Will I ever get over the death of my dog?

@telzzz (66)
Spain
January 13, 2007 10:21am CST
I know its a sad thing to discuss, but they say writing about something that has caused great sadness helps with the healing process. My beautiful little girl, a German Shepherd who spent her life with me since she was a puppy died a few months ago aged 11. I know that's actually quite an advanced age for the breed - 8 or 9 is common. She died peacefully in her sleep one night, of which I am thankful, as she didn't suffer any pain. The few weeks leading up that, her mobility was not good, the strength in her hind legs was almost gone and knew this would be inevitable. The vets couldn't do much for her other than an expensive hip replacement operation, but there was no way I could have afforded that. Even with the op, her life expecancy would not have been much longer, maybe another year. So all I could do was make things as comfortable as I could for her. When she died, I was inconsolable for weeks afterwards. Even though I live with my partner and her two little yorkies, they can't make up for the loss I still feel. So how do you get over something like this? I loved her more than anything.
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@Terra11 (82)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Try taking something of hers that reminds you of her and plant something in your yard or potted plant, put the item in the dirt near the seed or roots, in honor of the dog, it will remind you of her but will be a life form that you can see and watch it grow :-)
@shywolf (4520)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I just wanted to add my sympathy. I really don't know how one can get over such a loss other than just with time. I really feel for you. I have lost a beloved pet in my time and it was a painful experience. I just know that time heals almost all wounds.. so just please hang in there and try to smile ^_^
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@tammyr (5955)
• Etowah, Tennessee
13 Jan 07
I am so sorry for your loss. You will be able to handle it some day. It is just like losing a child, parent,spouse, or anyone close to you. It will take time to heal. I know I still think of past pets that I have lost but I enjoy the good memories they gave to me that gives me more joy than the pain and I like to think of those good things when ever I start to feel the lonley feelings. Good thoughts will come more often as you heal.
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• Romania
13 Jan 07
i understand what you are passing thrue.All i can say isthat is good that he die in sleep and she didn't suffer.Last year i lost my dog to, but she suffer real bad for 3 months', and we try everything that we can to help him but nothing. I'm really sorry for youre lost, i know that a dog is special.I a dog wich have 11 years to and i don't know what will i do without him.I grow up with this dog and he is licke my brother to me.I hope that you will pass over this.I know you won't forget him never.When my dog die last year somebody told me to buy another one, not to replace him just to see that i will fill better.And i did that verry hard but i did...and now i fill much better.He is a good dog, i'm verry powd of him and i'm glad that i did that.When he die i say to myself that i will never have another dog...but now i realize that this dog help me verry much.I love him and the one which have 11 years.They macke me so happy.So..
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@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I am so very sorry for your loss...i absolutely adore all animals, and have had and lost many in my life..i think it's something you never really get over, you just have to get to the point that you can go on with fond memories..i've never gotten over the sadness of losing any of my beloved animals, i still miss them dearly. Right now i have a cat that will be 13 in a couple of months, and thankfully he is very healthy, and i know he's happy cause i spoil him rotten. And that's just the way i like it...he makes me so happy, and he makes coming home every day a joy. He makes me laugh, he shows me love, and i just don't know what i'll do when he's gone...there will never be another dog that will take the place of this one, but i'm sure you'll feel better in time..let it get there by itself...mourning is nothing to be ashamed of...i know she was well loved, i'm sure she knew it too..
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@rosie_123 (6118)
13 Jan 07
I am so sorry for your loss. People who don't keep animals don't realy understand - but a pet is part of the family, and their loss is just as great for us than any other bereavement. I keep cats and over the years have obviously lost some of them through age and illness. In my opinion, you never totally get over it - you will always remember that pet and they will have a place in your heart - but after a while you will just remember the good things and how much love and joy they bought you. My baby cat Caspar was killed in a road traffic accident on 5th December last year, and I still cry every day for him - even though I have my partner and 5 other cats to keep me company. I feel bitter that the poor little soul was only 18 months old - he had not lived his life - it was cut short so cruelly. But in time I know the pain will recede a little though I will never forget him. Your beautiful dog loved you and would not want you to be sad. Take care.
