My Friend Drinks Too Much
January 11, 2007 5:37am CST
I have a friend and he his a really good friend (not boyfriend!!) but I think that he drinks too much. He is a Japanese salaryman so he works about 12 hours per day and six days a week. When he comes home he says that he drinks by himself. Sometimes after work he has to go out with his coworkers or customers and then he just drinks more!! He says he can't stop! I'm worried about his health and I want to help him stop!! What should I do or say to him?? All help appreciated on this one!! kumiko xo
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11 Jan 07
i want to suggest that you convince him that drinking to much is going to spoilt his health .also the too much drinking habit sometimes arises when you think that it will make you capable of doing work for long time but you must convince him that it is not a fect ,by doing so he is going to minimise his reaction time and livor damaged.
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11 Jan 07
is it really getting out of hand? if it gets to a point where he wants to stop drinking, then only he can make the desision. if he's not willing then he wont. they're right, if he drinks every day then it might be a problem. if he starts to become violent, then its a problem. i can understand the health issue. if he's been at this a long time, its doing major damage to his liver. only a doctor can say for sure how damanged his liver is from drinking. some good ways to stop is normally cold turkey, just don't do it...avoid drinking, don't drink to deal with stress, if going out...use some self control and drink something else. they offer other drinks at bars as well...if they don't...they should. also there are those AA meetings.
11 Jan 07
its something serious.first i want to appreciate for worrying about ur friend..he need to focus his time on something else if he needs to stop drinking..if he is not married then find a gal..if he is laready then ask his wife to spend more time with him..ask him to concentarte on other type of entertainment..advice him of the ill effects and ask him to reduce the number of drinks he take a day..that will slowly reduce and he will be a normal person..Thanks!
11 Jan 07
I know, it seems so impossible to keep a person from drinking. You have to show them that it is drinks that are controlling his life and that he is a slave to drinks. Hurt his ego and say that it is He that should be controlling his own body needs rather than any addiction. Tell him also that he shall be able to think clearly and chaolk out strategies for the betterment of his life when he is in a sane mood. He should pratice what we call in India Meditation. Tell him all the disadvantages of drinking too much. Make him promise to you that he shall lessen it first slightly then more and then more. I think that should work out things a bit. Even my lady friend is facing that problem from her husband.
21 Jan 07
If he is your friend then you should encourage him to stop this habit. You can talk to him personally and ask for his reason. Maybe something is deeply troubling him. If he is successfully in his work then, he is a very good person who shows much responsibility. try to find out the source, whether he had this habit from college days or recent troubles, no satisfaction in jobs ?...Maybe he seeks peace in the days madness from drinking. whatever the reason maybe it may take some time to heal this habit, but ask the persons who are close to him to change the habit slowly.
12 Jan 07
i wish i knew!!!! i know someone with the same kind of problem, but on top of everything you mentioned, he also doesn`t sleep much...maybe 4 hours a night...and sometimes he gets his rest in the middle of the day...on the shinkansen or wherever he can :( i`m really worried about him too, but he kind of ignores me whenever i mention anything about his drinking. he doesn`t seem to think it`s abnormal, but complains about his decreasing health :( makes me sad and frustrated!!! a korean friend of mine once said similar things happen in korea, where the work day is very long and men go out with their colleauges after the job, no matter how tired they are. they always seem to do the same activity: drink :( and my friend said she knew some men who just couldn`t handle this lifestyle anymore but didn`t know how to stop, because of the pressures of the jobplace....if you say you are too tired or don`t want to drink, people make fun of you, or think you YOU think you are too cool to join them. it`s unfortunate, but i think quite common in countries like korea and japan, where the common salary man works zillions of hours per week. the only thing you can do is continue to support your friend, and if he KNOWS he doesn`t want to continue drinking, this is a step in the right direction. whereas my friend doesn`t admit he has a problem, sees nothing wrong with waking up with a hangover every morning :(
12 Jan 07
if drinking has been his habit for so long, then you will have difficulty making him stop it. the least you could do is to encourage him to do other things when not at work, like engaging in sports,etc. anything that will be of interest to him and will divert his attention from drinking.