The wedding ring dispute!!!!

January 12, 2007 11:35am CST
Do you wear your wedding rings everyday? I ask because, I don't. I can't sleep in them, don't ask me why other than I am a nut I assume. However some mornings I forget to put them back on. My husband has never took his off and gets a bit aggravated at me for not keeping mine on. My argument is, everywhere I go, everyone knows I'm married, so what's the harm. I wouldn’t care if he didn’t wear his. He’s faithful and I don’t think that ring has any bearing on it. Am I the only one that thinks it isn’t a problem to go without my wedding rings? Do you wear your rings everyday? Why or Why not? Thanks in advance.
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@boogasmom (149)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I myself do wear mine 24/7. On the other hand, I can see your point. As with a marriage license, it is a mear technicality. If you yourself and your husband know that you are married, isn't that all that matters?? Sure it is nice to let others know, but in most cases does that really stop another man from hitting on you?? No, he just figures it as a challange. Wearing the ring has no bearing on weather or not you cheat.
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@sunrisekn (1467)
• United States
13 Jan 07
My husband searched high and low for my wedding rings, so I truly appreciate them however, I can not sleep with them and have to take them off. I keep them by the bed so I can put them on as soon as I wake up. My fingers have been swelling so badly lately that I can't wear them right now. I actually feel naked when I go out and do not have them on. It's like I've forgotten something. My husband doesn't get mad, he just asks where they are.
@icequeen (2842)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
This is a hard one. I understand your point. However...the ring is a symbol that you are taken. I am sure your husband just wants other guys to know you are off limits...and that is why he is upset. I would take it as a compliment. He must really love you. I would just humour him and try to remember to put your rings back on the next morning. You should be proud to be married...and wear those rings with love and pride...
12 Jan 07
Oh he won't admit to it, but I am sure part of it is he is afraid I will get hit on. He forgets though, I was never into jewlery and I can handle myself very well. I am proud to be is wife as well as grateful. You do make a sweet point. Thanks for sharing that.
@Bee1955 (3886)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I only wear my wedding band unless we're going out, then my diamond and emerald engagement ring comes out of the jewel case. My mother taught me this, because she lost her diamond engagement ring when down the sink it went while she was washing dishes only was married 6 months. I dont want to lose mine due to my fingers shrinking while in warm water either.
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• United States
13 Jan 07
me and my husband don't take off our wedding rings because to us it is a sign of our love and our commitment to each other and by wearing our rings it shows that we are faithful to that.i know alot of married people who do not wear their rings i do not think it is right not to wear them but that is my opion.
@Kscott (634)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I have been married for 10 1/2 years, and neither me or my husband wear our rings now.....I dont wear mine because I lost a lot of weight and it falls right off, he because he gained a lot of weight and it doesn't fit. We haven't been financially able to replace the rings with the correct sizes yet either. This does make my husband mad.....before his got to small and mine too big!, he got mad because mine broke straight in half and he had to get me a new one.....he you are never supposed to take those off....he believes it breaks the unity between a man and a wife....this is his opinion, but I dont think so, I think it matters how you yourself honor your marriage. I think that wheter you wear a ring or not.....infidelity can and will happen reguardless, so the ring doesn't prevent it....it's a symbol of your love to someone else.....and even that tiny ring cant stop some heartless vixens who care nothing less about marriage and will do whatever it takes to ruin it!! I have both the rings together on a gold chain, with a charm between them, and I still never wear that.....I guess as far as Im concernced everyone who knows me, knows who I'm married to and knows that I love him....so wearing a ring doesnt really matter...
• Australia
13 Jan 07
For a number of years I was unable to wear my rings. I've had the bones removed from a number of my fingers and silastic put in to replace them. Before having the surgery on my ring finger I could not bear wearing my rings, especially not in the cooler weather, when they would twist. After surgery wasn't much better, until I met someone who had similar trouble and she gave me some advice. I had my two rings welded together to form one ring and can now wear them most of the time with relative comfort. Because I still have problems with my fingers, I don't wear my rings in the house, but they have become part of my "getting dressed" to go out.
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
I don't have a wedding ring but somehow I could relate to this discussion. I do have some sort of engagement ring that my boyfriend gave me, a bond, something like that, I wear it everyday and I simply get used to wearing it and it doesn't bother me at all.
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• United States
12 Jan 07
Hi Sunshinecup, I have been married to the same man for over 46yrs. I never take my rings off. I have worn out two sets and am on the 3rd. one. My rings are a great pleasure as the one now is quite expensive. The ring is a symbol of love and commitment. It just shows that you care about the person you married. Annette
• United States
12 Jan 07
I do... it's a symbol... it signifies so many things. I love looking at my fingure and knowing it was givin to me with complete love and commitment. I go crazy when I don't where mine. My husband is an electrician so he can't ware his to work... cause it's a great cunductor for electricity! But every Friday... it's back on his finger. And I love seeing him ware it!
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@jojopuff (520)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I cannot wear my wedding rings at night because I get an allergic reaction to the metals in them. I wear them all the time during the day, but take them off at night and I don't have a problem. For me, I think they should be worn whenever possible, but I don't think it's a problem if you don't, unless there are are issues/questions of fidelity or other issues like that. Basically I think it's a personal preference.
