Why do i LOVE her? Am i a FOOL?

@abhax123 (1695)
India
January 13, 2007 10:49am CST
Hi, i was in class 11th when i met this girl and fell in love with her even before i could know her name. Proposed to her when i was in class 12th. But she said only casual friendship(meaning no)... But still i loved her more then ever,then when i went to kollege out of no where i saw here one day and again the Cupid was taking aim. Somehow i managed to talk to her got her Number but after one month she changed her number and never gave me the new one and never met me again... Its been 5 years im in love with her, but she has a BOyfriend and i know she love her and he too... But even when i know she cant be mine WHY DOES I LOVE HER? i still think abt her everyday i love her but now i wanna move on but cant do as i think for her too much... What should i do?
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@jaizdeep (397)
• India
13 Jan 07
Well the best suggestion i have for u is that move on in life mate because i dont find any sense or practicality in u waiting for that girl when u know she loves someone else and u dont even have contact with her then why do u wanna waste your life for her if even she ;loved u she might have never done what she did with u.... I am also in a relationship but the girl loves me too a relationship cannot continue one sided man give it up look for more people around u u might find someone even bettter
@abhax123 (1695)
• India
13 Jan 07
Dude problem with me is that i have loads of friends which are gal but none with whom i would like to share my life with the one whom i like either have boy friends or they dun like me... But i try to forget her but when ever i see her even for a second The cupid is there to shoot at my heart point blank range....
@jaizdeep (397)
• India
13 Jan 07
hmmm i know that dude but i guess when u imagine her being married i think the cupid will not strike find someone this world is full of good girls if u get what u want its good but if u dont its better as god might have something else in store for u
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• United States
15 Jan 07
It's like a high school sweetheart. You'll always have a special place in your heart for her, but, it's not healthy for yourself to be obsessed with her. Keep your mind and heart open to meeting a woman who'll truly return the love you give. Many times it's what we can't have, that makes us want it more. On a good note, glad you didn't get engaged/marry young, trust me, been there done that huge mistake. At least I learned from that and moved on. Time will heal if you let it. Try not to love someone so much where she won't ever return that love for you, she doesn't deserve this amount of love that you have. You can move forward, it happens and is never impossible, you just need to let it go and realize there is a woman out there that will return the love you have.
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
19 Jan 07
Thank you so much its not that i dun meet other gals because of her i have loads of friends that are girls its just that im not able to get over her. I also loved another gal but she moved away from where she used to live. Anyways i know i cant forget her wheather she likes me or not wheather she talks to me or not wheather she remember my name or not i know i will love her forever... But i have started a new relation hope it goes well...
13 Jan 07
You're not in love with her. Sorry to be blunt, but you don't, you can't, and you NEVER DID. What you're feeling is just a childish crush -- whether you believe it or not. And the fact that you barely know her means that you're only thinking about how aesthetically pleasing she is -- it's shallow. And she obviously doesn't like you. She probably thinks you're some crazy stalker who wants to marry her. Get over it.
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
14 Jan 07
Hey i know her really good we studied togather for 2 years after that our kollege changed... but anyway i think i will try to forget her wont think abt her so much....
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
you know..it is time for you to give up on what you feel.i also have a friend who is in the same situation you are in right now.and i gave him the same advice,and that is to look for another.there are millions of other girls out there.there might be even someone who loves you yet you just ignore her becaused you focused yourself more on that girl you liked.so try looking for another girl to love,if you cannot give her the kind of love you are willing to give to that girl you liked,well its better than waiting forever for nothing.or if you really can't find anyone,then just focus yourself on your studies..get yourself busy with extracurricular activities.and hang out more often with your friends.surely you'll find someone that's right for you.good luck!
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
14 Jan 07
I dun know na there are millions of gals out there but cant get over her would try to forget her its hard but i have to do coz it can destroy my love life with someone else.... but the more i try to forget her the more i remember...
@korek222 (701)
• Poland
13 Jan 07
Dude, honestly your situation is terrible - you are in love for few years in girl who dont really wants from you anything more. In my opinion you have to options : 1. Maybe, but i say BIG MAYBE, in the future with you loving her so much you will meet her once again and as in the romantic movie you will be together and will live happily ever after - this is seriously almost impossible 2. You can forget about her - pretend that she never even existed and try to live without her in your heart and make yourself a decent living. It will be hard on the beginning (but isnt it hard to see her with other men?) but day after day you will find yourself cured from this poisonous love. And in future you will find a girl you will love and maybe she will love you - this scenerio is much better for you, her and your future love as much as all your friends around who probably hates the situation that you love that girl and cant get it over. Well - i hope it helped you :)
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
14 Jan 07
I will try Thank you....
