To Marry or not to Marry
January 11, 2007 10:27am CST
Marriage is considered to very sacred and most people believe in marriage. But then again Marriages for someone just dont work no matter how close they are to their partners. For real life example i knew someone who cousin dated these girl for 10 years 10 whole years and when they finally got married they divorced in less than 10months. So was it better for them not to get married? was marriage not for them? howdid they survive 10 yrs of dating. looking at these situation what would you think about dating and marriage? should everyone give it a shot at least once or they should just live their lived with each other with getting married? Is marriage really necessary?
• United States
12 Jan 07
When I was in high school, I attended my girlfriend at the time's granparents 60th wedding anniversary. At that point, I wanted to get married young and be able to accomplish something like that. But now that I'm in a relationship that's lasted over 2 years and produced a child, I already feel like I'm in a marriage and don't feel much of a need to make it official. One of my best friends was married in August 2005, and by July of the next year he was living in his car just to avoid her. I come from a family where both my mother and father have been divorced 3 times and my current girlfriend came from a family where her parents waited till all of the kids were 18 to get a divorce and the constant bickering only hurt the kids. Neither of us is in any rush to race off to the altar. It would make the paperwork easier, but I'm don't think marriage is really required anymore. Older generations look down upon our relationship, but I'm not in it to make them happy
12 Jan 07
If you believe that marriage is sacred they you will also believe the Bible when it "and they were both naked and were not ashamed". During the 10 years period they were not yet naked. The covering which is usually deceit/deception was still covering both of them. But as soon as they entered the covenant the covering departed and they saw what they could not see before. Those faults have always been there in both of them but they were blinded to them until their eyes became opened.
12 Jan 07
personally I do not think it is necessary and in some ways it can cause more strain because there are bigger implications when you break up. I think you can live with someone for years and not have to get married and still be happy together. I think if you plan on having children and a family it is good to be married and have that bond, but I do not believe marriage is necessary but as I am still young my opinion may change. Some people love each other for years and live together and never get married, I would probably like to do that till I am absolutely sure about getting married. I would like it to last as long as possible because it would be terrible to have to get a divorce. The younger you get married the more likely it will not last I think.
12 Jan 07
personally, i feel marriage is important. Marriage itself, is the means by which u start a family and live the life your parents are living. Marriage is not just about sharing ur life with one man or woman, it has more than that. the dating scene lasts because you are in love, and u want tht person. But once you get married, you are living with the person, and come in terms of the bad sid of them, and refuse to tolerate it if it effects you. Before marriage, whatever your partner tells you is 'because they care' 'because you do not mind them being possessive' 'because they love you' 'it is sweet', etc etc... but after marriage, when u r a family, the relationship is the kind u have wid ur siblings and parents, whatever they say is simply to torture u... marriages do not work out, because ppl have mushy dating scenes, once married... u live the practical life with tht person. I wud prefer marriage in the sense, that atleast who ur living with is someone who is REAL him.. and not *someone* or *something* just to u...
12 Jan 07
It will always depend on the persons involved. If they love each other that much, they should be ready with all the problems that would come their way once they get married. It's not a guarantee that even if you have a long term courtship you're going to have a blissful marriage as well. Marriage is a commitment. It takes two fully devoted people to make a marriage work. It's easy to fall in love but staying in love with the same person for the rest of your life, with all the temptations around you, is a lot more difficult to do.
11 Jan 07
I'd think marriage is not the reason for them to split up, perhaps their relationship already had problems before they got married, but some people just didn't want to break up because of the being together for many years. But do they really suit each other? Can both of them really live together? Do they really love each other? If both are committed, and they are meant for each other, whether to marry or not, it doesn't really matter. To me, marriage is not necessary in maintaining the relationship, commitment doesn't rely on the piece of paper. Whether getting married or not, both people can still be in love. Anyway, I'll go for marriage coz of kids. I think it's fair to the kids if the parents are married.