What if you partner.................

@zburrou1 (290)
United States
January 14, 2007 2:26pm CST
What if your partner was not making you happy for any reason would you: 1. cheat on them with someone else 2. leave them and find someone else 3. talk to them about it and tell them that they need to make changes 4. do nothing and be unhappy and why?
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19 responses
• United States
14 Jan 07
I would definitely have a talk with them about the situation. In some cases, they don't realize what they are doing so they have no way to change it unless they know what's going on. I think cheating would just make the situation worse, and so would doing nothing. Communication is the way to any healthy relationship.
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@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Okay but a friend of mine has tried talking to her boyfriend for the past 5 years. He says that he hears her but doesn't change anyhthing. She tells him that he is hurting her and he pretends like he don't here her. She says that everyone else in his life is more important to him then her. I told her that if he does not care then she should not care. Do you still think that she should keep talking. When her man cheats, lies, and sleeps with other women?
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@tambdy (1969)
14 Jan 07
It sounds as if he is not wanting to change and that he is giving up and thinks because nothing has changed he does not need to do anything. I think your friend should give him an ultimatim and if he does not change then she should leave him and find someone else who is going to treat her with respect that she deserves.
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@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I have tryed taking to her and so have other people but she just won't listen. I told her that she is worth more, and deserves better then him. I don't know what to tell someone that does not want to listen.
@tambdy (1969)
14 Jan 07
I would need to talk to them, i have been going through this for a while now. One way or another my partner has not been making me happy. I have sat down and spoken to her and it is making us get on much better. There is no point in cheating on someone which you love as if you cheat it must mean that they are not good enough for you, i also dont think that you can really leave them without speaking because if you love them you need to try and make it work or it was a waste of time starting the relationship in the first place. There is also no point in doing nothing if you do nothing it will always be the same and you will never be happy let them know what you think and then try and change it.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
15 Jan 07
But if you talked and nothing happened, then what would you do? Would you just keep talking until you were blue in the face? I know that you should talk to your partner but some people just will not listen. If the talking does not work what else do you do?
@crosa125 (1484)
25 Jan 07
can i think about it first?
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Yeah go ahead. Just get back to me when you know.
@Hitomi (28)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
I will talk to them first, it will help letting him know how you really felt, I will tell him everything that makes me unhappy and if it fails or nothing change then I will let him feel how unhappy I am.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
thank you for your response.
@glummy (194)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
Choose number 3. Communicate with your partner to make some changes. If it won't be enough, just be patient and give him/her ample of time. If still it won't work, try to break things off.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
@drmt57 (295)
• United States
17 Jan 07
No! I would not cheat , that is not the answer, it will only make things worse.I would talk to them because they might think that you are happy,If you don't talk to them and let them know what it is about them or what they are doing to cause you to be unhappy, they will never know. After you have talked and you continue to be unhappy, then I think you should close or end that relationship, before you get involved with someone else, because what goes around comes around.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
@vinaykant (814)
• India
15 Jan 07
in this situation i will talk to her and try to find out actual problem and if there is any problem with her then i will help her toovercome andif there is the problem of overexpactation from my side then i have to improve my self.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
thank you for your response.
• Canada
15 Jan 07
First we'd discuss it and see what we could do about it, seek the proper help if we thought it was necessary, and then I'd leave, if there were no improvements. I'm not going to cheat or be unhappy, I'm going to face the issue head on. It's happened, and we've discussed it. We were able to fix it.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
@andaismu (70)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 07
In this case I will call her and talk to her what is really going on lately... with this I know what is really happen to her and perhaps all because of me that makes her do something were not making me happy , so both of us can make bright future for the next level maybe... I will try to talk at least three times but not in the same period... waiting for the right moment so we can talk smoothly...after that if the result doesnt find and she's never change so what am I doing here?? it means she is not good for me ....so I leave her
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
• India
15 Jan 07
option 1,2,3,4.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
@hmike_d (1529)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
having a partner means to have mutual understanding. Then, all issues between you must be transparent. It is more likely to choose your choice No. 3.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
@mishang (501)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
i would talk to them about it and tell them that they need to make changes. talking to your partner gives them a fair chance to defend themselves and is also a chance to see what's wrong and if the both of you can try to fix the relationship up.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
Well in this case.....If im not really happy with him....Il slowly let him feel that im not happy with him so that he can jsut read between the lines. Maybe later on we can just part ways. And maybe have a hear to heart talk about the matter. I think cheating is definitely a NO, NO....its never fun to hurt other people's feelings. I just have to do it right once and for all.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
Communication is the best thing to do. it can resolve all problems. if your not happy in your relationship talk to your partner and find a way to make your relationship happy again.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
thank you for your response.
• United States
14 Jan 07
1. I would talk to them and WE would work on OUR changes together. 2. Then if that didn't work, I would probably leave.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response. I will pass it on to my friend.
@xXmeganxX (4423)
14 Jan 07
if i was in that situation, i wouldn't leave him or cheat etc, id just have a chat with him and tell him i wasn't happy and he needs to change his ways becuase after if i chatted him, he could be very nice and not put me in that situation again.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
• India
14 Jan 07
in this case i would 1st try to understand the situation...and den talk to my partner abt the same...and will try to work something out so that v both can live happily..
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your response.
• United States
14 Jan 07
Communication is the key to a sucessful relationship wether married or any kind. Honesty is the best policy. If there is an area of concern it should be discussed. Allow each other to express there feelings, not just the person bringing the discussion to the table. Maybe there is more going on then your awqare. Talking resolves all. Cheating is never an option, never, ever.
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I agree with you. Cheating will only make the current problem worse. But everyone can not be honest with their partner. I believe that you should talk but talking does not work for everyone. Esspecially if your partner acts like a child all the time and never listens to or takes things seriously.
@tohot666 (300)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Well I would try to talk it out. if that did not work I would have to leave to be happy. I am very lucky to not have this problem
@zburrou1 (290)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I am happy to hear that you don't have that problem. I wish you long years with your partner.