Question for Indians? Do you support dowery system in India?
14 Jan 07
I dont support dowry system at all! and i feel very frustrated not to be able to do something about people who demand dowry! i wish i were in police - then i would put an end to any dowry system in my area! i am married and i didnt take any dowry at all. and i am not proud to say so! i am just sad that so many people beat their chests and say proudly that they haven't taken any dowry! what is there to be proud about not taking something that you shouldnt have anyway? we cant deny that some parents may like to gift their daughters something on their wedding, or maybe send her favourite dress, cup, doll with her to her new home - that is not dowry. dowry is cash or kind given as part of contract of marriage! or something which is demanded by the boys family. anywhere where demand comes, it becomes dowry. and it is hateful because it raises expectations, and if not fulfilled, it targets all dissatisfaction on the poor girl! the girl is already in a lot of stress by going to a new house, having to live with new people, learning their new ways of living, getting used to a new family and relatives, leaving behind all her friends, all her relatives and her family! and to add to her misery, we put her into a lot more stress by making her feel responsible for something which she didnot bring... which she shouldnt have brought anyway! why should she? she is already giving you herself, sacrificing all that were near and dear to her. why should she pay for her sacrifice? no, i strongly oppose dowry, period.
15 Jan 07
i wish there were more responses though - it would have meant people out there do care about his despicable practice! but on the other hand it may mean that dowry is now no longer important with the newer generation, not worth even discussing - and that is a good sign!!