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• Nigeria
13 Jan 07
I also share the same response i am sorry for the loss.
@budsr03 (2354)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
I too am sorry for the loss of your family member. Easy to say , but true is give it time. Somewhere out there a wonderful pet deserves you. Take care Telzzz.
• United States
13 Jan 07
That can be very hard. I don't thinkyou'll ever get over it I think time just makes it easier for you. It is like lossing someone very close to you. Time smooths it, but it never heals.
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• United States
14 Jan 07
True,you don't ever fully get over it,it gets easier over time to accept the loss.Sorry for the loss of your pet
• United States
14 Jan 07
You'll get over it...it's one of those things that takes time I suppose. replacing her will probably not make anything better, but just focus on being good towards the other living things around you, using her as a catalyst for positivity. Take care.
@horsesrule (1960)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I am still recovering from the loss of my beloved dogs and it is so hard. I am afraid that I have not handled their loss well. I have hidden away from the world and it has caused me so many problems. I have cried all the time. I have been so sad that I have thought that I could not go on another day without my babies. I put on weight, a LOT of weight, now I am diabetic, have high blood pressure, high cholesterol and a whole bunch of other stupid stuff. I had two Pomeranians, yes, I know, sissy dogs but wow, I loved those two dogs. They were both female and they were half sisters, they had the same father. They were six months apart in age. The one, my little red one, her name was Puff and she weighed about 7 pounds. She was a little piggy and she loved her food so she was a bit chubby. The other dog, my little black and tan, her name was Talitha. She was skinny, only weighed like 5 pounds, if that, but she had so much fur that you couldn't tell how skinny she was until you picked her up. I picked her up a lot, she wanted to be with me all the time and I usually carried her around with me from room to room. A sort of friend asked me if Talitha even had legs because she had never seen her walk! I thought that was funny. I had both dogs from the time they were tiny puppies, about 7 to 8 weeks old. They were such little tiny things then, only about 2 pounds, so fuzzy, so sweet. They were both very much one person dogs and I was their one person. How does a person handle that kind of loss? It's awful and there are so many people who don't get it. Horrible, awful people say things like, it was just a dog, you can get another one, and totally mean stuff like that. The way I see it, they have never really loved anyone, either animal or human so they don't really understand the very real pain of loss. Even though I am not handling the loss of my girls well, each day is a tiny bit less depressing. A tiny bit less grim. There are days that I can even go without crying when I think about Puff and Talitha, not all the time, true, but sometimes. I am in counseling now, not only because of the loss of my babies but they are a big part of it. The world is so full of mean people and people that are just too busy to pay any attention to each other that how can losing such pure love be easy? Well it can't be easy and it shouldn't be easy. If it was easy, it would mean that your pet wasn't as important to you as it so obviously was. I too loved my dogs more than anything and maybe someday I can have a special relationship with another dog but that is very far into the future, years away from now, if ever. But I would not have missed having Puff and Talitha for anything in the world. Even with all the pain I feel because they left me, I wouldn't trade one minute of Talitha's 14 years with me or Puff's 15 years with me for anything at all. The memories are just too precious. I am glad that I took some pictures of them through the years because I can look at them and cry and remember how much I loved them. I really miss my babies but like I said, each day gets a tiny bit less depressing so I am just hanging in there and hoping to be able to remember the good times and silly personality quirks of my girls. I have found since joining mylot and writing about my dogs that I am remembering more of the good times instead of the pain I feel from their loss. They were both so wonderful and I miss them so much.
@telzzz (66)
• Spain
15 Jan 07
Thank you so much for your kind words, they really struck home. The responses from other people have been coming in so fast to this I am really overwhelmed that there are so many caring people here. I have read each and every one and some made me sad, some (like yours) made me cry, some gave me hope that there is life after Chelsea, my little girl. There were one or two from people who probably don't have such a close relationship with their dog as I could guess from their curt responses, but everyone is different. If we were all the same life would be boring, I suppose. Its not for me to judge others. I am thankful that I have my girlfriend's two yorkies to keep me company and they were at the time and still are now, a great help to me. Ronnie is curled up asleep on my lap as I type this and Daisy is asleep on the sofa next to me. Of course you will miss Puff and Talitha real bad for a long time, that's only natural, just like I miss my Chelsea. As time goes by I'm sure you will be able to let another wonderful dog into your life, there are so many out there who have no homes and it makes me so sad to see so many in rescue centres all needing a good home and the love of a good owner. Take care. A house REALLY is not a home without a dog.
