i fear fate!

Philippines
January 9, 2007 9:50pm CST
nine months have passed after i have achieved the dream of finishing school, and all the while i thought it would be easier now to handle things without pressure. still, i've got no plans for myself. it's most difficult to make plans now, because it's in these decisions that'll make or break me. the fear of dwelling out of the mundane is what fears me, because it is in the mundane where i feel secured. and with the sudden change of ending a life-long monotonous school life, the thought of starting over another chapter already makes it difficult. how do i eliminate this fear?
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@raxrox (46)
• India
10 Jan 07
Well, dont u worry, man... Every1 goes thru a somewhat similar phase in their life. All u need to do is keep firm belief in yourself & back your abilities.. those which u think will lead u thru.. Just look out for positives in whatever small things u'v done right.. Now, think of applying those things to ur future life & doing things right.. By doing this, e1 if u do commit a small error here&-thr, u still remain confident of getting thru any tight-alley..
@raxrox (46)
• India
10 Jan 07
And abt making decisions, its best to explore new avenues.. But, u'l be more likely to favour a thing which u wud have been knowing previously for a while.. So, look towards things which excite & interest u, while also paying attention & imporatnce to the financial, social & other aspects of things.
@usman400 (1588)
• Pakistan
10 Jan 07
Dont be shy, just do whatever u want, set your styles and standards and be stick to them, this is not a problem (or it does'nt seems one) Just be happy to eliminate the fear
• India
10 Jan 07
U r very right. Every one has its own style and one should maintain its uniqueness. The biggest fear is shyness to do nything So its good to be happy nd do as u like. Let others think as they like
@cariendup (170)
• South Africa
19 Jan 07
Just believe in urself!!!
@Pekachu (1114)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I think everyone has a fear of change in some way you just need to keep going forward you got your education way to go on that now enjoy make use of it its a good thing change life would be boring without it embrace it
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
It's amazing how the human mind works. Our imaginations sometimes run wild. Don't think too much about these things just do whatever is necessary for your life and future, everything will fall to their proper places.
10 Jan 07
Don't think too much about it. If you do you may miss some fabulous oportunites. Trust your instinct, and the path you take now will change many times as the years pass, believe me. Making a decision now doesn't mean you have to stay with it for the rest of your life. Go with the flow and get as much experience as you can in different things, whatevber they may be. Doing something is much better than doing nothing because you are too scared.
• India
10 Jan 07
Your fears are baseless...everybody has to pass school and make a career further. Anyways if you are fearing of making a new start you just first calm down and stop thinking of the time that has passed away. Making plans are easier if you focus yourself on your things of interest. Find things that attract your interest and see yourself doing that in your thoughts....do u feel relaxed or have any discomfort in imagination. You should choose that work in your career that suits you likeness and your abilities..don't just follow blindly what your friends are doing...just see what you can do Best....my wishes for your better career
@clarity (65)
• United States
10 Jan 07
It is always a let down when you accomplish a big goal and have to move on. Just make small goals as to what you want next for yourself. The important point is to try to get yourself moving toward a new life and goals and not sit stagnanting.
@sahergul (774)
• Pakistan
10 Jan 07
well buddy, just concentrate and think of the purpose behind anything you've started...
@alinho19 (25)
• Romania
10 Jan 07
There is a little difference between the two sentences "Mai temere / aver paura del destino" and "Non temere mai / aver mai paura del destino". In the first one there is no subject, it's an impersonal form and there's no perentory tone; the second one is addressed to a "you" and has an imperative connotation "(you) don't fear fate!
• India
10 Jan 07
hey many of us go through this phase....were in wen we finish some long monotonous thing its not easy for us to come out of it... but the new challenges in life will definitely get u out of it thought it may take some time.... tale up or do something that interests you.
@athul555 (91)
• India
10 Jan 07
when you are in a school you will totally be under your parents or teachers.Your life will be controlled by them.Your parents will be paying for you and you studies and all.But once you get a job..its you who control yourself..you will be earning by your own and you can clearly do whatever you want,but within your constraints..the real funny and intersting life is outside the school.you will like it after a period of adjustion.cheer up!wish you good luck. Well, I talked to my counselor things about this before and after a long discussion both of us came up with an idea... "We fear the unknown, because of the unknown, not knowing what is to come, we are afraid and worried about our future
@athul555 (91)
• India
10 Jan 07
oh thts tough for anyone stepping out from a less active introvert styled life to another extrovert one ithen it takes time and its perfectly natural for anyone to habe fear but it is natural and u can adjust to it no problem willl be there its the law of the nature in doing so.thn the fate is for allit's most difficult to make plans now, because it's in these decisions that'll make or break me. the fear of dwelling out of the mundane is what fears me, because it is in the mundane where i feel secured.
@micheller (1365)
• United States
10 Jan 07
I felt the same last year when I graduated. Just give it time and everthing will fall in place for you and you will start to understand how your life as an adult will be. GOOD LUCK!
@lovein (345)
• India
10 Jan 07
If fate is the future according to you. Future is uncertain , any event in future which may or may not happen. If fate is the Past to you. You can not change what you have already done already. So it is no good to think past ever. What is left is Present. You should rely on present. Do some work at present, please see that you do not think past or future when you work. Sleep some times and Sit with closed eye for some times when your mind is going to past and future. This way you will not fear fate.
@nandans (1161)
• India
10 Jan 07
one shouln't fear the fate rather one should welcome the fate and acknowledge it for a better tommorow.
@foxsoon (150)
• Australia
10 Jan 07
Had that a few years back, survived it. HEY you are around my same age 1985! Well, I think the best way to eliminate fear is to count and think back how many times you nearly lost your life, how many times you survived things people don't expect you to do or how many times you achieve things people might not expect or reach your goals. At the end of that you should realize, I HAVE SURVIVED. I'M A SURVIVOR!! You finished school there you go, you did something part of the community unable to achieve. You are changing a life, good, take it as a challenge that you will definitely conquer. Well, I talked to my counselor things about this before and after a long discussion both of us came up with an idea... "We fear the unknown, because of the unknown, not knowing what is to come, we are afraid and worried about our future. But then again, if unknown is nothing, there is nothing to be fear of right?" (play a psychological game and set goals for yourself, everything will be fine) cheers
@gexi1987 (329)
• China
10 Jan 07
that's normal,fujin.please never be panic and scared.when i first got to colledge,i feel i cant handle anything.it seems everything is changed and getting worse.but now i have totally get used to that and enjoy my new life.the real funny and intersting life is outside the school.you will like it after a period of adjustion.cheer up!wish you good luck.
@shyludev (65)
• India
10 Jan 07
nothing is constant...u've to go with the outcomings...just think u can,u'll and u must...and go ahead..
• Indonesia
10 Jan 07
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