Show me your payslip?

@manong05 (5027)
Philippines
January 14, 2007 5:32am CST
Is it really necessary for a spouse to check the payslip? Some working spouses find it a normal thing to do and the wives keep the record just in case there is a need for it in the future. But it seems, at least in my circle of friends, that it is not a common practice anymore. Do you ask your spouse for a payslip?
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@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
14 Jan 07
My husband has a full time job outside of the home. I manage the checkbook and pay the bills. SO I need to know exactly how much he makes, so I know exactly what we have in order to pay the bills. I don't need to ask him for a payslip, though. He gets one sent in the mail, and I also share a bank account with him, where he gets his check direct-deposited into the account. If he felt the need to hide some money from me, and we did not have enough money to pay for all of our bills, I would be furious.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
I agree. You have a reason to be. You are troubled on how to make ends meet then you discovered that your husband is hiding some money is reason enough to be furious.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
14 Jan 07
I believe between a husband and a wife everything should be up front and open, and worked on together.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
I believe so too. It's just that some friends of mine say that they are not comfortable when their wives are asking them to show the payslips. The implication is they suspect them to be hiding money.
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@koltrone (264)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Yes I do ask but it does not really mean I need to see how much he is making literally. It is important for us to know how much money coming in so we know how much we put on this and that and wont over spend and make sure we have some to pull out incase of emergencies *knock on wood*
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
That's understandable. I don't really understand why some men take this negatively as if you are suspicious or something.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
It would be a breach of trust to feel it would be necessary to show your spouse a pay stub. However, it is prudent to keep records for other reasons. Besides, if you both don't know what the other makes, you have other problems that need to be resolved.
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• Indonesia
15 Jan 07
of course, i'll ask a payslip to my spouse. It helps me control and organizing the financial flow on our family, but still the decision have to be made by both of us, me and my spouse.
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
I actually don't ask for my husband's payslip. Although I know how much he is earning. I don't want to impose to him that I have to see his payslip. I actually trust him and I really don't mind even if he is not showing it to me.
• Canada
5 Jul 07
We don't show our payslips to eachother, per se, but if the other person asks, we're always honest. We know aproximately what the other person brings in along with what we make ourselves, and from there we decide what we are able to contribute to the household, and we agree on that.
@soccermom (3198)
• United States
28 Feb 07
My hubby and I both do direct deposit with our checks, and to be honest we never really look at each others paystubs. We pay bills together, if one of us spends something we just write it in the checkbook and that's it. It's a team effort and we trust each other so I guess there's never really been the need.