• India
14 Jan 07
DONT EVER GET DOWN UR HEART JUST BECAUSE U HAV LOST UR DEAR COMPANIAN...........BUT INDEED DO SOM WORK TO COMMOMERATE HIS MEMORY LIKE DONATIN TO ANIMAL ORGS.SAVIN DOGS ONM STREET..ETC....BUT DO NOT SIT AND JUST WEEP.UR DOG HAD A PLACE RESERVED IN HEAVEN AND HE/SHE IS WATHCIN U.SO GET UP ON UR FEET AND START WORKIN..........GOOD LUCK/............AND I FEEL SORRY TOO.CAUSE I HAV TOO LOST MY DEAR COMPANIAN WHO WAS WITH ME FRM 12 YRS......
@telzzz (66)
• Spain
14 Jan 07
I'd like to take this opportunity to thank everyone who has responded so thoughtfully to my discussion. I know its against the rules to thank every one in turn, so I thought I'd do it now that the responses have slowed down a bit. I'll always remember Chelsea as long as I live as she'll always have a special place in my heart. One day I will get another dog and although he or she will never replace her, having a dog is as much a part of my life as anything else . Someone once told me "A house is not a home without a dog." how right they were. Thank you all.
@tapeshnlu (350)
• India
14 Jan 07
its hard to forget any thing that u have had for for a long time but its always a next chance that life gives you getting another dog could help
• Bulgaria
14 Jan 07
It's difficult to get it over. But talkink with friends and family may make you feel better. And as Tapeshnlu said another dog will be good.
• United States
14 Jan 07
Sorry for your loss. It takes time to heal your broken heart.
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
14 Jan 07
What about getting another German Shepherd?
@innechen (1321)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 07
i'm so sorry for your loss.its never been easy to forget something or someone we spent our lives with and we care so much.my advice is dont try to forget her because i'm sure she doesnt want you to, but dont put ur selfs down too becoz she must not want that too.you have gien her a beautiful life and love and thats the important thing and what make her sleep in peace and happiness in heaven. and it'll be better if you pass the love u have for her to a new dog around you so at least you'll still feel her around you a bit :)
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
it's a sad thing, for sure you'll miss him. but of course you'll get over this, consider getting another pet, it may not be the same pet you have before but atleast it will help you forget your german shepherd. im also a dog lover,
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
yup. Buy another dog and love her as much as you did the last one.
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
14 Jan 07
Having a dog in your family for that long is like having a familymember who now has passed. U will get over it, or learn to live with it, but she will always stay and have a special place in your heart. I am sure you have alot of great memories of her and that u will cherish them even more now. be glad for the time you got with her , and be glad that she had a special life, agood life with you and your family...
• Romania
14 Jan 07
first of all, I just wanna say sorry for your loss. I am a animal lover and I think I understand what you feel. I have a dog myself, he's still alive, but I think I would be devastated myself if something would happen to him. My only advice to you would be to try to get a new dog. I am very sure it will not replace what your previous dog meant to you, but it will take your mind away from the pain. You'll have a new companion to take care of and plus you'll do good thing by adopting a dog. Maybe try one of those vet clinics that try to save the animals if you have something like that in Spain. :) Good luck!
@yorb24 (2181)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I'm really sorry for your loss. I know it can be quite painful. The only advice I can offer you is to join some pet loss support groups online. There's alot of messageboards out there. It always feels a little bit better when people know and feel exactly what you are going through and yes writing will help alot. As long as you can express yourself, it will make things a tad better but remember life here is only temporary. You'll get to see her on the other side when it's your time and just think now, she must be running and playing and is able to use her hind legs in heaven without any problems :)!
@hattipunk (434)
• Nepal
14 Jan 07
wel its jus a dog n u dont know that why r u getting so badly abou a dog...