Would you ever go back with an ex?

United States
January 11, 2007 11:03pm CST
I can't bring myself to do it. I feel that if a couple breaks up for a reason which means there is no logical sense in getting back with an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. I feel that if they were to make a complete 360 degree change then there is a possibility of us maybe getting back together, but I never have.
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• India
12 Jan 07
Basically it depends on the reason of the break up. However i dont think that getting back together after a breakup under normal circumstances is a good idea
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@rhea_lyn (199)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
if you break up,i know theres a reason,and sometimes each way will be separate.But if and her/him are really mean to be and ur road will be cross and that time u really dnt need to let go each other.each time to tell and express how u feel each other.
@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Most of the time when people get back with their ex it doesnt work. You break up for one reason. Both have to think about it and change what was wrong. But you can't change someone. I would never come back with my ex. When I start dating my actual boyfriend he asked me back telling me he made a mistake. It was too late.
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12 Jan 07
It depends, I always think that we shouldn't go back on oruselves but its all circumstantial. Every relationship having its own specifics its hard to say, but I think whatever we do we should always be im proving on the past and anything that came/went with it.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
12 Jan 07
Personally I would say no. I would not get back with an ex. They are called an ex for a reason! I have never resumed a relationship with somebody I have broken up with in the past (other than the odd brief fight where we say we are done but it lasts maybe a day or two!)so can't see myself changing anytime soon!
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• India
12 Jan 07
please think again and also I request you to see my arguement for "yes".
@Darkwing (21588)
12 Jan 07
It sounds as though you've made up your mind about this one queenajasmina. If that's the way you feel, then you've come to the right decision for you and it would be senseless to even try to get back together because with those feelings, it would all end in disaster. I would, perhaps, give it a lot of thought, or little thought, depending on the partner I was being asked to get back with. If something really bad had happened to break us up the first time, then I would probably say no, because it would happen again. But if the break-up was something less serious and we'd both maybe matured a little, I would consider getting back together. As I said, it depends on the person, and I definitely don't think you should demand that they change.
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• Philippines
12 Jan 07
you're right! it depends on what causes your relationship to fall apart! if it has to do with cheating then i would not probably accept him or to try to have the relationship back!
@cuddleme01 (2727)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
it depends. if i still love my ex and am sure we both have learned from our mistakes in our past relationship, then i might go back with my ex. its a case to case basis.
@AvizWorld (265)
• India
12 Jan 07
I think you shouldnot make a resolution that you shouldnot turn on to your ex after breaking with them, because I believe that all the persons change at some time to the other and transform into a person whom you admire, and also I feel being friend with him doesnot harm you in anyway, ofcourse leave him out if he is a bad guy and also try to digest that mistakes are human habits and try to understand with a broad mind and change him/her by making them to understand why you are feeling bad at that activity. hope I make some sense...
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@shomomo (850)
• Israel
12 Jan 07
I think that almost everyone deserve another chance, if their intentions are good and they really mean what they say, I think you should trust him and give him one last chance.
• Hong Kong
12 Jan 07
Yes,I would.I've always wanted to go back to my ex,I still have feelings for him,but I can't because he's married.
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• United States
12 Jan 07
Sometimes, love needs a 2nd chance. A relationship needs another chance. We all make mistakes, and maybe couples need to try once again to make their relationship better and stronger. If they still love each other and are miserable being apart, then there's no point why they shouldn't try to make it work. However, there are also instances when trying to mend a broken relationship would lead to more hurt. I guess it all depends on both parties. If they are still willing to take the risk.
@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
no, i would never want to get back with my ex, , i believe that everything happens for a reason , , though sometimes, , we must admit , , that person still somehow holds a special place in out heart but won't let them come back for some reasons, , reason such as, , we are afraid of getting hurt , , AGAIN , , and , , one more thing , , why should a couple get back together? , , to commit the same mistakes that they have done before? , , no way , , yah , , i know, , some will react , , it's a lesson for the couple , , to make their relationship stronger , , but how sure are you that you won't make the same mistake(s) that you did? , , well, that's it for me, , just voicing out my thoughts
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@aryaman (245)
• India
12 Jan 07
I think that sometime when couples take decision in hurry than may be there is a chance of getting back together. I had a friend who loved this girl. They had been going around for around some months. He knew that the girl was too particular about cleanliness and when they started living together, initially he ignored this habit of hers. But slowly he started getting irritated by this habit of hers. My friend was living alone before staying with her and so he was not used to keeping things clean and stuff in their proper place. But slowly due to this matter he started getting irritated with her on many unimportant matter. He couldnt tell her directly so he showed his anger in other matter. This led to them breaking off. But slowly he realised that this habit was not as big and many her her good qualities and he started to miss her. After that he realised his mistake and apologised to her. Now they are back together again
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@tanaclark (570)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Unfortunately yes I have. But it never works out. I always believe them when they say they are gonna change. But they never do. For the first week or two its great then it goes back to the way it was before. Then I dislike them even more.
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@jenbatres (800)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Before I was married I did go back out with an ex, but he became an ex again. usually Ex's are ex's for a reason, however I think people are capable of change. I believe in giving a second chance, but I am more cautious. Best of luck to you.
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@iyamapa (259)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
i will never ever dare try or think about in dreaming of getting back with my ex. it is a good thing that i experienced life with him. i learned a lot now... and that is more than enough
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@cielo05 (597)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
It depends on the reason why we broke up, if the reason involves a third party(girl) then I would never ever go back to him cause If he did it once then he could do it over and over again.
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
12 Jan 07
I do belive that it is possible to find your way back together, but it all depends on why you broke up in the first place, All people can change and all people can make mistakes, nobody is perfect. I also belive that all people has to decisde for themselves. If u feel that it is not worth it, then it probably isnĀ“t!
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@susana25 (341)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
I think it depends on the situation. if both of you love each other,then why not?! but if you broke up for some reasons which is you think that your x can do it again for the second time I don't think so. Just wake up and learn what happen about your past... And think more times for it before you make a decision your going to regret for end...
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@superbren (856)
12 Jan 07
i too think it is a bad idea . i have yet to see what that works . i once got back with a two timer , it lasted three weeks.once the trust is gone its time to move on.my sister too has a lot of boyfriends which dont last . when they fall out they always go back briefly but it never works.
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• India
12 Jan 07
no never, ex is gone. For me if she was mine, I would have never let her go in the first place. I would have gone to very deep extent to keep the relation on and going. But if still things don't work out then may be you two were never meant for each other. So why go back to something that was never meant for u ?
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@sofaki (9)
12 Jan 07
I cant go back to an ex, because our new relationship will be based on the mistakes we make before
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