Do you pay for your child's grades?

No...we have never done that. We always tell our son..how good he is doing and how proud we are instead. I think that giving money is not the right message...but I guess some parents do. I think that is just a form of bribery...and that kids should learn for thier own sakes and for thier futures.

I didn't get anything for getting good grades. My parents didn't reward this with things. They told us that good grades would get you a good education and later a good job. That's what I tell my kids. I don't reward good behavior or good grades. Those are things that you should want and not expect getting something in return. Now at my daughter's old school for one year they gave out hockey tickets for the students that showed outstanding behavior. They would have a reward ceremony where the kids are brought in front of the school and given a ribbon for the honor rolls, perfect attendance, outstanding student, etc. I keep everything my kids make and bring home from school. I want them to be able to look back and say wow, I did that or I got that. My daughter hasn't brought home any bad grades yet, but when she comes home with a lower score than she made the previous 6 wks, I will tell her I'm proud of her. But it's proven that she can do better. I help her with her homework and help her go over her study questions. By the way she enjoyed going to the hockey game with her dad, me and our youngest stayed home. I didn't want to drag a infant to a loud game late at night.

We did pay our kids for good report cards. We gave them $5 for each A, $3 for each B, nothing for Cs and they had to PAY US $3 for each D and $5 for each F. None of our kids ever got anything lower than a C! Our girls had an easy time with school and always made honor roll -- our son didn't enjoy school nearly as much, but the money helped to motivate him!

Oddly enough, my parents always paid me for my grades but it was never really an incentive to get good grades, I just got them. I don't offer it to my kids because, like you I think that they should realize that their learning and doing their best gives them the opportunity to make something of themselves. The good grades and better opportunities from them should be incentive enough to realize that they need to keep up the grades themselves. But I have to say, I don't really find it "wrong" when people do pay for report cards. Everyone has their own way of dealing with their kids and if it works for them, good for them.

my mom never gave us money if we sucsess or get scholarship at school or college but we go to restaurant and celebrate it together. It teach us not study for money ^^ Maybe study for pride. lol

we couldn't blame the parents.as a cliche:parents wants the best for their children.if they see that their child got low grades or failed,it is a big depression on their part and to the child.that's why some parents,in order to overcome this depression and embarassment,they tend to do these rhings.

Some sort of reward doesn't hurt. You are doing the same thing as paying them. Just in a different way. I think that giving them a reward and praise instills good work habits. Like a job the harder you work the more you get paid. Some schools have started rewarding kids for their grades and attendance. In these schools grades and attendance have improved. They reward them with gift cards or something like that. It seems to work.

My husband and I do something very similar to what you do. When report cards come home, we celebrate by taking the two children out to dinner. They get to choose the restaurant. Needless to say, praise is the order of the evening! We too have been fortunate that all of our children have always made great grades and have been honor students. Like you, I suppose if my children were making poor grades, I might use money or some type of gift as an incentive to do better. The most important thing to me is to instill an internal drive to be the best you can be and a strong work ethic.

thinkingoutloud. I know that this discussion is rather old on here, but I still wanted to respond to it as I thought that you have a great way of rewarding your children for a job well done. I don't consider it bribery per say to reward our children for grades that are good. Money might be going a little too far, but I guess that is up to the individual parents. I myself never got paid for any of my good grades that I would bring home, and I really didn't get rewarded in anyway, but I was the type of student that wanted the good grades, and I would cry if I didn't get them. :) I did have friends that were paid for their grades, and yes, I have to admit to a little bit of jealousy on my part because of it, but it never stopped me from doing good in school because my mom didn't. I really like the idea of taking them out to supper or maybe to a movie as a reward, that way the whole family can join in their success! I also have heard of parents making their children pay for bad grades, and I think that I will probably start this after my kids get a little bit older and farther into school. That way they have some sense of balance and checks for their behavior and grades. :)

I dont give monetary reward if they do better in their school subjects. What I do is grant them a favor that they want, like going out to dinner, seing a movie with friends or buying some stuff for them. It is better that they study harder and get good grades because they want to learn and be appreciated for what they do in the school, than to get high grades just because they are aiming for the money that they will get.

i personally feel paying for a kid's grades is the worst injustice a parent can do for that child. It is better u watch the child fail, then study had to pass or upgrade his/her grades. Whatever a child learns from childhood will definitely mar or make that child in future, paying to upgrade his/her grades will teach that child to be dishonest & fraudulent & i discourage it in the strongest terms. If a child likes school, all well's & good, but if not, let the parent teach the child the advantages and disadvantages of hating school & help the child to develop interest in his studies, so i dont think its right to pay for a child's grades whether it is motivating or not.

We don't reward with money for good grades, but we do go somewhere special - whoever earned the most "high grades" gets to pick where we go. For example, last time our oldest got to pick the bowling alley. The time before we had to flip a coin because there was a tie for who had the best grades. The kids are really trying to work smart and, half the time, they forget about the extra incentive at the end. We keep reminding them that, at the end of it all when it's time to work, they'll be earning a greater incentive through high paychecks if they consistently do well throughout their school years. That really drives them along!