I truly LOVE her but there is only one problem..........

India
January 10, 2007 9:26am CST
the age difference between us. Firstly, thanks to all of you guys for being concerned and giving me advices. You guys are truly great. Now, I know guys that I am starting this same discussion again but I need to add on one more thing which you can call as a flaw for us to get into a relationship. I was hesistant to tell this earlier because I myself was not confident on whether I should put this issue forward or no. But, now as I know that it will work fine when you guys will advise me on this is that a another hindrance apart from our age difference of eight years is that she is a divorcee and she was married for almost two years but then her relationship with that guy did not work out because he was two years younger to her. They used to have lots of fights and misunderstandings and finally they got seperated. Now, when we are together, we are kinda very comfortable with our relationship and also very happy. It is just that we are thinking about our parents aggreement and also theri happiness in this marriage alongwith our other family memebers. I truly LOVE her a lot and she also does but then these two things make her uncomfortable and stop her from loving me to the fullest. Please guys advise me on still we should go ahead and marry her and our relationship works out as I have also told her that I am discussing this issue with my friends here on mylot and she was very happy when she saw the responses for the earlier discussion coming to be positive. Thanks a lot guys, lol...
5 responses
• India
10 Jan 07
Dera roadromeo, As i told in your previous topic, age is not a matter in married life. Both the hearts should match, thats enough for an happy married life. Try convince your parents well! Tell something about your parents status in this issue dear?
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• India
10 Jan 07
well, about my parents...they are very simple and not very demanding. They usually listen to everything I say. But, when I told them about this, they were very sad and not kinda happy because they think that I deserve something much more better as obviously other parents will think. I know if I force them they will understand but then I am also sure that they will not be happy with we being together and I also cant see then sad for the rest of their lives. I being their alone kid, they have high expectations from me atleast when marriage is concerned...
• Melbourne, Florida
14 Jan 07
I am 10 years older than my boyfriend. We have lived together for almost 2 years, and we have no problems. We get along great. We really enjoy each others company. We laugh alot.
@marciascott (25555)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Follow you heart no matter what anyone says!
@marciascott (25555)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Do whatever makes you happy. You half to follow you insticts, It doesn't matter about the age, My mother use to tell me age is only a number. If you love her I doesn't matter what no one says.
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jan 07
well again if ur love her den i dont think her being divorced should realy matter to you!u should mary her!wht matters is to keep the love alive make sure its just not ur emotional decision u should openly think abt it ur girl needs more love den before as she has went thro a lot in the past so she wil not be able 2 digest same situation again if u do realy love her and acpet her the way she is and u people do care and understand and yes respect eachother den i think u should move on and oh yes if ur a muslim den do istakaara if its a yes den Go ahead!bst of luck!May God bless u both Ameen!