Gaudy Jewelry

United States
January 10, 2007 10:38am CST
I received a necklace as a gift from a dear friend. She brought it with her from Holland. It was not my taste. It is silvertone with huge pink stones. Overall it is about 3 inches of pink stones. You would see people wearing this to red carpet affairs. She asked me if I liked it. I found something about it that I did like, the color of the stones. I told her that I liked it. I have never worn the necklace. My daughter spied it and asked if she could occasionally wear it. She is a vocalist and wanted some sparkle to her attire. I gladly handed it over to her. My friend is coming to visit us this August, I hope she doesn't bring me any more jewelry.
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@suedarr (2382)
• Canada
10 Jan 07
Oh dear, perhaps if she is a close friend you should gently tell her that her gift was not really suited to your taste or risk getting something similar. Or maybe show her examples of things you do like, say casually flipping through a magazine or something. Cheers!
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• United States
10 Jan 07
I only wear jewelry that is small. The only piece that I have that is large is my purple dragonfly.
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@Aloeli (398)
• Portugal
10 Jan 07
i agree with suedarr
• United States
11 Jan 07
But why?
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@Lady_Vincy (1543)
• United States
10 Jan 07
It's good that you found some good use out of the jewlry that your friend gave you. If she does bring more jewlry all you have to do is be greatful. Maybe this time it would be something that you like.
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• United States
10 Jan 07
The first piece she sent me was very nice. This one really was not for me. I am glad that my daughter liked it.
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@missyd79 (3442)
• United States
11 Jan 07
you could have just said to her that it was very pretty just wasn't really ur style. I mean if she is a true friend she will appreciate ur honesty
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• Kuwait
11 Jan 07
well for me, i would gladly recieve what ever is the gift of my friend but you can tell to you friend politely that the is fine and your happy to have but you can be more happy your freind will give you something that you can use, you tell to your friend in a friendly way or even in a funny way. hope you will like my reply,, just now i realized that you are my too in gather, im glad we found each other here too.
@nancygibson (3738)
• France
11 Jan 07
Well, the important thing is that it found a use even if it wasnt by you personally. Friends often buy things on a whim but if tey are good friends they won'y be offended that it is your daucghter who finds teh item more useful than you do
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@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
11 Jan 07
Sometimes people are not sure what you like...so they just get you what they think you will like...lol. I understand your dilemma..I have got some jewellery that I really didn't like ..however there are times when I will wear different things...it is nice to experiment a bit. You may wear it sometime..however for now I guess it is nice that your daughter can wear it...
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• Singapore
11 Jan 07
Oh Dear! i know just the feeling!! i hate it when my family/friends buy me jewelleries as most of the time, it will not be something i like. and to avoid this from happening, i will tell them (when the time is right) that i prefer other gifts rather than jewellery as i love to choose my own jewelleries (my own bad habit!) :D
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• United States
11 Jan 07
gift from a friend should be accepted with happiness.......she remebered u when she was shopping and mite brought that to u....jus keep it with u....she will be happy abt that....otherwise that will be hurting ur frnds feelings......
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Why not? It might be something else your daughter might like to wear. I think it is great that you made sure to find something positive to say to her about the piece even though you didn't really like it. :) Maybe you will get lucky and she will bring you a snowglode or something. You could even drop it in an email as a hint in some way. That might stop her from buying you jewelry. LOL
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• United States
13 Jan 07
I have mentioned that I love the blue delft of Holland.
@villageanne (8579)
• United States
10 Jan 07
LOL Don't you just hate it when you receive a gift that is not your style. You just never know how to handle it. It is embarrasing. Maybe you could purchase a box, (what are they called) memory box or shadow box, that you put on the wall like a picture but is deep so you can showcase things in. Anyway, maybe you could showcase them as Holland Culture. That way it would be used and still she would know you appreciated it. Just a thought. You could decorate an area in the hallway with a pictue of holland and this box with Holland Culture. Holland is a place that not many of us will ever see so this would be very interesting to me.
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• United States
11 Jan 07
We are planning to go there hopefully sometime this year. That is if our finances allow. If not, we will go as soon as we can save the money. Our friend has graciously offered a room for us to stay.
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• United States
10 Jan 07
These types of situation can be complicated can't they. I'm wondering if perhaps you told your friend exactly what happened in a positive manner that she would understand -- What I mean is telling her that your daughter totally fell in love with it and as she has more occasions to wear the item and ask her if she would be upset if you passed it on to your daughter rather then have it "sit" in your jewelry box. I bet you she would be delighted to know it was being worn (maybe include a photo of your dtr. sporting the piece) and then I would gently make some possible suggestions of what from Holland interests you (if she always brings a gift) maybe ask her about - I don't Holland tulip bulbs for your garden or something like that. Just a thought:) -- Its wonderful to have friends who like to give isn't??:)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Funny you should mention tulips, she did bring tulips for our garden. I planted them this past fall. I can't wait to see them come up. I will eventually tell her that my daughter loved the necklace and wanted to add it to her jewelry collection. I know that she wouldn't mind. Thank you.
