should people keep a few secrets or should everything be out there???

@irisheyes (4373)
United States
January 12, 2007 9:29am CST
Seems nobody believes in keeping anything to themselves anymore. Read the topics here. Watch reality TV......Everything is out in the open and I do mean EVERYTHING. It's not just the young or the computer savy doing it. I recently stood in line for an estate auction behind a well-to-do septugenarian dealer who was discussing her finances with a total stranger. She was giving statistics her own children probably won't know until after her funeral. There is a state neighboring mine that has a privacy right for big time lottery winners. They don't HAVE to publicize their winnings but more and more they CHOOSE to be front page news. Why? Sounds like asking for trouble to me. People are willing to risk their marriages because they feel compelled to spill the beans about an affair that was over, amounted to nothing and would never have surfaced. What ever happened to "what they don't know won't hurt them". Personally it all makes me cringe. I think anybody over the age of 20 who doesn't have a few secrets piled up is probably a bore. Apparently, I'm in the minority. What do you think?
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• United States
12 Jan 07
You would be right about anyone who is human having made a mistake or two that is best left behind them. As to these people "letting it all hang out" don't worry, life will teach them the lesson about why this is not such a good idea. In other words, I don't think you are in the minority among the over 30 set.
@irisheyes (4373)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Yes, that's what I thought at first. It might just be a youth thing and older folks know better. What about that lady giving her financial details to a total stranger? She was over 70 and those lottery winners were not all that young?... I'm with you but things seem to be moving the other way.
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• United States
21 Jan 07
I myself have a few secrets yes I think for the most part it depends on who you are talking to. Like my password that is a secret. Depends on the subject and who I am talking to. I've always heard mystery is good.
@irisheyes (4373)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I think a little mystery is a good thing. It makes people more interesting.
@horsesrule (1960)
• United States
5 Mar 07
Well, I know from my posts that it seems that I share absolutely anything and everything but I really don't. There are some things that I wouldn't share ever, mostly because they are so deeply personal OR are so totally wacko that I won't be sharing them with anyone. They aren't bad secrets that would hurt anyone, just stuff better left inside my head. I don't think that you are in the minority in your thinking and I have overheard some of those discussions too where people are blabbering all their financial information or something horrible that happened to one of their kids that should never be shared with anyone ever. Tonight on Home and Garden television there was a show called "Secret Spaces" that was about the secret passages, secret rooms, secret hiding places that people have in their homes. The show gave the people's names, the towns they lived in, showed their houses from the outside, showed their houses and the contents on the inside AND THEN told about their secrets like a SAFE and even said that's where they keep their valuables! I was a little in shock. Isn't that asking for trouble? Isn't that almost like asking to be robbed? Because now any "bad guys" who watch TV are going to know exactly how to find your safe, which secret door to go through, which vase turns to expose the finger identification scanner, well, really all the info. needed to rob them really. And that whole lottery winners being front page news, that's definitely asking for trouble, you are right. Because the next thing you know, all the shade tree relatives and so-called friends are going to be at the door begging for money since they know you have some now. I'm not even sure why people would share some of the things that they do especially when common sense would tell you that it isn't a good idea. But that's a whole 'nother discussion, people displaying a lack of common sense!
@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
5 Mar 07
You're so right. As for me, privacy is very important to me and I'm choosing very carefully what I'm telling - not only there but even to my closest friends and family. But of course, I'm not 20 anymore... lol! Besides, in my country a lottery winner has also a privacy right, and as much I know, the most of the winners are wise enough to use it. But the reality shows... I'm not fond of them and I've always wondered why people want to do such things. The worst example was there a couple of years ago, the show was called "changing wives". Young women (and mostly with small children!) went for weeks to live with another family. As much I understood, the show tried to bring out the diversities - a mom of a rich family went to a poor home, a total freak to a conservative home, and vice versa. It ended up with a scandal. A daughter of a family participating there refused to talk to her mother again. Everything was discussed in tabloids for months, and you know, how nasty they can be. If an adult person choose to reveal all his/her secrets, it's his/her (bad) choice, but there were children involved! I find it disgusting.
• United States
2 Feb 07
I think that you are right, and I fully agree with what you say and feel. I'm way over 20 and have quite a bit of secrets. :)
@Ashida (1370)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I don't get it either. It's like the new form of light conversation or the new way of supposed intimacy. My thing is that I really don't want to know all the personal laundry of a stranger. It's like accelerated friendliness.
@badkat83 (1621)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I think it is good to have a few. If you tell everything what do you have. I have learned to keep my mouth shut. I just smile.
• India
20 Jan 07
Hey, this is something I've been wondering for quite a while now. Where do I draw the line as to let something out or not! I seem a bit confused whether people should know a certain bit about me or not; whether telling a particular thing would mean gaining sympathy or it's ok once in while to be pampered by someone else once you tell your problems; whether sharing my knowledge about a particular thing would mean showing off and making it all public when everyone should be doing their bit on their own or knowledge is meant to be shared? Just where do I draw the line?