Teenagers: Why are things so different from my teen years.

United States
January 12, 2007 6:27pm CST
Smoking pot was about as "bad" AS you could rebel when I was growing up. Now at the age of 15 my daughter has proven to me we were so easily entertained. My daughter has had 2 relationships {love}. Is now trying to quit smoking cigarettes and has an an accidental o.d. on drugs, the doctor didn't even look at it seriously. what can we do to turn the clock around and find happiness for our teens in everyday things. If they don't have an i-pod a computer a digital camers, cell phone and their own charge card they are made fun at. Does anyone have any ideas???
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@lilkim90 (133)
• Canada
13 Jan 07
I have no clue how to help you. I have one thing to say though. I am a teenager too. However I do not grow up that fast. Maybe that is why i still listen to my mom. I am not a perfect kid. I know. It is because whenever my mom goes she always took me with her. I am 16 years old .However, When i am with her, i feel like 5. Does that help you? I hope so.
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@korek222 (701)
• Poland
13 Jan 07
listening to your mum till 18 yr old is one of the smartest things you can do if you dont do it too often ;P
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I totally understand what you mean. I am 33 years old and growing up something simple as hide-n-seek, dodge ball or even finding old playboy books in our parents homes and laughing about it was as bout as over the edge as it got for me. You are so right, kids today are maturing, and into way more things then I was growing up. My mother use to say to me, come home before dark, now-a-day its "Mom Call me when its time for me to come in" I totally understand where you coming from. Even kids backtalking and being real sneaky. I really don't have any ideas as to how to control our kids, With my son, he's not scared of me, but i admit I will put the fear of god in his soul. He know's I don't play. That's the only thing i could suggest. He's 11years old, and out of his 11 years he has never back talked me, came out of line, or disrespected me. Good luck with your daughter...I know what you mean though
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@pinkeagle (202)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Truthfully, it is too late now to turn things around. The best you are going to be able to do is learn how to manage the situation, to cope. How? Well, you could start by making your daughter pay for all this stuff she just has to have. Not just what you mentioned but also things like clothes, car insurance, gasoline for the car, cd's and other things she currently takes for granted. I mean get a job and pay for it. The job market place will teach responsibility in a way that you can not. Your daughter might not believe you when you speak to her, but she is going to listen to her boss or get fired. She get's fired, no more goodies! Your daughter is starting to act like an adult, let her shoulder some of the responsibilities of one.