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
what you're feeling for her is not love, it may be admiration, infatuation, or even obsession but definitely not love because you cannot love a person you barely even know. you should forget about what you're feeling for her and give yourself a chance to meet other people and be involved in relationships where you will you find your true love.it may be hard to forget at first but you can try to engage yourself in other activities that will divert your attention and makes you forget about the feelings that you have like sports,going out with your guy friends or other things that interest you. Slowly, you will realize that the feelings you have for her will lessen until the time comes that you will just look back and laugh about what you're experiencing right now.
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
15 Jan 07
I know her very well but ya i know i have taken it too far
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
Focus your mind on other things.... make yourself busy.... sooner you will forget her for sure.. Try to look around... you can find that will truly love you... Theres so many fish in the ocean dont depend on just one.. Dont loose hope! Good Luck
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@agusfebi (813)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 07
was in love was a beautiful word and a gift the lord, whether that in the metter that whatever, I knew the love was living accessories of humankind, because , without loving us could not do or do what's. then we must study knew whether the meaning was in love actual. because of the love and loved that was different.
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• Indonesia
14 Jan 07
I have a friend that ever felt like that. Actually my friend is a boy too. He have been in love with the girl that never love her. But he was so stubborn although so many of his friend include me giving advice to him to forget that girl. But he always on his mind and on his love. I really2 admie his strong will.But the true ise, that girl have aleady have someone on her heart and she love him very much. So, the love that my friend have just a obsession, cause he have already know the truth. Finally he realize when he know that the girl have pregnant and get married. I was sorry for him, but thank god finally he realize and he can move on and take something from it. The true is..you must know whether that you holding it inside is love or just an obsession? If you love her...you must let her go to find her happiness. I'm sure there's somebody outthere that better from her and love you truly. Believe me, my friend that I've told you..have already find his true love:)They going to married this year Believe me, you can do it!Open your heart to the rest of the world and the world will give you the correct answer:)
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@anabaik (206)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 07
do not be stupid. you get nothing if you still do this. just forget about her and find new girl. if you do not stop, you will be crazy.
13 Jan 07
I love the way you put this so bluntly. Harsh, but true -- he is being stupid -- you can't be in LOVE with someone you don't know! And it will drive him to insanity, so you've actually managed to capture the truth in such a small bit of writing.
@vyaasrad (565)
• India
13 Jan 07
yes you are ,how can you love a girl for five years that too onesided
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
13 Jan 07
Thats the main thing it even beats mee
@ahsan15 (334)
• India
13 Jan 07
it's just an infatuation....just go ahead and find someone else....
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
13 Jan 07
im trying but aint able to take the next step the gal also know i like her and she also she's just waiting for me to say so
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
i had this attraction from 3rd grade to 1st year college. imagine that! but i think that's what they call puppy love
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@raj_5oct (18)
• India
14 Jan 07
One can never forget their first love and that's what the same problem for each and everyone..... all the girls r not same... and no boys can read any girl's heart... just try to forget her,...
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@inter14 (73)
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
well i dont think falling inlove is a fall. It is normal to fall in love and dont treat yourself so down. Just be yourself. Also if she dont like you then dont force youself. Just go on with your life and move on.
• India
14 Jan 07
I think you should move on!! Forget her. If she liked you ,she would have given her new number to you. But there is no place for you in her heart.And thats the bitter truth!!
@starpawan (176)
• India
15 Jan 07
see my dear friend it is the case similar to me. i also love one since 9th class and now it is 6 yrs yet i have not told her and even i dont know that she is having a boyfriend or not. But i still love her. If Your girl friend loves some one else and he is good man than you must talk o her and leave her if she is happy. Best of Luck my dear.
• India
14 Jan 07
i myself have had that kind of an experience a bit harsher though...neways am not going into details....but after 6 yrs...i got some one who replaced her...or may be will replace as i havenot proposed to her yet....so try to find out someone who can replace her
• India
14 Jan 07
this is common to every one...try to find any other gal who will support u at any part of time.. juz speak to her all the likes and dislikes...as the time goes... u'll slowly forget the past love...
@raveena (1353)
• India
14 Jan 07
Forget her. There are lot of girls around and you are still young.