It is common in the US for the woman to take the man's last name in marraige.

@estherlou (5026)
United States
January 14, 2007 10:11am CST
In California, a man wanted to take his wife's last name and is running into lots of red tape and court fees. It seems that most states have no easy option if a man wants to take the wife's name when they marry, but some are calling this gender discrimination. What kind of custom do you have in your country? Which do you think is better? Does it matter? http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2007-01-11-man-sues-name-change_x.htm?csp=1
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
14 Jan 07
marriage - the union of two people. not sure why is should be any different for the man to assume the last name of his wife than the woman taking the last name of her husband.
Yes, in America we normally take our man's name upon marriage. Often works out well since I like my married name a bit better than my maiden name. It can be done, though it is a legal procedure for the man to assume the lady's last name. Women have slowly gotten rights in this country and there are still some things that need to change. It should be easy to take anothers name either way!! Interesting discussion you have chosen here! Thanks!!
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@mikaghi (389)
• United States
15 Jan 07
i have decided to kep my maiden name after wedding..i don't think it is necesary to change ur name after marriage.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Well, as far as I know taking the man's name is the common practice although some couples are now using both last names after tying the marital knot. Personally, I think the decision about what their last name is going to be, should be left up to the couple.
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@suedarr (2382)
• Canada
15 Jan 07
I'm in Canada and ou culture is very similar to the USA. So yes, it is common here for women to adopt their husband's surnames. In my opinion I'm a live and let live type so whichever the couple prefers should be their decision. Cheers!
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@suscan (1959)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I don't see why it has to be the husband's name, if the husband wants to take the wife's name, that should not be a problem.
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@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
14 Jan 07
That is really odd. I would think it would be a simple name change. I know two married couples that did this, one in North Carolina and one in Louisiana, and they did not run into any issue. I also know a couple that both changed their last names to something they agreed on.
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@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I never heard of that before. That is interesting. I don't see why not though. Women take their husbands' last names all the time, the other way around is fine too.
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@estherlou (5026)
• United States
19 Jan 07
All of the comments reminded me of a woman I worked with years ago. She had lost her father right before she was to get married. She decided to keep her maiden name so as not to stop the family "line" because she was the last child of that name. Don't remember if I knew what she had to do legally, but her husband didn't mind.
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I don't know why they would have a problem with him taking on his wives surname; in California of all places. I thought it was a more liberal place. (no offence at all, just thought they would be more understanding than some other states) Here in Texas you can do that, I had a fried who did it because of a reason already posted; she was the last of her line and wanted to carry the family name on. I think it is honorable to do so.
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@sherinek (3323)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Same thing we do here. When I got married to one in a different race, I wanted to keep my name plus I took his name. So now I have two last names. This is becoming common, as I can see now. But I have never come across a person who too his wife's name.
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• United States
21 Jan 07
I dont see why they would call it gender discrimination. I mean exactly who is it supposed to be discriminating? of course here in america and everywhere I've ever heard of the tradition and most common thing has also been for the wife to take the husbands name. ive neaver heard of anything different happening but I dont see why it shouldnt. If someone wants to change their name they should be allowed to its their choice.
@sandie61 (2359)
• United States
19 Jan 07
here in the USA we usually take our husbands last name. I`m fine with that. my husbands last name is only 5 letters long and my maiden name was 10 letters long.