (800)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I think your views are just fine, I would not want to just kiss people for something to do. A kiss should be special and something you share with people you care about and love. Best of luck
@avs189 (1030)
• India
9 Jan 07
You are perfectly all right .....nevr compromise on ur morals ,values,ethics and standards ....always do what ur heart says and not what people say!!!!!! three cheers to u !!
@Junig1 (301)
• Barbados
9 Jan 07
I don't think that is bad, that's a great attitude and I don't think your views are old fashioned at all, more people (both old and young) should think like that. Never let anyone try to tell you different, continue to value yourself, you will be glad you did :-)
@ajay22 (300)
• India
9 Jan 07
kiss shows affection and there is no harm in kissing a friend. Kissing does not means that we are going for a relationship always, you can just express your emotion, feeling and luv deeply through a kiss.
@adigaadu (195)
• India
9 Jan 07
hmmm..thts a million dollar question!! it all depends on wht ur intentions are..if u kiss with a sisterly or caring feeling then its alright..but a feeling which might give way to lust..or maybe already has lust involved is really wrong..u are not old fashioned because ppl who kiss share an emotional platform from the moment the thign happens..their hearts start aching when the other person is not there in their vicinity..so if u are not going to maintain a relnship then u will be left with a permanant heart ache..but if u are sure of maintaining a long relnship then ..yeah..then u SHUD kiss coz it increases the affection and intimacy..whatdya say??
• United States
9 Jan 07
Your view isn't a bad thing at all. It's how you feel and is right for you. I would never kiss someone I wasn't attracted to and wanted to be with. So if I wasn't married, and was still in the dating game, I wouldn't personally kiss someone just because. Though even if you kiss someone thinking there will be that relationship, the other person isn't always feeling the same and sometimes without light experimentation of a kiss, maybe you start the relationship and end up finding out there's no chemistry. Some people though just are 'kissy' people and just kiss for really no reason other than, it's just how they are. Whatever they want to do is their business. Don't feel bad, or bad about yourself and morals of how you feel. Nothing wrong with only sharing a kiss with someone you truly want to be with, and not just, because for no reason really.
• United States
9 Jan 07
I don't think it is bad, but the majority of people in the world today believe otherwise. Well the majority of America. If that is what you believe then don't let anyone make you feel old or wrong for the way you believe. I wish that sometimes I would have thought more like you than the way I did when I was your age. Oh well, it's too late to go back and change things now. I say stand by what you believe and don't let anyone change you.
@sunnypub (2131)
• United States
9 Jan 07
You stick to your ideals. There is nothing wrong with your views. Yes they are definately in the minority but that doesn't mean they are bad. I wish more people thought the way you do.