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@bonnibp (103)
• United States
10 Jan 07
That's a terrible thing to say! Your friend is doing gave you something out of the kindness of her hart and you didn't even appreciate it.
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• United States
11 Jan 07
I don't believe in any part of my discussion did I say I didn't appreciate it. I just didn't like the jewelry.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Luckily I don't wear a lot of jewelry, so no one really gets me any. Though, when hubby and I were first dating, he bought me the ugliest earrings that I've seen. They were dream catchers (and not the pretty ones. They were huge. So, I thanked him for thinking of me and explained that they're too big and heavy for my ears. He didn't want to return them or exchange them, so he told me to keep them any ways. I wonder if they'd still work as dream cathcers though. Does anyone know?
• United States
11 Jan 07
I would make them into a piece of jewelry such as a necklace or maybe an ankle bracelet to match.
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
10 Jan 07
pink stone necklace - perhaps not the kind of thing you would wear however it was gively freely with your glee in mind
That piece of jewelry found its way to you and your friend was its mode of transportation. The pink stones do seem quite wonderful. Now your daughter has wanted it and so you were able to share it with here. Whatever your friend brings she does so with hope of touching your life. I hope that it is fitting in every way this time however remember your friends wishes to give to you a gift!!
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• United States
11 Jan 07
She always wants to buy me something. I tell her that I don't need anything and she still does. She is that way.
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@shywolf (4529)
• United States
10 Jan 07
LOL! It is a quandry, wondering what to do sometimes about gifts that we receive that we do not exactly love. I would have liked to have seen this necklace. It does sound a bit much for my tastes, but it sounds like your daughter will get some good use out of it! ^_^ Hopefully your friend will not bring you any more jewelry *laugh* I myself am receiving some new jewelry and things from a friend soon, so I hope that I don't find myself in the same predicament! I doubt it, though. She seems to have really good taste about clothing and makeup and such, and jewelry, and she is trying to help me out with improving myself and kind of giving myself a makeover, which I sorely need *laugh*
• United States
11 Jan 07
I am very observant to peoples tastes when I consider buying or making them a piece of jewelry. Jewelry is like clothing, we all have our preferences.
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@sunrisekn (1468)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Sometimes as a friend, it just easier to thank them and accept the gift as opposed to hurting their feelings. These are the things we do as friends. I'm not one to hurt peoples feelings, but sometimes my bluntness does. So I really have to think before I speak. I have some pieces that some former employees gave me on their many travels and I just accepted them. The stomes are gorgeous, but they are much too big. They just sit in my jewelery box in the hopes that my niece will want them.
• United States
10 Jan 07
What you described is just part of being friends. Yes, we sometimes get gifts that we would rather our friends have just not gotten us. They may be our friends, but they don't always share our taste in everything. Sometimes to keep from offending them we say that we liked something when we don't. Just remember they only shop for you because they care.
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@gifana (4838)
• Portugal
11 Jan 07
Pink Beads - image of gawdy pink beaded necklace
ROFL.....If you have my luck she probably will thinking you liked the first one. It is an awkward situation when you receive a gift that isn't quite to your liking and it is even harder to find something nice to say about. It always brings to mind what my mother used to say to me when I was a child, "if you can't find something nice to say don't say anything at all." It was easy for her to say that but when push comes to shove it is sometimes very very hard.
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• United States
11 Jan 07
I used that same saying with my children. I did find something nice to say about the piece. I will find it easier to tell her that my daughter loved it and convinced me to let her have it. I will tell her it was just as well because I didn't have anything to wear such a nice piece with.
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@gifana (4838)
• Portugal
11 Jan 07
That should do the trick. Be appreciative but not condescending. It'll work every time and nothing is lost in the translation. Good for your.
• United States
11 Jan 07
Maybe u should try talking with ur friend and letting her know that u like the gift she gave u very much but u are not that much into jewelry. u can also say that she doesn't have to get u a gift but that her friendship to u is enough of a gift. try it
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@irisheyes (4375)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Ohhh I can really relate to this one. I basically don't like jewelry much at all. I almost never wear any. I once had a Movado museum watch I liked and wore but the band broke and I lost it. Another reason not to wear jewelry - It gets lost. Anyway for some perverse reason people sometimes give me jewelry for a gift and I never know how to deal with it. I usually make a fuss, say how much I like it and put it away with the rest of the jewelry I never wear. Funny thing is that just today I saw a bracelet in a little shop and I LOVE it! It's kinda an expanding cuff bracelet of little chunks of turquoise. I'm thinking it would be great with jeans or the long peasant skirts I like in the summer. But I'm wondering if I were to treat myself anybody take notice and ask when I'm going to wear the jewelry they gave me?
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