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• United States
12 Jan 07
Know we don't wear our rings. My husband can't because of the job he has so he carries it on his key ring. I can't because they are to small right now. I gained to much weight but as soon as I lose somemore I will probably start wearing them again.
12 Jan 07
I remember my Grandpa keeping his on his key ring as well. He was a welder and they can't wear jewlery at all. Thanks for the reply.
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• United States
13 Jan 07
I have the opposite problem. My husband bought me mine when I was pregnant & since then my hands lost the extra fluid, so they didn't fit, they almost fit again with my second pegnancy, and I'm very early on right now (with #3), so they still don't fit. But I keep them on a necklace & my husband said after this baby (it's going to be our last) he'll get them resized. :)
@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Jan 07
well yeah..i wear coz its a sign also of your love and committment that you made to your husband/wife during your /our wedding ceremony...if you wont wear it..it may means you that your available and seeking one wedding ring serves as a symbol...
13 Jan 07
Yes that could be true, someone may think I am avaiable. The problem is my husband knows me and he knows I have a mouth and I'm not afraid to use it.LOL
@kaspyv (1011)
• United States
13 Jan 07
my ring - remembering a wonderful marriage
I was married to my late husband for 23 years and even though he is gone, after 3 years I still wear my wedding ring I don't wear it on my ring finger but I do wear it all the time. I will always wear it because he will always be a part of me.
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@SageMother (2277)
• United States
13 Jan 07
You might tell your husband that you don't like feeling branded like a head of cattle....lol. I wear rings all the time, none of them have been wedding rings and I am married. I feel that its no one's business what my marital sttus is unless I choose to tell them. Its a way of dealing with your privacy. YOu could try telling your husband that you think it has a negative affect on your dealings with merchants or in business because it weakens your negotiating power...which can, and often does, happen. Those are my ideas...the very first one was a joke, of course!
13 Jan 07
I like the dealing with merchants advice, but he won't buy it....I am a stay at home mom! LOL I do appreciate your sharing and thanks for the reply. *hugs*
@wiccan (348)
• Australia
13 Jan 07
I never take my wedding ring off I don't want as I love being married. I don't always wear my engagement or eternity rings for fear of damage to them outdoors, or sometimes thy catch on things.
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• Australia
13 Jan 07
I never took my rings off for years. Even when the hospital wanted them off when giving birth, I insisted they be taped: they weren't coming off! When later I had to leave them off, it took a lot of getting used to, but my marriage never depended on wearing a ring, and the not wearing the ring made no difference to the marriage. Now that I can wear them again, I do so whenever I go out, but seldom wear them in the house.
• United States
12 Jan 07
I wear my rings when I go out in public. I take them off when I am in the house. I don't need a ring to show that I am married.
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12 Jan 07
See, you get me! LOL, that is the same thing I tell him. I KNOW who I love and whom I am commited to. I reckon after reading some of these posts though, it just maybe hurting his feelings. Maybe he just sees the rings diffrently than me. Thanks for sharing that.
• United States
12 Jan 07
my wedding band to my husband - my wedding band to my wonderful husband
I do wear my wedding rings everyday. I stopped wearing my engagement ring after I scratched my eye really bad at night. I woke up and couldnt open my eye. I also had many nights where I would wake up with cuts along my face and my body from the diamond setting. I decided that I wouldnt wear it anymore. I do occationally wear it but I do take it off at night. Now my wedding band I dont take off. We bought a beautiful set that has diamonds in the band.
12 Jan 07
SWEET RING!!! I like that one! I did scratch my oldest child’s face once with my engagement ring when she was an infant, so it got put in the jewelry box promptly and I haven't worn it in years. Those things should come with warnings, LOL.
• United States
12 Jan 07
In this case it can vary, it depends on your religious beliefs and or relationship with your husband. I recently got engaged and I wear it all day long and take it off before going to bed, I put it next to my watch so I wont forget to slip it on especially if I wake up late. Being married we are there for our spouse at all times. I see it like this if the hubby doesnt like the fact that your not wearing it what your suppose to do is try harder. Wear the ring for 3 weeks straight without taking it off, at the end you might notice that you forgot it was even there. Cherish your ring it was given to you because your husband thinks the world of you.
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12 Jan 07
Oh that is a precious way to look at it. Thank you for sharing that. I do love him with all my heart. I reckon because I know I love him so much, I just don't need the ring. Maybe he isn't seeing it that way. He never goes in detail why it bothers him so much, but maybe that is what he is thinking. Thanks for the reply.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I wear my wedding ring during the day and take it off at night. I presonally prefer not to wear any jewellery while sleeping, it's comfortable that way. My hubby on the other hand rarely removes his ring and when he does he forgets to put it on the next morning..hehe! It's been only a year and two months since we got married, in the beginning I was very particular that he wore it at all times and I did too. But now things have changed and I don't mind. But I want him to wear it every day though, which he does, only for me:)
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12 Jan 07
Oh that was sweet. We have known each other for 20 something years, been together 11 and married 9. I am like you, I don't wear any jewlery when sleeping. Not even ear rings. Strange, but it just drives me nuts to have it on.
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