Since when does being mature equal being serious all the time?

United States
January 12, 2007 8:01pm CST
Someone I know just said the following: "I've always been accused of being too serious. I guess I got all my crazyness and wanting to do stupid crap out of me in junior high. I'm one of the few guys who reached full maturity in 9th grade haha. I've never had a girlfriend because I have nothing in common with all the girls my age, because all they want to do is party and get wasted. No thanks, I'm not into women that act like that." Now, maybe I'm in the minority here, but to me, being serious all the time does NOT equal maturity. I consider myself mature, but I'm not often serious at all. I take care of my responsibilities and do work and school, and I go and party and do slightly crazy stuff too, though not crazy to the point of regretting it for a long time. My outlook on life is very mature, but I think it's also mature to know when it's okay to be immature. That girlfriend part also just seems like an excuse for not having had a girlfriend. Even if most girls are or were like that at this age, there are exceptions to every rule, and I've had girlfriends (single right now though - the girl in my avatar is just a friend), and they were exceptions to the rule, but they also knew when to let loose, party and have a good time - and frankly, while I don't want a total party girl, I don't want a girl who's ALWAYS completely uptight and serious.
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@Wanderlaugh (1624)
• Australia
13 Jan 07
Cheeses are described as "mature", too. Like people, they go mouldy and sour if they don't lighten up and be cheeses. You don't have to be the life of the party, but being a tombstone isn't much use. I really couldn't count the number of people, men and women, whose social skills are zero, and just cannot mix. It's sometimes a fatal flaw, too. They don't mix, and nothing ever happens. Not a good excuse, is it? Nobody ever said "Don't have fun" and "being mature" had anything to do with each other. I think your friend might want to try just finding the things he enjoys, and someone else who does too.
• Netherlands
27 Feb 07
That is hilarious. Cheese and life.... The similarities are uncanny. Some stink and some are pretty nice....
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@coolcatzz (1588)
• Canada
13 Jan 07
I think you sound very mature which is definitely a good thing. It's ok to act silly and let loose once in awhile. I'm not talking about going overboard I'm just talking about good clean fun and some humor. Laughter is so important and for many of us we don't do enough of it. Live life to the fulliest and as long as you are happy that is all that matters. Mrs. Right will come along. You sound like a nice person so you'll do just fine.
• United States
13 Jan 07
i dont know im not serious enough to read pat the title of this sorry but you make a good point perhaps ill give you the benefit of the doubt. sorry i have to go my girlfried is yelling at me that im not taking her seriously.
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@perugu (5281)
• India
13 Jan 07
hi,its typical behaviour.whatever the behaviour may be ,that should not effect others negetively.so in your case o.k.all the best.
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13 Jan 07
I think having kids has kept me at an immature state sometimes. I love to have a good laugh and I can be quite sarcastic within the right circles. They say laughing keeps you young! I think people who are too mature are also quite anal. They do not tend to have much of a personality and will look at certain people as stupid. I think people who never let go usually have something to hide as they have to stay in control the whole time. I know when to be mature, take responsibilty and know when to make decisions, but working with kids I have a great time enjoying their comical behaviour and joining in. Long live a bit of immaturity. We all need a good laugh and to let go now and again!!
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
It's a part of your maturity to be serious,If you like a serious relationship to a girl,you can choose the one you like,You are serious because you think about your ambition to your life.because its a part of a growing environment.
• United States
13 Jan 07
Being mature SHOULD NOT have a direct correlation with being serious. There's a time for being serious, and there's a time for f*cking around. And you know the funnest times in my life have NEVER been during a serious moment. EVER. So all you "oh that's so immature" as*holes loosen up and get a life! haha.
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@koikoikoi (1247)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I agree with you. You do something immature once and you're labeled as immature. I feel that I never grew up. Not because I couldn't, but because I didn't want to. I felt like I wanted to be a little kid forever because I just like fooling around and clowning a lot. Although I'm not mature I do feel that in some points in a situation you must be mature and suck up the immatureness. Naw I'm kidding I'm immature 24/7. I'm just myself all the time. I'm not going to be or act like someone I'm not. I'm me and that's it, mature or not, you dig?
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@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Even though I can be pretty serious at times and I am a pretty mature women, (never liked to go out and get sloshed or party hard), I would not say I am boring or "fuddy duddy", Now some of the people I know think I am because I don't like getting sloshed (these are people in their mid 30s), but being 27 does not mean I have to get my "oats out". I enjoy many things, but just on a reasonible scale. I would say I am rather goofy,I like to make people laugh and I never have a problem making friends or just making small talk. I just don't like the way a lot of people act these days.
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@emisle (3824)
• Ireland
13 Jan 07
I agree with you. I myself am very mature compared to those around me, but I'm not a serious person. I'm the one who pokes fun at everything and doesn't let things get me down. And your friend does indeed seem to be making pure excuses. Not EVERY single girl his age is just going to want to go out and get wasted, that's an extremely lame excuse by any standards.
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@Celanith (2334)
• United States
13 Jan 07
your sensible and I think you have learned to acheive a good sense of right and wrong and have balance in your life.
• United States
13 Jan 07
Maturity is knowing when to be serious and when to joke it is also knowing what kind of jokes are appropriate and with whom .I mean to me I know a person thats brother in law would make threesome jokes about her and his wife to me those jokes are sick and should not be told and he was not mature to say them that are really sick one . Telling jokes at a funral would also be a sign .Like I said maturity is knowing how to act where you are when the right time to joke is the right kind of jokes to tell and when not to joke .
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• United States
14 Jan 07
We could be best friend, you know that. Being mature doesn't not mean you can't have fun. Also those you deem these attitudes are usually hypocrites.
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@kataztrophy (1839)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I think that one is mature if they know when to buckle down and be serious in a important time. If you are serious all the time, it only means that you are a uptight person.
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@cblackink (969)
• United States
14 Jan 07
We all have to deal with the grown-up stuff, and that's just part of life, and yes, it's important. But don't ever let anyone tell you that you have to kill that little kid part of you off. That's the part of you that dreams big dreams. And we all need to let our hair down sometimes.
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@wmg2006 (5386)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Maturity has many different meaning for many different people. What on person considers mature another may consider stuffy. Doing silly stuff responsibily is still being mature. Doing irresponsible crazy haphazard stuff is immature. Maturity means acting responsibly; it means learning from your mistakes and trying not to make the same ones over and over; it means seeing life in the broader context; it means relying more on your own resources to resolve problems and challenges that come up in your everyday life; and it means sacrificing play when there is work to be done. Actually, maturity is kind of dull but there are times when it can go a long way.
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@Smith2028 (797)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Good point. I have been accused of being a 40 year old stuck in a 25 year old body, but I also know when to have a good time too. I'd say true maturity is knowing how to balance these things.
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• United States
14 Jan 07
I agree with you. Being mature does not mean being serious all the time. We all need to cut lose and have fun! I consider myself to be a mature person but I love to laugh and have a good time. Life is too short, we need to enjoy it. There is nothing immature about that.
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• India
13 Jan 07
mature and serious goes together..i dont think tat this statement is correct to all extent..its not necessary to be matured to become serious n its never necesarry to give serious look to tell people that u r a matured person...
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@shywolf (4522)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I know very few people who are serious _all_the time *laugh* Complete and utter seroiusness would make for a very boring world, would it not? *laugh* I am by nature a logically brained person who isn't jokey and witty in that sense, but I also would not consider myself 100% serious. I have just always been more on the serious side, even though one of my great loves in life is comedy. Go figure *laugh* I love to laugh and enjoy life. Anyway, being serious all the time is definitely not what equals 'maturity'.
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